5 Lessons from The Mystic and The Engineer
Recently, a very dear client of mine passed away suddenly. I was one of the family healers for him and his wife Peggy who passed last year. This is a bittersweet moment for me. Bitter because I miss them and sweet because they are now reunited in love on the other side.
I wrote this below for the family as they are putting together a memoirs journal. I wanted to share our story here because the lessons are eternal and inclusive. It can benefit everyone. Please have a read and even though you may not know them, please send a prayer of thanks for them to hear on the other side. I want them to know they are very much loved and cared for.
Dominick and I have some history that will forever be remembered fondly. I am so very grateful to have been part of his and Peggy’s life for so long and as much as I miss them both, I am so thankful and happy they are together again. Dancing in the stars ayyy Dom? Dancing in the stars.
I am happy to share my story with them and yes it is them for me, because they were interchangeable Dom and Peggy. I have my fondest memories of them both and to speak on one would be impossible. They were a team, soulmates and twin flames. They were inseparable. So here we go, here is my story of Dominick…and Peggy.
Dominick breezed into my life like a magician, full of whirlwind energy, questions, jokes and always debates. This is the story of the Mystic and the Engineer, both coming from different worlds but uniting in love of wisdom and healing.
I first met Dominick in 2014 when he brought his wife Peggy to me for massages. She liked it (yay) so I began what I would later discover, a journey of spiritual growth and emotional maturity for me with this couple. I started by seeing Peggy once a month to once every two weeks (by her request) and then to once a week. I started with massages but eventually moved into spiritual healing which she thoroughly enjoyed. For many years, I was her weekly healer and our visits were like a visit to the salon. Peggy would take every opportunity to “bash talk” Dominick and he would just smile and wait patiently in the waiting room for her. He never got cross or upset, he took it all in stride and his eyes….his eyes shown with love for Peggy. She could do no wrong by him and I was in awe of that.
That was my first lesson- a lesson about love. I learned from this amazing couple about the true nature of long term relationships. I learned you could love someone faults and all. I learned that love never dies when Peggy passed and Dominick still talked about her with a smile on his face as if she was still there. Truthfully, she was. She visited him every chance she could get and it proved to me that love truly never dies.
Dominick knew about the metaphysical side of life and he kept trying to convince Peggy about it. She wouldn’t have it! He would try to convince me to convince her and I would laugh. Have you met Peggy? That woman is strong willed like you Dominick! He would laugh at me and say, “But Uma if anyone could get her to see this side of life, it would be you. She loves you and listens to you.”
The funny thing is, Peggy did come around but not because of me. One day while I was doing her energy work, her Father (who is in Spirit) came into the room. He told me details that Peggy could verify and told her he was concerned about her strength and wanted her to use small dumbbells. Of course these messages shook Peggy up, she cried during the session and related it to Dominick. She then demanded to go to the store right now and buy dumbbells. She was a believer from there on out.
This was my second lesson- We don’t have to impose our will on someone else about the spiritual side of life. Leave it to God, He will make it known in a special and meaningful way.
After that session, Dominick wanted a reading with me. I was hesitant honestly because I knew his skepticism. I also knew his determination to get what he wants! So we planned the appointment. Immediately one of Dominick’s old friends came through, his friend Bill and talked about the old days and the bars they went to and where they worked. Oh Dom loved it! He cried in his session too but tears of joy! He said it felt like a visit with an old friend, he was grateful. The only thing he couldn’t verify was the red convertible that Bill kept showing me. He said I was mistaken, I said I wasn’t and there we entered into one of our weekly fights.
When he left, he received a call from Bill’s nephew- someone he did not speak to for many years and he thought, what a coincidence! He told the nephew about our visit and all the things I said. He ended by saying I only got one thing wrong- the red convertible. Bill’s nephew said, “Oh Uncle Dominick, you wouldn’t know about the red convertible, that was before he met you but man he loved that car!”
Dominick was shocked and astounded. He later wrote me an email and then apologized to me in person. He said, “Uma I always thought mediums were hocus pocus. I thought they were really psychics reading people’s minds and memories. What you and Bill did, has changed my mind. I understand now that we can communicate with the other side. Uma you are truly a medium.”
This was my third lesson-Spirit is intricate and intelligent. They will answer the call and do so with infinite wisdom. As a medium, I just have to trust and follow the messages.
After Peggy started improving under my care, Dominick decided to see me for sessions too. He would schedule two sessions a week with me, one for Peggy and one for him. His sessions were metaphysical in nature. He loved healing and readings, so we did those. Without fail, Dominick would debate me every time! He would question my technique, my logic and my knowledge. He would bring books for me to read and one time a photo of my eyes! It came to him in a meetup he went to with a medium who manifested these eyes on paper and he said this was Dominick’s spiritual guide. We both knew it was me and to this day I still have it in my office.
This was my fourth lesson- as much as I am the teacher, I am also the student. Dominick and I interchanged the student-teacher role many times and I can’t help but scowl a little because he finally won over this battle. He will now be the ultimate teacher from the other side as he got there before me. You won this round Dom!
When Peggy’s health started declining, I knew it was time for her to rest. There was one session, the last session that I knew I would see her. I got her comfortable on the table and went to lay hands on her for her weekly healing session and she gently moved my hands away. I sat there with tears in my eyes. We knew, it was time. So I talked to her for the rest of the session and at the end, I told Dominick that I would call him. We talked and I told him that I cannot see Peggy anymore, she is ready to move on. True to form, he at first argued with me and then accepted it. He asked me a difficult question, about the timing of her passing, I was hesitant to respond because I don’t do readings like this but all I could see in that moment was a frightened man who didn’t know for the first time, what his future held. So we talked about it, I told him to skip the idea of the adult nursing home, she would pass within the year and she did. Our twice a week sessions went down to one- just Dom and in this timeline I was able to see a range of emotions from him. Dom was always pleasant and a joker almost. But I could see behind the facade and one day, I called him out on it. He tried at first to lie to me but then he gave in and let out a whirlwind of expletives. I matched him. We cursed back and forth for thirty minutes and then we both broke out laughing until we cried. Dom was under a lot of pressure to do the right thing, to take care of Peggy and also to atone for past mistakes. He was in the belly of the beast now and with every deterioration of Peggy’s health, he came closer and closer to his truth.
After Peggy’s passing, we saw less of Dominick. He moved out of the area and began traveling and dating! This was his second wind, I was so so happy to see this for him. See for five years, I have only really seen him as the caretaker. Now I was able to see him as him- a man full of life, love and desire to learn and grow. He was unstoppable.
The last time I saw Dominick was this summer. He came to our tent at the Manassas First Fridays in Old Town and it was such a beautiful surprise. Rob and I hugged him and chatted with him for awhile. He was full of life and joy. That is the memory I will hold on to of him. It’s funny because after that day, Rob and I said to each other, “This is the last time we will see him. This is our goodbye.” At the time we thought it was because of his move to MD, we did not know it was to be his final goodbye.
This was my fifth lesson- you never know when it will be the last time you see someone, so make every moment count. I am glad that my last farewell with Dominick was true to our form- him laughing and having a good time (at my expense) and me working and doing what I love. It was a beautiful sunny day and Rob was eating an ice cream with Dominick. It couldn’t have been a more perfect day.
These people, Dominick and Peggy became more than clients to me. They were friends. They came to my house, to my personal parties and more. I knew about their children and grandchildren. I am so very thankful to the family for letting me know of Dom’s passing. Even though I have work, I am cancelling it so I can be there. Life is precious and death is an opportunity to celebrate someone one last time. I plan to celebrate the engineer, the nurse and all the lessons we learned together.