Summering is ON

I love lessons…they grow me and humble me at the same time.

Every summer I tend to take OFF from work and travel the whole time.¬†ūüóĹ‚õ©ūüóľ

I mean the whole darn time! 
School’s out? LET’S GO!¬†‚úą

Over the years as my center grew. The demand for my time grew as well.¬†‚Ź≥

When I would take off for Summer, it would get met with complaints and sometimes even suggestions that I was being selfish. ūü§Ē

SO…..I did what any caring and thoughtful person would do, I changed my summer schedule so instead of being gone 100% of the time, I was only gone 40%.ūüíöūüíôūüß°ūüíúūüíõ

I will admit, I was a bit sad about it because I love to travel (Sag Rising here) and with my kids safely tucked away at grandma’s house for the summer, I was ready to FLY.

But I wanted to honor the requests of my clients and really….I was also curious to see how business would be in the summer time.

Well guess what happened?

I’m here….ready to work AND
ūüöꬆNo clients
ūüöꬆNo students
ūüöꬆNo full classes

I am literally sitting here….twiddling my thumbs.¬†ūü§¨ūü§¨ūü§¨

What a wakeup call!

SO lesson learned!

Next summer I am OUTTA here again!

And this time, I will not allow myself to have the FEELs when clients and students express their disapproval. I will remind them of the summer of 2019 and leave it at that!¬†ūü§£

Now that Summer is halfway over, I have redirected my energy yet again. It pays to be flexible so you can roll with the punches!

I cancelled some of my classes, rescheduled some and cut my work load wayyyyyy down. I bought some summer reading books at Barnes and Noble and am now having a staycation instead!

I’m talking:

  • Daytime naps
  • Late night Netflix and Hulu binging
  • Hanging with my hunny in new areas around town
  • Catching up with friends through lunches and dinners
  • Lots of summer reading!

So I made a mistake, big whoop. It happens. The most important thing is to evaluate, analyze and redirect as quickly as you can.

In the “Think and Grow Rich” book, Napolean Hill talks about Being DECISIVE is a key ingredient for a successful entrepreneur. I couldn’t agree more!

It is great to make decisions but it is also needed to be able to change those decisions and make better decisions based on your feelings.

Does anyone else relate to this?

Have you changed your life or done something for others instead of yourself and regretted it?

Were you able to stay with the original decision or did you make a change and move quickly and swiftly forward in that new direction?

As an entrepreneur have you put the needs of your clients over your own?

I may be 10 years in the game as a spiritual entrepreneur but I love these awakening moments that help me create the life I truly desire.

SO I am going to return to Summering.
Thank you for listening and hopefully you are having a happy summer too!
Xo Uma

I don’t do KnockOffs…

I am not a flashy person with nice, name brand things. It’s true! In fact, most of my name brand things come to me generously through my mom, dad and brothers who like the flashy things and every now and then on a birthday or Christmas occasion, like to get me one too.

When I do get the flashy things, I love it. I love it because it’s good quality stuff and the difference in the price DOES make a difference in the feel, durability, dependability and experience of the product.

When I was in college, I made do with Payless shoes and Walmart purses. I am not knocking them, hey they worked for me for a long time. But as I got older, I wanted more. I didn’t want my shoes to only last the summer or my purse to make it to a year and then shred on me. I wanted good, quality products that could last a bit longer so the turnaround on them would stretch. I am really not a shopper so I delay the process for as long as I can bear. If I am buying something, please Lord let it last my lifetime so I don’t have to go shopping.

At this point, some of you might have started to wonder if I am off my rocker. “Uma done did it now and lost her damn mind sitting her talking about shoes and purses.”

Or have I? (cue evil laugh and rubbing of hands together)

Maybe not. You know there is a purpose to this blog, so hang in there, I am getting there.

I am talking about quality versus quantity and real versus artificial because I feel the need to remind people that in life, if you take the quick route, you will eventually get what you paid for.

At my center I teach a variety of classes; some certification classes that follow the protocol of the parent company I am subscribed to and the rest Spirit Led. Spirit Led just means that Spirit woke me up (usually around 3am) and channeled a class to hold. I obediently follow through and it becomes one of the most amazing experiences myself and the students experience. It’s not made up, it is destined.¬†

As fun as my job is, there is the little quirks that pop up from time to time. In the beginning it was “nail on chalkboard” bearable but now, after so many years and so many times, its more like an annoying fly that buzzes too close to your pina colada on the beach. Shoo fly, don’t bother me!

One of these quirks is my observation of how many people that take a class or two in metaphysics and then become teachers in a turnaround faster than you can say, “Olly Olly Oxen Free!”

I remember working with a business coach awhile back and after assessing my center and what I do, she made the remark, “I have to give it to you-you create classes and teach and basically you are teaching your competition. Well isn’t that a doozy.” It is.

Now let’s be clear. I am not knocking anyone who has a life path and destiny to become a spiritual teacher or to own a wellness center similar to mine. In fact, there are many who created their businesses and have my stamp of approval with them because Spirit told me they would go far and do well as is their calling. I am only too happy to oblige.

But for the few, who do it for money, fame and recognition…. this is a post for you.¬†

Now some of you at this point might think I am being mean, shady or condescending. You have a right to your perspective but hear me out, and if you can stomach it, read through the rest of this blog before you make a firm decision that Uma is catty and immature. I am pretty sure you will have a different opinion by the end.

I am writing this blog in hopes it reaches the people who are doing these things and if it does, this is what I would like to say to them: “Stop it. You are doing more harm than good.”

Now why would I say that? Did I just pull it out from thin air? No.

Did Spirit tell me to say it to give people complexes? No.

Do I feel better or superior to others and feel the need to put people down? No.

I say it because if it is anything I can be known for in this lifetime, it is my integrity. I truly care about people. Most times people may think I don’t because I am not a warm, squishy kind of person but you know, my type of caring is not in that category. I am genuinely worried about people fulfilling their soul missions and making sure they are acting in authenticity and alignment with their purpose.

So with that being said, here are the reasons why a newbie student turned newbie teacher is not a good idea and why when you pay more or go with more, you get more:

  1. Newbie teachers break the cardinal rule.

Yes there is a cardinal rule of learning and this is how it goes: First you learn, then you DO and then you teach. Now depending on who you talk to, this can span months to years to decades. While I am a bit concerned about the timeline, I am more concerned with the concept.

My partner would laugh every time we took a class together. Immediately when we returned home, I would call up close friends or clients and offer them a session of what I just learned for free or at a discounted rate. My goal would be to get a set number of students in and practice the session. Usually by the end of the week, I have the protocol memorized and can do it easily without my manuals or handouts. This is the doing part of the protocol. Then after months or years of doing, I would feel confident to teach because I have seen all aspects (or alot) of the process and can handle situations as they arise.

I had one student learn a class from me in one month and then two months later she was offering the class AND at the cost I charged for the class. I was floored but I waited to see what Spirit would do. I knew this woman was not competent enough to teach this class, it was quite technical and had set procedures to follow. How could she possibly pull it off without even practicing it outside of the one session she did in class? I was worried and anxious thinking of her students who signed up and I prayed for them, that they would get alot out of the class and somehow it would all magically pull together to be a successful event. Well I didn’t even have to do that. Spirit ensured that class did not happen and as the days led up to it, one by one her students started dropping out. I was part relieved and also part sorry for her. I knew she needed that class for financial purposes but also my integrity said this was not right. Spirit agreed.

When you learn something, you need time to understand that thing. You need to sit with it, breathe it in, experiment with it and heck even fail at it. You have to mess up, try again and work it, work it, work it until you find your flow. Once you arrive at that point (however long it takes), you will know it’s time to teach it.

Usually I create classes because students ask me to create them. The way my process works is I get a message from Spirit to teach a class. I say, “That’s fine” but I need validation that this is meant to be and soon after that, the right people come my way to either collaborate or to be taught. That simple.

I became a past life regression therapist this way. I was working on a client, doing a regular reflexology session and as I was talking to my client, my voice naturally went into a hypnotic flow and my client went into a light trance. She started to recall a past life concerning an issue she was facing in her present day circumstances. There was alot of healing and tears that came from this process and I found it fascinating. I didn’t think about it anymore until months later when I was sailing on the river Seine in France and realized I was reading the book, “Many Lives many Masters” by the amazing Dr. Brian Weiss. I was being drawn to the path of past life regression and didn’t realize it. When I went home, I booked a class and got in to Dr. Weiss training program to become a past life therapist. It is still one of my favorite modalities to facilitate to this day.

I have never put up a class because someone else was offering it or to compete because the energy is wrong from the get go. And I have learned over the years of doing this, that if the energy and Spirit is not there, it is more work than necessary and shouldn’t be done. I have in fact CANCELED classes that had people in it! Why? Because the energy felt off and in acting in my integrity, I didn’t feel the students would get the same powerful delivery I could have delivered if I did it another time. As you can imagine this is frustrating to some but for those who know me and respect my process, they are relieved. Relieved to have a teacher who cares more about their experience than her bank account.

All this talk about money leads me to #2.

2. Newbie teachers are often in the grip of Ego not Spirit

I understand. There is no judgment here but a quiet request to really check in before you decide to offer this class you just learned. Are you sure you can pull it off? Will you do it justice? Will the student have a better experience with another teacher who has been doing it a lot longer than you? Do you have enough integrity to admit that?

When I teach Tuning Fork Therapy¬ģ, I RAVE about my teacher and the founder of the modality, Francine Milford. I WISH all my students could take it firsthand from her, the way I did. Francine is partly retired but comes out of retirement to teach from time to time (well at least for me!). I LOVE classes with her partly because its at her house in sunny FL and she makes me lunch too. ūüôā Mostly I love classes with Francine because she is so knowledgeable about everything and I always leave learning more than what I paid for.

I am proud to say that every teacher of Tuning Fork Therapy¬ģ in Northern Virginia came through me as I was the only person in this area taught personally by Francine Milford. I uphold this class to the highest respect because of that responsibility and also because students in my area cannot get a personal training from Francine unless they go to Florida to learn from her. So it is my responsibility I feel to give them as close an experience as I can to what she offers. It is nowhere near it of course! But still I try.

Francine sees my integrity in what I do and recently she gifted me 13 boxes sent by mail of over 225+ attunements and classes. Most of her life’s work, I now possess and my responsibility is to teach it to continue Francine’s legacy. As you can expect, I will take my time reviewing the classes and knowledge before offering it to students, because I want to make sure I teach it the way Francine would want me to teach it and to do the courses justice. It has to be right.

When I see Newbie teachers hustling to put up a class they just learned (and may not have been a good student at), I know they want the ROI quickly. I get it. When we spend money, we need to earn money but I believe there should be a pause button here somewhere and then a golden question to follow. A question like, “How does this work out for the student?”

DO you really feel you can deliver a wonderful experience and turn that student ON to the love of learning they are about to receive? Or will this be another failed class with let downs and disappointments?

Each class I offer, I prep for weeks and sometimes months before I actually step into a classroom. There is the outlining, storyboarding, mission planning, checks and balances, dry run through, emotional run through and spiritual run through before I even advertise the darned thing! And once it is advertised, there are more checks and balances, fielding Q&As and inventory before we get to class. Once in class, I hardly eat (or breathe) as I am so focused, tuned in, taped in and turned on to Spirit to deliver precisely what is needed for that group and by Spirit’s commands.

Newbie teacher are you prepared for all of that? Can you DO all of that? And lastly, are you interested in creating all of that?

One time I had a former client tell me they wanted to become a teacher. I knew this was a mistake. For one, my client was an extreme introvert so ummm….not sure how that would work.

I started to detail the work I did before, during and after class times and the amount of interpersonal communication required for EACH student and they backed down immediately!

“Oh heck no, I don’t want to talk to people that much! I don’t even like people!”

Bingo.

But you know how I saw that? Cause I am an experienced metaphysical teacher and highly intuitive person. I am trained to see what one cannot see at the present moment.

Usually when a Newbie teacher offers up a class, their drive is ROI, excitement, money, fame and/or significance. My advice is to take the time to learn what you know and trust that Spirit has your back. By rushing to put up an event you are not well trained in, you run the risk of messing up the class and not giving the student a pleasant experience.

There is no rush, no destination, only the journey. Trust the process. 

3. You get what you paid for

Sometimes I have potential clients call me for a session and when they realize my price, they would back out because “I am too expensive.” I once had a gentleman ask me, “Why would I pay you that rate for a session when I can go down the street and get it for ___(lesser amount)?”

I don’t even fight them on it. At that point, I agree with them and let them know that is a good deal and they should go there. Most times when I do that, I am met with silence on the phone. They didn’t expect me to say that and I guess they were hoping I would fight for their business. That’s not necessary.

Firstly, there are plenty of good, established healers in the area and I am sure if they go to someone else, they will get what they need. I have my clients, the people who want to see me and be seen by me. Other healers have theirs. We do not need to fight over this.

It is not my desire to work with everyone. I have no reason to. I made a call out to the Universe concerning the time of clients I want to see and so far, I have been getting my clientele. I am not hurting either. In the nearly ten years I have been working as an intuitive and healer, I have seen close to 10,000 clients. I know because I keep track of my sessions and I see roughly around 1,000 people/year.

My clientele come to me because they have been everywhere else and it is not working.

My clientele trust me to deliver the services they need and want with the highest integrity and passion I can bring.

My clientele do not fight me or question me on my services or prices because they implicitly trust that quality is more important to me than quantity as it is to them.

It is what makes me a genuine, real healer and teacher; not a knock off.

My reason for writing this blog is simple. I want you to know who I am and what I am about.

I love the work I do and it pains me to see charlatans degrade, abuse and villify my profession. Please people, let’s be more conscientious of what we are doing and how we are doing it.

The formula again: Learn. Do. Teach.

Some may say I made myself the whistle blower concerning this topic or the self appointed monitor. I am ok with those titles because we don’t have a regulating board of members or accreditation to our work. So someone has to say something and say it loud and clear. So I will.

You get what you pay for.

If you want quality, find the trusted, reliable, long standing healers/teachers in your community. It will cost you less in the long run.

My love and light with you until next time,

xo Uma

Untitled design (9)Uma Alexandra Beepat is an Intuitive Consultant, Metaphysical Teacher, Consciousness Coach and Published Author.

Uma owns Lotus Wellness Center and three other businesses in Northern Virginia.

For more information on Uma, visit http://www.umalotusflower.com

 

 

The Sin of Loving Yourself

I love myself.

I really love myself.

I love myself so much that sometimes people get offended.

They get offended because in loving myself, I fail to love them as hard as I love myself.

That is a fact.

There is a large population of people who are looking and searching for the best answer to the age old question, “How do I love myself?”

I am sorry but I am not in that group of people.

I somehow seem to be lumped in with the narcissists and vain, the “uppity” and snooty crowd because I have never doubted my brilliance, my divinity or the Goddess who resides within me.

However, because I honor that divine Spark within me and think of myself in a glorious way, I have been called the above names before. It’s a catch isn’t it?

I don’t need classes or books to tell me how to overcome my shyness or connect with my Inner Goddess. I don’t need workshops to help lift me up. I am already there. But because I am already there, and don’t need help on how to get there, I am outcasted and ridiculed. I am either the anomaly or a fraud; however I am not the real deal in self love, because well, I don’t look like what self-love is meant to look like. I am TOO confident, TOO good with my boundaries and TOO self involved.¬†

In this blog, I am addressing a small, overlooked issue that remains (to this day) overlooked because it seems insensitive to talk about it when clearly there are other people (the majority) on the opposite end of the spectrum who do not face this issue.

What is the issue?

The issue is that we have created a world to be in constant need of something and to deny the existence of those who have no need of anything. Specifically in the issue of unconditional love. 

See, I love myself unconditionally. What does that mean to me?

It means that no matter what I do or say or think, I still love me. I love me in spite of my faults, my glories, my weaknesses and my strengths.

I understand me and I know me. I know that despite what is exhibited on the outside, or what people’s perceptions are of me, they don’t know me like i know me. That’s why someone else cannot tell me MY truth or what I meant by what I did. That is their perception and they are entitled to it.

I love myself so hard that even when people tell me their perceptions of me and say it like it is fact not opinion, I don’t correct them, get defensive, attack or withdraw. I have enough love within me, that I can listen to what they say and still hold space for them and their opinions of me without feeling the need to respond.

When someone loves themselves unconditionally, they are afforded a freedom to live in the moments they create without guilt or regret over past mistakes or anxiety and restlessness about the future. They are able to navigate through life easily because they are peace with it all. Loving yourself affords you a freedom to be happy; despite what other people feel or think about you. It’s worth the isolation if anything!

So in realizing my super power (loving myself and accepting myself regardless of what the world thinks of me), I decided to share some tips if I may with you. Whether you are already in self love with yourself or asking that question, “How do I love myself?”, from my humble opinion here are some ideas to start with:

  1. Recognize that you are complete and whole already

In my opinion, the first step to self-love is realizing that there is nothing to fix or wrong with you. You are already there. Think of buying a fixer-upper first home. What are the feelings there? Excitement to own a home? Check. Excitement to renovate and recreate the original model to what you want? Check. Excitement of all the possibilities that will come by this purchase? Check.

The idea is that you are that original canvas sent from the master architect himself. You get to create the mural you want on it! However if you start off by denying the existence of the original architect, or doubting his work, or picking at perceived flaws with the canvas….then you are off to a rough start!

A better idea is to accept what is your canvas, what the master Architect has sent to you and create your mural as you wish. No doubting, wishing for something different or being critical. Instead be in a place of acceptance and love for what IS there as opposed to what isn’t. Get my drift? Self-love is about acceptance that you are quite perfect and stunning as you are, with no need to change, mimic or be someone else.

2. Choose your cheerleading squad carefully

As I have said before, I don’t give much thought to what people think about me. I am living this life for myself and by my terms. That being said, I tend not to associate with too many people. My acquaintances circle is large and my inner circle is a few I can count on one hand. I like it that way.

I once heard that Oprah is particular about what she hears, to the point when a car service picks her up, they are instructed not to engage in chit chat and not to play music. She doesn’t want to listen to the wrong stuff.

What is the wrong stuff? Gossip, slander, cursing, derogatory remarks. All these sounds can mess with your vibe, your vision, your flow. The same thing with having friends who cannot support you or stay in low vibe behavior.

“Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events and small minds discuss people.”- Eleanor Roosevelt.¬†

I once had a friend tell me I changed friends as often as people changed underwear. Ok, she exaggerates but there is a kernel of truth in there. My truth is I can be the BEST of friends with people, but once it goes south for me, I am out!

Now some of you might think, “Oh Uma but that is such a lonely road!” Nope, nope, nope it is not. See I have friends since elementary school days that are healthy, positive, successful and thriving. They keep me entertained.

I have parents, siblings and a whole host of cousins and relatives that flood my life with positivity, happiness and joy. They keep me laughing.

I have an amazing partner who teaches me, learns from me and grows with me. He keeps me in love.

And finally, I have my kids who mentor me in the new ways of the new world from their perspective. They keep me inspired.

You can mourn the few you lost along the way or you can celebrate the hundreds who are still there, still positive and still rooting for you. Choose wisely!

3. Understand it is all just an opinion

One defining moment in my life is when I stood up to a bully a couple of years ago (yes I was an adult and bullied!). She was supposedly a friend in my life but her behavior and actions were anything but. She was always critical of me and my life and one day, I had enough and looked her square in the eye and said, “That sounds wonderful, but you know what? It is your opinion I should do it that way and I don’t want to do it that way because my opinion is to do it differently. Your Opinion is Valid BUT YOUR OPINION DOES NOT DEFINE MY REALITY.”

I think she was shook up by the yelling part but it was part frustration and part epiphany when I said it. It’s true! She had an opinion. It wasn’t God’s truth and she didn’t get divine wisdom from the heavens into my affairs. It was just her thought process based off of the way she does things and thinks about things. Its ok, but it’s not gold.

As you learn to see everyone as opinionated people, it helps you tremendously to ease off them and not take it too seriously what they say.

Even if their way saves you $2.34 or 4¬† minutes, who CARES? Is your aim to get to your grave on time and saving money? Of course not! Your aim is to live your life YOUR WAY and you get to choose whose opinion you take into consideration and whose you toss out with the trash. Either way, don’t feel guilty about it. Just do you.

I can keep writing on this topic because it is my cornerstone of my work. Living authentically, boldly and by my rules and my decisions is important. I hope that this blog touches at least someone in a positive way. What I really want to say to you, is that you are perfect just as you are, you are loved and you matter.

Love and Light until next time,

xo Uma

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Uma Alexandra Beepat is a Consciousness Speaker, Metaphysical Teacher, Intuitive Consultant and Psychic Mediumship Mentor. Uma owns four businesses, is a single mom to two pre-teen boys and lives life large!

To find out more about Uma, visit  http://www.umalotusflower.com

 

 

 

What kind of healing do you need?

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Let’s start with a hypothetical question. Let’s say hypothetically you were diagnosed with some type of cancer that could still be treated with chemotherapy. Do you think it would be one session of chemo that would fix it?

Better yet (and less serious), let’s say you need a root canal. Do you think your dentist would tell you it can be done in one visit?

How about we take it out of the medical/dental field and go somewhere more luxurious such as a beauty salon. If you are someone who gets color treatment on their hair to hide (ahem) their grays, do you think you can accomplish that in one session?

Do you see where I am going with this? The answer is NO to all of them.

Chemotherapy is a couple of sessions taken over a couple of weeks until they check and check again to make sure all signs of cancer are eradicated. I recently had a friend who underwent close to a year of radiation and chemotherapy treatments because they discovered a tumor on his throat. A year of treatments.

The dentist visit? At best, it is at least three visits. The first to take X-rays and talk shop. The second to repair the tooth and put a temporary crown on it and the third visit for the permanent crown.

Forget it about hair. Once you start, you are committed for the rest of your life. Or so I have heard. I wouldn’t know…..I heard it…..from a friend.

The point I am trying to drive home is this…….YOU¬†as a consumer and active person of interest into your own health and upkeep….you¬†already understand and follow the protocol for body and mind care and can handle the fact that it takes a couple of sessions to reach completion. If you know this, then why…..why do you hassle natural healers to perform miracles in ONE session?

Over the years I have had a surprising number of clients who have popped up on my schedule expecting nothing less than the impossible.

Client #1- “I have been suffering from a host of issues for over a year now. I have seen every kind of healer I could see and now I am here. If you don’t help me, I don’t know what I will do.”

Results- Client attended one session and wrote back after two days that “nothing is working.” She immediately cut communication and left the practice.

Client #2-“I have been under a psychiatrist care over five years now and am on medication. I don’t feel like this reiki or meditation stuff is working. I feel worse than before and feel like killing myself.”

Results- *The red card was pulled (because client mentioned possible self harm, I had to advise her to seek medical counsel and let her go.) and even though I had to let client go, she was upset she didn’t heal right away.

I am not sure why there is an influx of these clients (I call them “One and Done”) and I can only imagine it is either because:

1) My reputation as a world class healer (tongue in cheek) precedes me and now the stakes are higher for services.

2) People are getting fed up with their situations and want healing NOW.

I am leaning more to the latter and if that is the case….and you are identifying with this article, then let me clear up some things concerning natural healing and a client.

Your sessions depend on how long you have been suffering with the issue:

I once had a client come to me for a reiki session. She was on antidepressants for over 12 years! And clearly under the care of a psychiatrist. She was emotionally cut off from her husband and leading a dreary life in a dead end job. She had no passion and I could see the dull glaze in her eyes due to the constant medication.

After the session, she said she felt a little better and I looked her right in the eye and said, “Lady if you want me to make more than a dent in this energy fog, I need at least 10 sessions.” She was as surprised as I was because trust me, I did not plan to say that, it just sort of popped out.

Well I guess it was what she needed to hear. She signed up and came obediently every week. That was the longest I ever saw a client and you know, it was a learning experience for us both. She would show up and I would work on her and in time I got to know more about her through the sessions and small talk we would have. Her sessions started off as energy healing but by the end, it also included life coaching as well. We were tearing down the wall that was set up so long ago. The sun was peeking in and we were both loving it.

By¬†the end of the 10 sessions, she had come completely off her medication and she didn’t want to stop! She signed up for another 10 sessions and we kept going. Her relationship with her husband improved after they sought couples counseling and she even quit her job and started a new career. BY the complete end of the 20 sessions, she was literally a whole new woman. That client taught me alot. She taught me that through intent, strong willpower and trust in a process, we can all change our lives. I have not heard from her in years and you know what? I am happy. I know she is somewhere living happily and creating the life she desires.

THIS is the story I want to share with my clients, clients of other healers and potential clients to us all. We cannot wipe out decades of hurt, pain, fear and negativity in one session, we need more.

Many times my fellow healers KNOW you need more sessions but fear, anxiety and lack of confidence prevents them from sharing their truth with you. Many of us do not want to be seen as business people or doing this for the money (trust me we are not). So we try to keep it casual and say something like, “Ok well let me know when you would like another session.”

What we really want to say is, “Man you are messed up! You know I can help! You can see me for service A, product B, service C and a three pack of service D and we will be set to go!”

Ok maybe not as harsh, but you know what I mean. We would love to honestly tell you that you need more than one session, but our services has gotten a bad rep in the community due to some shady characters (think Miss Cleo).

But you know what YOU can do? You can help your healer out. First of all, you have clear intuition. Either before or after a session, you KNOW you are with the right healer. After a session, don’t be shy! Ask your practitioner, “So what do you think? Am I one and done or are we doing this dance for a bit?” Trust me, it will help you and your healer develop clear communication and a plan for your healing.

The first session with a healer is more like a consultation and general mapping, not the excavation of the issue. When a client comes in to see me, we spend quite a bit talking before they move to the table. Why? Because spiritual healing has less to do with physical symptoms and more to do with emotional and mental trauma caused over the years and stored in the body.

I want to know what you were thinking when the symptoms first appeared.¬†It is here in the knowing, that I get to empathically feel your pain and then the map appears…leading me to the energetic knot in your back that I can then remove easily. Of course, this is my method…and every healer is different! BUT it doesn’t matter. We all have our own process of working, and the magic lies in our unique ways.

When you come in to see us for a first session, we didn’t even crack the surface …especially if it is an hour or less. We got to stay above the surface…play on the sand on the beach…maybe we find a shiny, pretty shell or not…but in the end we all feel good for a little bit.

The more you come in for a session, the deeper you allow the exploration to go and its pretty much like giving a healer scuba equipment and saying have at it! We then can go the distance and find the buried treasure in the sunken ship at the bottom of the ocean. YOU are way more happier with gold and pearls than a shiny shell. It can be life changing.

There are different types of sessions. Know what you need¬†and the results will match your expectations.¬†Your expectations have to match the reality. With any client I see, I ask them “What is your general plan with healing?” Most times they don’t know. Well I am here to help you with that. As a client, you more than likely¬†fall into one of three categories:

 1) The Experimenter

 2) The Healer

 3) The Grower

The Experimenter heard of services through friends or media and want to try it to see what it is like. They are not committed to a long term plan because they are more interested in saying they had it done at least once than none at all.

*Healer friends, do not give up on Experimenters! I myself have converted many to Healers and Growers because they enjoyed the session so much, they kept coming back. Never say never!

The Healer is seeking services because they have an issue and they don’t want to go the route of traditional medicine and healing. Either they have gone that route and were let down or they prefer a more natural and organic type of healing. These clients are more open to a treatment plan and long term options of care. I reward these clients with package discounts and sometimes freebies depending on how often they come. I have a couple of people who have been seeing me steadfastly every month for years and they are close to my heart so I cater to them. This is the kind of privilege you can get as a client if you remain in good communication with your healer.

The Growers are people who are interested in their spiritual path and growth so they turn up every couple of weeks or months when they feel a “dip” in their energy and need a boost. I love these clients too (who am I kidding, I love them all) because they are more open to learning the healing modalities for themselves and frequently end up in my classes. They are not so much interested in starting a business but to learn self healing techniques for themselves and loved ones.

As a client you can place yourself in one of the categories and seek a healer out. This alleviates the pain of disappointments if results don’t come your way. If you have problems with bowel movements and decide to see a healer one time (experimenter), chances are you will be unhappy because your goals did not match up with your expectations.

Be proactive in your care, discuss with your healer what you are going through and then set a plan. Remember your healer is here to work with you not command you or work against you.

As with everything in life, healing takes time. If you are willing to give your healing process the time it needs, work and communicate with your healer ….you can expect to see the miracles come about. We the healers celebrate right alongside with you.

In love and light,

Uma xo

He who barks the loudest

One time while visiting my partner, I was greeted by loud barking as I pulled up in his driveway. Now I knew this wasn’t Silas! A friendly and warm Great Pyrenees who could not hurt a fly!

I was right, it wasn’t this sweet gentle giant but another dog half the size of Silas but with much more of a bark! My partner was babysitting another dog, Carter while his owner was away at the beach. This dog is nothing like Silas. He is half the size of Silas but louder and more barky. When I walked into the house Silas greeted me warmly as he usually does but Carter¬†was growling and barking in a very loud tone that was mean and menacing. I was terrified LOL.

After Carter settled down and sat quietly in the corner, I decided to go and be kind and pet him. It was a nice thought but the minute I tried to touch Carter he bared his teeth turned around and snapped at me! Thank God I have lightening quick reflexes! I recoiled my hand in horror and retreated quickly to the safety of the corner of the room.

After Carter attempted to bite me, he went to the closet and got his stuffed animal and then went under the desk and hid underneath my partner’s legs. I was completely perplexed by this seemingly aggressive yet vulnerable creature, what gives?

¬†Well I later found out that Carter was an abandoned dog and¬†because of his abandonment and hurt inflicted by the family who previously owned him,¬†he had developed¬†trust issues with humans. He wasn’t treated very kindly by the family before and there was a lot of pain and suffering still rampant in him.

¬†Ahhhh, it makes sense and I could see that now.¬†As I thought about this dog, I thought to myself….how many people are like this dog? We have heard the term before right? “Hurt people hurt people”…..its akin to a barking dog.¬†Sometimes the dog that barks the loudest…is the most hurt dog of all.

No there is another type of barking dog that demonstrates hurt and pain. The dog that is constantly barking…and that is the one I want to talk about today.

See aside from Carter’s growling and attacking anyone who comes close to him (outside of his inner circle), he is also constantly barking. And in hearing that, we can relate it back to¬†people we also know in life who are constantly talking about themselves right? Ahhh now¬†you get it.

As a teacher and mentor at Lotus Wellness Center, I frequently have one or two students who disrupt class flow with their personal stories, oversharing or wanting to discuss their own issues in class. For many students it is annoying and I frequently get a stern talking to from students after class either in person or through email.

¬†“Uma you need to be a better moderator in class. I didn’t come here to listen to someone else talk about their issues.”

“Uma I am paying for class to hear you speak!”

“Uma you need to talk to her and put her in her place. Why does she take up so much time in class talking about her stuff?”

Thankfully I managed to find a common ground between my need to let these people speak and also respect class time so we don’t run over or miss anything I actually have to teach on.

You are probably wondering at this point, but why Uma? why even allow them the chance to divert class attention? Because like Carter, the people who bark the loudest need the most attention and compassion.

See I realized a long time ago that people who take up class time discussing their life or struggles or accomplishments, just needed a place to talk….because more than likely they don’t have the support system in their own lives where they either are appreciated or honored for their gifts and achievements. In worst case scenarios, they may be in unhealthy relationships or surroundings where not only are they not recognized, but they are also criticized for every little thing they do. What a life to be in!

¬†I mean think about it, why would people want to willingly talk about themselves, share personal information or ‘brag’ about their accomplishments? What are they seeking?

Of course the first things that come to mind are fame, recognition and accolades. Yes that is true, but dig deeper. Why would someone want recognition or praise? Many reasons can come up but for me the most pressing ones are: Validation, Approval and Love.

¬†I had a friend who would constantly talk about her achievements to me and I would always respond with support and enthusiasm. Later on she confided in me that she frequently turned to me to talk about her accomplishments because she couldn’t do it with people in her inner circle as they would be negative or condescending. How tragic!

 Sometimes when people talk about their accomplishments in life, we tend to feel like they are showing off or bragging, so we develop hurt feelings or feel like they are trying to put us down. Maybe some people are truly like that (pray for them!) but for the most part, people just want to celebrate a job well done and receive validation for that.

 Can you give them the validation and approval they are seeking?

Test it out in your own life.¬†I am sure you have someone like this you know. An over talker, or over sharer that you¬†maybe¬†see in social settings, business meetings or even family gatherings. Wherever you see them, practice being¬†mindful,¬†develop compassion and if you can, hold space. Everyone needs love and attention, and if they cant get it at home, where else do they turn to? Which ever social situation where they feel accepted and safe. It is a compliment really to you…that someone feels safe enough to share what they feel or do. See the compliment behind the actions and respond by showing up and being supportive. I guarantee it will change the lens on your world view.

In closing, I want to address the people that read this blog and identify themselves as this kind of person. I know you are reading and probably thinking, “Oh my God this is me! Is this how people view me? as a nuisance and disruptive?” but I ask you not to berate yourself or feel shame or pity. Remember that we are ALL working on something or some aspect of ourselves that we are seeking to change. Today the focus is on you, but tomorrow the focus will be on someone else. There is no shame in learning, processing and growing, there is only encouragement and support.

The next time you feel the need to overshare or take up someone else’s time and feel it is inappropriate, ask yourself, “What am I seeking by sharing this story with the group?”

“How can I share the group so the focus is on the topic and not on me?”

And if you are really truthful with yourself, allow the question to come up, “Why do I need others approval and I can’t develop it for myself?” In that question alone, you will be amazed at what comes up and the growth that can develop for it.

 love and light,

xo Uma

Manifesting Life against the Odds

It is interesting how life can throw you a curve ball when things are going good and you were smooth sailing for a bit. When things start to crumble around you, you then buy into the idea that you have no choices left and you have to do what you have to do to get by.

 Not only is this an incorrect assumption but also an unhealthy one. Once you truly start to believe that you have no choice in life, you get boxed in and all the creativity within you to manifest changes and direction will wither away. You become part of the sheeple that is roaming our earth school right now.

What are sheeple? People that act like sheep…a herd mentality that doesnt allow for unique and original thinking but staying in the group mentality. Don’t fall for it! You are not crazy (I really can’t diagnose you on that-out of scope!) if you think there are other ways to do things than the old tried and true.

I have a friend who¬†gets so frustrated with me because I don’t think like her. Now understand this, the woman is a genius. She is a successful entrepreneur and has the dream life we all aspire to have one day; however she knows her path to success and I know mine. Many times she would tear down my dreams or become a negative Nancy when I discuss ideas with her. She would only let up when she sees the success come about because of my bold decisions and new thoughts. You too may have people like this in your corner. Take the lesson from me, don’t judge them or belittle them, they are only being negative because they fear for your safety and want to make sure you are doing the best you can. If they can only see solutions from their limited perception, it calls for you to be compassionate, not judgmental.¬†Love them while you continue to do what you need to do.

 So back to the topic at hand. If you feel stuck and like there is no way to go, I am gently asking you to reconsider your position. Maybe all is not what it seems to be. Allow the Universe to manifest changes in your direction because you know what? It will and all that is required of you is three simple behavior changes that can make it happen.

As we say in hypnosis, only you can make it happen, expect it to happen and watch how it happens easily!

Choosing Correctly in Life:

 1) Make Choices out of Integrity not Fear

I once had a discussion with a healer friend that fried my brain. This person was continuously making the wrong choices and her business was¬†continuously¬†suffering because of it. I could see the area where she was going wrong but she didn’t and eventually, she went out of business through from what I saw, really making poor decisions based on fear. She refused to invest in her further education and learning because it was too expensive. She refused to advertise her services because that was being too commercial. She refused to network because “those things don’t work anyways”. As much as she believed in her answers, the root here was fear. Fear of spending money, fear of promoting her business and fear of creating connections.

You need to have a backbone and know what you are about before you embark on any kind of decision. I am an ethical person period. I may not be the friendliest or nicest or warm, comfy feeling kind of person you will meet but by Creator, I will be the most fair, ethical and reasonable person you do meet. I am a Capricorn, its in my blood! I have very fair and set ideas when it comes to being ethical.

When I make choices and decisions, I do so from this strong core of confidence and it doesn’t sway. So when it comes to scheduling, I know my schedule and only book clients per those times I have available. Have I turned away clients? Absolutely because the timing did not line up and I couldn’t fit them in because it would affect my personal time.

My friend? Not so strict when it comes to honoring herself. She was constantly booking clients late into the night or on weekends when she really needed the time off, as a result she burnt out and couldn’t regain that zeal and passion for her craft. Where did she go wrong here? She was accepting clients because of the money. She was operating from a fear based mentality that if I turn them away, I wouldn’t get them back.

That is another incorrect statement. Maybe this particular client would go somewhere else, but don’t you think the Universe would reward you for putting yourself first and honoring your boundaries? If she had let that person go and chosen her self care over the incoming money, she would have had a significant jump in business. How do I know? From personal experience!

You have to make choices that honor you.¬†When you act with Integrity, you open up to the expansive energies of the best vibrations¬†and they will take you to higher and higher ideals. Don’t settle because you feel you have to or the world is forcing your hand. You have to be in control of your life and not allow life to control you.

¬†2) Ask Questions, Don’t make Statements

There are three modalities I offer that speak to this: Access Bars, Theta Healing and Life Coaching. In each of them, they recommend asking questions as a way to open up your box. 

When you make a statement, you put an energetic imprint out into the Universe as this now becomes your Truth. When you say, “I am tired”, “I am weak”, or “I don’t have time”, you are making a stamp in the Universe. You create a little cardboard box around you that keeps you in that vibration.

How do you get out of the box or open it up? Ask questions. When I get stuck in life, this is what I do. For instance, every now and then I  get hit with a work related issue at my Wellness Center. Instead of living in the fear phase and buying into the permanence of the situation, I asked out loud:

“What is the good in this that I am not seeing?”¬†

“What can be done that honors me in this situation?”

By asking questions, I create the space for the answer to come. Sometimes it takes hours and sometimes it takes days, but when the answer comes, it always comes at the right time. 

When something pops up on your radar that is unexpected and maybe a bit ugly, don’t immediately buy into it. Ask yourself questions and ask the Universe questions and then give it some time. There may be an answer coming that is out of your realm of thinking and can just handle it all neatly with a bow!¬†

3) Schedule Connection time with the Universe 

The most important thing you need to do to make choices with integrity that honor yourself and others, is to have some quiet time. In quiet contemplation, meditation or silence, you are able to access your inner knowing, your intuition and feel situations out.

When you quiet down, you cut the noise of the outside world to tap into YOU. The person driving this van and ask what do they really want to do. What a concept eh? To actually ask the driver what the next step is instead of listening to all the backseat drivers with you!

In the end, your choices are critical in your life path as they lead to your circumstance.¬†Learning to cultivate a mindful decision begins your path of self discovery, wisdom and knowingness. You will begin to understand why things are happening the way they do in your life. And that to me, is a sweet relief I would like to have more often than not. Don’t you agree?

 Until next time, stay in the Love and the Light!

xo Uma