Summering is ON

I love lessons…they grow me and humble me at the same time.

Every summer I tend to take OFF from work and travel the whole time. 🗽🗼

I mean the whole darn time! 
School’s out? LET’S GO! 

Over the years as my center grew. The demand for my time grew as well. 

When I would take off for Summer, it would get met with complaints and sometimes even suggestions that I was being selfish. 🤔

SO…..I did what any caring and thoughtful person would do, I changed my summer schedule so instead of being gone 100% of the time, I was only gone 40%.💚💙🧡💜💛

I will admit, I was a bit sad about it because I love to travel (Sag Rising here) and with my kids safely tucked away at grandma’s house for the summer, I was ready to FLY.

But I wanted to honor the requests of my clients and really….I was also curious to see how business would be in the summer time.

Well guess what happened?

I’m here….ready to work AND
🚫 No clients
🚫 No students
🚫 No full classes

I am literally sitting here….twiddling my thumbs. 🤬🤬🤬

What a wakeup call!

SO lesson learned!

Next summer I am OUTTA here again!

And this time, I will not allow myself to have the FEELs when clients and students express their disapproval. I will remind them of the summer of 2019 and leave it at that! 🤣

Now that Summer is halfway over, I have redirected my energy yet again. It pays to be flexible so you can roll with the punches!

I cancelled some of my classes, rescheduled some and cut my work load wayyyyyy down. I bought some summer reading books at Barnes and Noble and am now having a staycation instead!

I’m talking:

  • Daytime naps
  • Late night Netflix and Hulu binging
  • Hanging with my hunny in new areas around town
  • Catching up with friends through lunches and dinners
  • Lots of summer reading!

So I made a mistake, big whoop. It happens. The most important thing is to evaluate, analyze and redirect as quickly as you can.

In the “Think and Grow Rich” book, Napolean Hill talks about Being DECISIVE is a key ingredient for a successful entrepreneur. I couldn’t agree more!

It is great to make decisions but it is also needed to be able to change those decisions and make better decisions based on your feelings.

Does anyone else relate to this?

Have you changed your life or done something for others instead of yourself and regretted it?

Were you able to stay with the original decision or did you make a change and move quickly and swiftly forward in that new direction?

As an entrepreneur have you put the needs of your clients over your own?

I may be 10 years in the game as a spiritual entrepreneur but I love these awakening moments that help me create the life I truly desire.

SO I am going to return to Summering.
Thank you for listening and hopefully you are having a happy summer too!
Xo Uma

The Sin of Loving Yourself

I love myself.

I really love myself.

I love myself so much that sometimes people get offended.

They get offended because in loving myself, I fail to love them as hard as I love myself.

That is a fact.

There is a large population of people who are looking and searching for the best answer to the age old question, “How do I love myself?”

I am sorry but I am not in that group of people.

I somehow seem to be lumped in with the narcissists and vain, the “uppity” and snooty crowd because I have never doubted my brilliance, my divinity or the Goddess who resides within me.

However, because I honor that divine Spark within me and think of myself in a glorious way, I have been called the above names before. It’s a catch isn’t it?

I don’t need classes or books to tell me how to overcome my shyness or connect with my Inner Goddess. I don’t need workshops to help lift me up. I am already there. But because I am already there, and don’t need help on how to get there, I am outcasted and ridiculed. I am either the anomaly or a fraud; however I am not the real deal in self love, because well, I don’t look like what self-love is meant to look like. I am TOO confident, TOO good with my boundaries and TOO self involved. 

In this blog, I am addressing a small, overlooked issue that remains (to this day) overlooked because it seems insensitive to talk about it when clearly there are other people (the majority) on the opposite end of the spectrum who do not face this issue.

What is the issue?

The issue is that we have created a world to be in constant need of something and to deny the existence of those who have no need of anything. Specifically in the issue of unconditional love. 

See, I love myself unconditionally. What does that mean to me?

It means that no matter what I do or say or think, I still love me. I love me in spite of my faults, my glories, my weaknesses and my strengths.

I understand me and I know me. I know that despite what is exhibited on the outside, or what people’s perceptions are of me, they don’t know me like i know me. That’s why someone else cannot tell me MY truth or what I meant by what I did. That is their perception and they are entitled to it.

I love myself so hard that even when people tell me their perceptions of me and say it like it is fact not opinion, I don’t correct them, get defensive, attack or withdraw. I have enough love within me, that I can listen to what they say and still hold space for them and their opinions of me without feeling the need to respond.

When someone loves themselves unconditionally, they are afforded a freedom to live in the moments they create without guilt or regret over past mistakes or anxiety and restlessness about the future. They are able to navigate through life easily because they are peace with it all. Loving yourself affords you a freedom to be happy; despite what other people feel or think about you. It’s worth the isolation if anything!

So in realizing my super power (loving myself and accepting myself regardless of what the world thinks of me), I decided to share some tips if I may with you. Whether you are already in self love with yourself or asking that question, “How do I love myself?”, from my humble opinion here are some ideas to start with:

  1. Recognize that you are complete and whole already

In my opinion, the first step to self-love is realizing that there is nothing to fix or wrong with you. You are already there. Think of buying a fixer-upper first home. What are the feelings there? Excitement to own a home? Check. Excitement to renovate and recreate the original model to what you want? Check. Excitement of all the possibilities that will come by this purchase? Check.

The idea is that you are that original canvas sent from the master architect himself. You get to create the mural you want on it! However if you start off by denying the existence of the original architect, or doubting his work, or picking at perceived flaws with the canvas….then you are off to a rough start!

A better idea is to accept what is your canvas, what the master Architect has sent to you and create your mural as you wish. No doubting, wishing for something different or being critical. Instead be in a place of acceptance and love for what IS there as opposed to what isn’t. Get my drift? Self-love is about acceptance that you are quite perfect and stunning as you are, with no need to change, mimic or be someone else.

2. Choose your cheerleading squad carefully

As I have said before, I don’t give much thought to what people think about me. I am living this life for myself and by my terms. That being said, I tend not to associate with too many people. My acquaintances circle is large and my inner circle is a few I can count on one hand. I like it that way.

I once heard that Oprah is particular about what she hears, to the point when a car service picks her up, they are instructed not to engage in chit chat and not to play music. She doesn’t want to listen to the wrong stuff.

What is the wrong stuff? Gossip, slander, cursing, derogatory remarks. All these sounds can mess with your vibe, your vision, your flow. The same thing with having friends who cannot support you or stay in low vibe behavior.

“Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events and small minds discuss people.”- Eleanor Roosevelt. 

I once had a friend tell me I changed friends as often as people changed underwear. Ok, she exaggerates but there is a kernel of truth in there. My truth is I can be the BEST of friends with people, but once it goes south for me, I am out!

Now some of you might think, “Oh Uma but that is such a lonely road!” Nope, nope, nope it is not. See I have friends since elementary school days that are healthy, positive, successful and thriving. They keep me entertained.

I have parents, siblings and a whole host of cousins and relatives that flood my life with positivity, happiness and joy. They keep me laughing.

I have an amazing partner who teaches me, learns from me and grows with me. He keeps me in love.

And finally, I have my kids who mentor me in the new ways of the new world from their perspective. They keep me inspired.

You can mourn the few you lost along the way or you can celebrate the hundreds who are still there, still positive and still rooting for you. Choose wisely!

3. Understand it is all just an opinion

One defining moment in my life is when I stood up to a bully a couple of years ago (yes I was an adult and bullied!). She was supposedly a friend in my life but her behavior and actions were anything but. She was always critical of me and my life and one day, I had enough and looked her square in the eye and said, “That sounds wonderful, but you know what? It is your opinion I should do it that way and I don’t want to do it that way because my opinion is to do it differently. Your Opinion is Valid BUT YOUR OPINION DOES NOT DEFINE MY REALITY.”

I think she was shook up by the yelling part but it was part frustration and part epiphany when I said it. It’s true! She had an opinion. It wasn’t God’s truth and she didn’t get divine wisdom from the heavens into my affairs. It was just her thought process based off of the way she does things and thinks about things. Its ok, but it’s not gold.

As you learn to see everyone as opinionated people, it helps you tremendously to ease off them and not take it too seriously what they say.

Even if their way saves you $2.34 or 4  minutes, who CARES? Is your aim to get to your grave on time and saving money? Of course not! Your aim is to live your life YOUR WAY and you get to choose whose opinion you take into consideration and whose you toss out with the trash. Either way, don’t feel guilty about it. Just do you.

I can keep writing on this topic because it is my cornerstone of my work. Living authentically, boldly and by my rules and my decisions is important. I hope that this blog touches at least someone in a positive way. What I really want to say to you, is that you are perfect just as you are, you are loved and you matter.

Love and Light until next time,

xo Uma

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Uma Alexandra Beepat is a Consciousness Speaker, Metaphysical Teacher, Intuitive Consultant and Psychic Mediumship Mentor. Uma owns four businesses, is a single mom to two pre-teen boys and lives life large!

To find out more about Uma, visit  http://www.umalotusflower.com

 

 

 

The True You overcomes the Lies of You

You know what’s beautiful about being in the spotlight? Being in the spotlight.

You know what’s horrible about being in the spotlight? Being in the spotlight.

One of the things I have had to deal with over the years, is people’s perceptions of me (usually wrong and false) and the “take backsies” of those false perceptions when they finally meet me.

“Don’t take this the wrong way, but I never liked you until I met you.”

“People say you are such an evil person but I get you! You are so raw and authentic!”

“I am glad I met you because from what I heard, I never thought I would like you.”

At first it use to really bother me. I mean really bother me that there was the idea of people being out there, meeting me and gasp, not liking me.

But as you get older, you get wiser and well honestly you care less so as these situations come up, they tend to rub me less and less. I am ok with it now.

I would like to say I am actually at the point where I can laugh at the silliness of it all. I can say that, because something recently happened concerning this and you know what I did? I laughed. Not an evil laugh as some might believe but a good ole hearty chuckle because I know what I know what I know and that knowing saves me a great deal of heartache and trauma drama.

Recently I had to do a reading for a client who came to me through a mutual acquaintance. This mutual acquaintance no longer approves of me and in fact is so disapproving of me, they tend to share their views about me publicly. So I know something was said about me to this prospective client.

I have to admit, I was kind of curious about this situation I was facing. Do I cancel the reading to stay in integrity to myself or do I go ahead and do this professional work and put my personal opinions to the side?  You betcha, I did the latter and took the client.

Frankly speaking, when it comes to the work I do, I maintain that I work for Spirit and I trust them enough to know that my personal views will not interfere with the reading I had to give. This person did not make me feel uncomfortable or have a threatening presence. I only knew that they were close friends with my former acquaintance and I was more concerned with them being able to receive this Spirit reading fully or having barriers up because of who was delivering the message.

I trusted Spirit though because with this person requesting a reading from me means only one thing to me. They needed my services and they were willing enough to put their personal opinions aside and trust me for this service. I was greatly appreciative and humbled. People can say what they want about me, but at the end of the day, I am a damn good Spirit communicator. People can say what they want about you, but they can’t touch what you are damn good at. 

As I got ready to meet this person for the first time, I prayed and asked Spirit to be with us for this reading and for me to be the clear channel I know I can be. See the truth of the back story is that even though I have the foresight to see what happened and why it happened, I am a girl with feelings and my feelings got hurt with the past actions and how they played out. I can forgive but rarely do I forget. I can move on but I can remember. You can be full of love and light and cautious. It’s definitely a thing. 

I was pleasantly surprised by my client. From the minute she sat down, she addressed the elephant in the room. “I want you to know that I don’t care what is being said about you, I can see your Spirit and it shines beautifully. You are real and you are wonderful and I love you already.” All barriers down, it was time to work.

And this brings me to the crux of this blog. People can SEE you. Not physically see you with their eyes (well of course they can) but see you with their Soul.

As we live these lives we have been given, we will choose to live it the way WE want to live it. This will understandably rub some people the wrong way as through their eyes, they feel they can advise you to do a better job of living your life. It all sounds silly here on screen but truthfully, this is the base of the matter. People want to tell you what to do based off of their perception. Forgive them anyway. 

As you rub people the wrong way, two things can happen.

  1. They move out of your life and move on to other things. They can either judge you for perceived failures or be a bigger person and realize that you are not in alignment with them, it’s not a right or a wrong, and move on peacefully.
  2. They can talk about you to whoever will listen because they really feel the need to justify their perceptions.

With the #1 kind of person, it is a relief. Relationships begin and they end. It is a natural part of life. When you meet someone who is mature enough to walk away and still think you are great….just not great for them….you have met a truly inspired being. I would like to think I am this kind of person because even though there have been many endings to relationships in my life (both romantically and platonically), I really still think each of those people are awesome in their right and wish them well.

With the #2 kind of person, it is a shame. I know it is natural to want to FEEL hurt by their actions but you cannot allow yourself to go down this rabbit hole. Their actions have less to do with you and more to do with their perception of you and how tightly they cling to it.

I don’t accept it when a client says, “I have no choice in the matter.” That is a straight and bold lie. We always have a choice and sometimes we make a choice out of laziness, necessity or lethargy. If a woman is in a bad relationship, she can leave. If she chooses to stay, she will tell you her reason from the get go. “I needed to stay for the kids” or “I don’t work, what will I do?” Still a choice.

When people leave your life, they have a choice to see what they want to see. They absolutely choose it when they see you as a negative person and then choose to share that with others.

Let’s be clear, I am not advocating to lie or hide truths from people; I am asking for a shift in perception.

Have people done me wrong? Absolutely.

Do I have a reason to drag someone’s name through the mud? Definitely.

Do I do it? No.

There is no point. Every relationship has ups and downs and when one is over for me, I tend to recall and reflect on the person’s high qualities and not their faults or mistakes. It is my choice.

I hope you make the same choice because I can personally tell you, it always work out in the end.  I have had several people come back into my life after a period of isolation and I can honestly say, I felt no guilt because I didn’t trash them while they were away. Some of these relationships came back for closure and some came back to be ignited. Life is a journey and we are constantly saying hello and goodbye while on it.

So if you are on the unfortunate end of the stick where people are talking badly about you, forgive them anyways. You know who you are, and you need to stand proud by that. People have a choice whether to believe what is being said about you or think for themselves. I think you will be pleasantly surprised by how many people do the second part.

I was so happy to read for this new person who will now become a regular client of mine, because she loved the session so much. She loved it so much that she went back to our mutual acquaintance and raved about it to her too! I love that Spirit has my back and you know what? Spirit has yours too.

Be you. Be flawless yet authentically you. Those that will love you will flock to you and those that don’t, don’t matter anyways. Find your tribe and live free.

xo Uma

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Uma Alexandra Beepat is the owner of Lotus Wellness Center in Manassas, VA where she teaches classes in spiritual development and provides intuitive consultation services. For more information visit http://www.umalotusflower.com