The Dawn of the Dragon Era

 

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I first met my dragon in 2015. I remember it because I awoke one morning and “saw” a purple and green dragon lying on my roof. I knew it was female and she acknowledged me very sleepily by half opening one eye to look at me and then promptly going back to sleep.

I thought I was losing my shit.

I told my boyfriend about it, expecting him to laugh me all the way to the asylum but he just shrugged and said, “Oh that’s cool. I have one too.” and began to describe how his dragon protects his home, his children and keeps him safe.

What the what?

At first I thought the dragon on top of my house was possibly his and maybe she came to stay with me now that we were dating? Kind of like a bodyguard if you will?

As the months wore on and she wasn’t moving, I began to realize that she was mine. She wasn’t sent to me by my boyfriend, she came to me because of my ascension. 

See at this time I was doing a-lot of inner spiritual work and self-healing. I was clearing MOUNDS OF CRAP from previous lifetimes, my early childhood and the mini disasters picked up along the road of life. I was in pretty deep.

The clearings got rid of my clutter yes, but it also invited in my Twin Flame and now my Dragon.

Fast forward to 2018.

I have seen my green and purple Dragoness from time to time but we never had illustrious, long winded conversations. In fact, she was pretty easy to get along with. I know from past life regression, I have BEEN a dragon in a previous lifetime (my friends might argue I still am) and so having a dragon roommate was not too unpredictable. We like our own company, we keep to ourselves and the only time we really rally together is when my anger is incited by injustices done to myself or others. Oh then she comes out in her full glory.

I haven’t really thought much about her or me or our connection until this year. It seems, this year 2018 is the year of the dragons re-emerging back into the Earth space and while that is all fine and good……for me, I need to know what does it all mean?

My first inclination that the Dragon era was re-emerging came from social media as several of my friends started talking about dragons and falling in love with the dragon power. That didn’t alert me too much, I have seen cycles come and go as people find information and pour over its newness to them while the novelty wore off on me years prior.

It was my second inclination that did me in. It came from my 11 year old son Joshua and his dreams.

See Joshua and I play this game every morning where he comes in to my bedroom to hug me and I ask him, “Joshua what did you dream?” Oh boy he has the best dreams! Whether it is in actuality a dream or a fantasy, it doesn’t phase me because I like to hear where his mind has been or where it is going.

Recently, he came into my room and after our hugs, I asked him, “Joshua what did you dream?” And what came back, I was not prepared for.

“Oh mommy it was wonderful, I went to the dragon land!”

“The dragon land?”

“Yes the land where the dragons live and guess what? A yellow dragon came to me! He is young like me and he said it is time for him to come with me and work with me. So I asked him, where is your mommy? He said she is over there and mommy you wouldn’t believe it, she was beautiful and green and purple! The dragon kid said his mommy works with you mommy and she is with you all the time and now its time for him to be with me.”

If you could see my face, it was drained of all color. My son, who I never had a conversation with about dragons, correctly identified the colors of my dragoness and now has his very own dragon.

When we visited LilyDale a couple of weeks ago, BOTH my sons were in the gift shop admiring the dragon figurines. Nathan liked the red dragon and Joshua of course liked the yellow/gold dragon.

SO…..interesting right? And that is what I chalked it up to….interesting and didn’t think to write about it or address it until today.

Today I received the third inclination and within it, is a message for us all.

See every day I do a reading for myself before going on LIVE YouTube to do the daily reading. Today I decided to do a reading using the dragon deck I have. I didn’t really have a question, more so a request for advice from the Dragon Realm about what is going on with me. I recently came out of a self-imposed hermit mode I placed on myself for the past three months and now that the clouds were clearing, I wanted to know, what was that all about?

I expected to have one card jump out but instead, there were six. Immediately I received clarity and guidance about the past few months of my life, the present and where I am suppose to go in the future.

I am sharing my personal spread with you, because I feel the Dragons will start to call on everyone in a matter of moments, and if this is true, then be prepared. They come with requests a little bigger than your dreams and they are about to shake things up!

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STOP READING AND LOOK AT THE DRAGONS!!!!!!

WHICH ONE CALLS TO YOU?

This blog entry is about to become interactive!

So this third inclination is what blew my mind. See for the past few months I have been doing color therapy and healing on myself and a few of my clients. In color therapy, Spirit picks a color for me for the month and I wear it or visualize using it in healing. In August I had purple, September was Orange, October was Tangerine and November was Amber. The last three months I had different variations of orange….so the first card that flew out of the deck of course came from the orange dragon.

After you have picked a dragon or two that seems to “call” to you, read on below and see what their hidden message is for you as it was for me xo.

Orange Dragon’s message: 

Fifth dimensional orange dragons emit flames of joy, warmth and acceptance. They come to us when our orange Naval chakra is open as this indicates that we are ready to spread joy and oneness. As the world moves towards the new Golden age, soul families are drawing together. Orange dragon help like people up so that they recognize each other and enjoy a sense of belonging. They bring fifth dimensional communities together, communities where people cooperate, and and help each other and practice harmony and oneness.Many of us need to work with them to bring this about. The guidance here is to look for the divine light in everyoneAnd look for the bonds that link you.The orange dragons will help you to spread their light of warped, welcome and acceptance to all people. Let that light shine through you.You will feel a sense of belonging and oneness in your heart will open.This will help you develop your abilities of higher manifestation.

When you visualize the peoples and animals of the world coming together in harmony and acceptance, the orange dragons will flood your vision with their light. Archangel Metatron himself will then take it to energize the plan for Earth. So hold the highest vision for the Golden Age that is being prepared and do your part to bring your community and the world into spiritual accord.This is a message of higher peace.

  •  This message was right on time. I started forming new friendships around September that seem more in alignment with my higher goal and purpose of love and unity. I felt free and I felt loved, more so than I ever have and I wanted to share that love with everyone around me. I unfortunately have had the sad experience of attracting people to me that took from me but had no interest in contributing to me as well. Since the arrival of the Orange dragon, I have attracted many people who contribute to my happiness on the daily, and in turn, I am too happy to give to them as well. Well played Orange Dragon, well played!

Earth and Fire Dragon’s message:

The fourth dimensional Earth and fire dragons are calling on us now to help them clear and light up the new Ley lines of our beautiful planet. The original ley lines were called Dragon lines for they were maintained by the dragons of old. Now a new fifth dimensional Ley line system is being placed into the earth to carry golden Christ energy and prepare the planet for the new Golden age. The dragons of earth and fire move through these lines, creating a path of light through which the higher love frequencies can flow.

Humbly in both these dragons and have a sense of the power of the flaming orange fire combined with the grounding brown earth. Reach out a hand to touch the dragons. Then visualize earth being crisscrossed with lines of gold light. Picture these dragons anchoring this golden Christ energy where ever there are sacred places on the globe. Mentally place a golden flame at each of the sacred portals until you sense our planet lighting up. When ever you are out walking or driving, ask the earth and fire Dragons to travel along the ley lines below you. Bring the Christ light down through you so that they can distribute it where ever it is most needed. When you give, you receive. The earth and fire dragonsWill illuminate the challenges on your route aheadAnd as soon as you have acknowledge them, they will dissolve them. This will smooth your path.It will also allow you to step lightly into your role as a master as a new Golden age approaches.

  • So excited about these dragons as this literally happened from September-November! I had a series of mishaps that could have affected my health, my business and my car! But somehow as quickly as they came up, they dissolved and the only suffering I experienced was delays or changes to my schedule. Thank you Earth and Fire dragons for keeping me safe and sane!

 

Orange-Gold Dragon’s Message:

Arcturus is one of the most advanced star systems in this galaxy and a prototype of earth’s future. Seventh dimensional orange gold dragons come to us when we are ready to become a walking master and help to usher in the new Golden age. When a spiritual army of these dragons moves to a place, They stimulate great evolutionary change in all that they touch.They are flowing into Earth now to help us during the exciting years ahead.

It is not by chance you have incarnated during this extraordinary twenty-year period When our planet is undergoing double dimensional shift. Earth needs spiritual leaders and light bearers. These dragons are blazing their light towards you, for it holds the vision of our fifth dimensional future. They are inspiring you to do your part for the new Golden age on earth.

Receiving this card indicates that it is time to stand in your power and fulfill your destiny. Allow the dragons to enter your energy and breathe into you the vision of earth as it will be. They will give you the strength, wisdom and knowledge that you will need for the transformation ahead. You have much to do and many people to help, and a beautiful seventh dimension orange gold dragon will stay by your side as long as you need it. Be a guiding beacon of light for many.

  • Now this dragon brought interesting energy with it. As I was up leveling, I remember feeling a sense of isolation and loneliness. I felt the world was too consumed with social media popularity, expensive things and living lifestyles that did not reflect our true nature. I didn’t feel moved to speak out about it so instead, I cowered. On my couch by myself and lamented the state of affairs that have us pushing, shoving to get ahead and not caring for each other or looking out for each other’s best interest. Even when I was getting bookings to work with clients, I was just in this state of analysis that prevented me from responding. Instead I referred out to my team, to my partner or to other healers in the community. I didn’t want to entertain the societal desire to be a part of something that was false or untrue. I was losing hope in humanity as it is.

 

  • In time the energy cleared and I am happy to say I am now more lively (thank Goodness) and back to my usual cheery, optimistic self. What this dragon taught me is that yes there is that need for attention and popularity out there, but to look past the glitz and the glam of self worship and instead draw attention to the little girl or boy in that person who is only asking for love and support. I learned to go into the deep, dark places with this dragon but yet, how not to be consumed by it.

 

Dark Blue Dragon’s Message:

These dragons shimmer with golden sparkles of cosmic wisdom for they harness the light of the stars, planets and constellations. When we are ready, they touch us with this light enabling us to embody the illumined energy and wisdom they contain.

While many of us are now able to attune to the ninth dimension, it is still an awesome light filled with joy, love and wisdom beyond our current comprehension. Dark blue galactic dragons can send bursts of this cosmic searchlight through us to ignite the hidden codes of our master blueprint, the seventh dimensional light of our soul, so that we can listen to the voice of the universe. Remember our soul must be at least seventh dimensional for us to receive permission to incarnate on Earth.

This dragon invites you to communicate with the masters of the Universe, the Intergalactic Council where you can contribute your energy for the smooth ascension of the planet. It is time to listen and serve.

Ask the wondrous dragon who has come to you, to tune you in to the Intergalatic Council where you will be offered the honor of petitioning the council. Decide whether your petition is for the welfare of animals or humanity or to assist the ascension of the planet. Then ask the dragon to take you to the council to present your petition.

Dark blue Galatic dragons will also instruct you during meditation or sleep. This will enable you to serve in a galactic capacity and will hugely expand your energy fields.

  • One of the few things I have said these past few months was in secrecy to Rob, my partner. I said, “I don’t know what is going on, but I am having insights into most of the people we know and some that we barely know as well.” It was just flooding me! It didn’t matter what I did, a picture of the person would pop up and a narrative about what was happening in their lives. Later on, I would see validation on social media from their posts. It was wild and interesting at the time and now I have closure on it as I understand it was a time of the Dark Blue Galactic dragon working with me.

 

  • I have to say, that in working with this ninth dimension being, it hurt my head! I was having constant headaches and feeling nauseous most days. As I ascended so did my twin flame and he was experiencing a bout of pneumonia! Now I understand that we were clearing as we purged the past and became lighter to the ride of ninth dimension to communicate with these amazing beings. Rob was channeling too! He began to have visions of others and know on a deeper level what was troubling them before they reached out to him and validated it!

 

Silver Dragon’s Message: 

Fifth dimension shimmering silver dragons radiate divine feminine light and gentle qualities.They bring a harmlessness, love, peace, tranquility, balance, gentleness and calmness.If we are ready they surround our aura in a soft pure silver light that enables us to retain these divine feminine qualities. They also reflect our true self and highest potential back to us by coming to us and looking deep into our eyes. This enables us to see the essence of our soul and discover aspects of ourselves we did not know existed. We are reminded of our divine magnificence and may catch a glimpse of the mighty soul that belongs to us.

Your fifth dimensional soul blueprint contains the keys and codes of your gifts, talents, wisdom and power. Receiving the card suggests that it’s a time for some of this potential to be ignited and brought forward into your life. You’re ready to reveal yourself and be who you truly can be.

Sit quietly and see the shimmering silver Dragon who has come to you. Allow it to reflect back to you the hidden aspects of your soul and your higher possibilities.This may or may not be a conscious process but it will inspire you to express your essence and transform your life. Be ready to develop any gifts or qualities that the dragon draws to your attention. You may surprise yourself.

Omega White Dragon’s Message:

Ninth dimensional Omega dragons carry the Divine feminine vibrations of Shekinah, the universal energy that created our world. Shekinah is the feminine counterpart of Archangel Metatron’s Higher light and represent pure creative vision. These powerful beings are assisting the birth of higher consciousness on earth. Collectively they hold the vision for the new Golden age and this will enable us to achieve the intention set by Lady Gaia for the evolution of the planet.

These beautiful silver white dragons will also help us hold a personal vision for the highest good. Everywhere she starts with a thought that is translated into a picture.These dragons can see into our mind and will hold our vision with us.

When an Omega dragon comes to you, it is time to give birth to a special new project, pathway or aspect of yourself that has remained hidden. Call upon these dragons to fill you with the power of the Divine Feminine. This will enable you to hold your vision and bring it to fruition in a wise, balanced and harmonious way.

Most important of all, ask the Omega Dragon to look into the greatest desire of your soul and hold the vision of bringing it to Manifestation. These dragons can be any shape or size so just still your mind and give them permission to merge with your energy. Ask them to soften your path and the paths of all who hold the vision of the new Golden age.

  • Between the Silver and Omega dragons, I can see and feel their presences currently with me as I work to revamp my work and change direction in time for 2019. I have been toying with several ideas of massive expansions and now I see where the insight is coming from. Thanks Dragons! Yes it is time to ascend and be more vocal in the public. I have hung back awhile now, letting others direct and lead but as each of these six dragons have reminded me in the past three months, there is no one quite like me and they can’t do it the way I can do it. 

The dragons have spoken and it is time to share the fruits of our time together with the world. Look out for it, it will be coming in soon!

As we come to the close of this blog, you either think I am a lunatic or you are quietly interested in what this is all about. Don’t second guess either way! Book me for a 15 minute reading and let’s see which dragon shows up for YOU. You never know what they might have to say or how they can make sense of what is happening to you in your life.

I know these six dragons who have been working with me for the past three months have explained A LOT of unanswered questions I had. Don’t hesitate, book your reading today and let’s see what shows up! I am as interested as you are!

Love and Light (and now Dragon power),

xo Uma

uab-web-31Uma Alexandra Beepat is the owner of Lotus Wellness Center and Lotus Signature Massage school in Manassas, VA. She is quite sane and intelligent! To learn more about Uma, visit http://www.umalotusflower.com

 

 

 

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Codependent or Healthy in Love?

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Relationships are a funny thing. We hear often that famous saying, “Can’t live with them, can’t live without them.” Isn’t that the truth?

Most times we say it in love and with laughter, but for some, this phrase is an actual statement into a deeper issue, one that supercedes fun, light and love. It’s about codependency.

What IS codependency? According to Wikipedia, codependency is the term used to describe a dysfunctional relationship where one person supports or enables another person’s addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement.

Among the core characteristics of codependency, the most common theme is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity. Like whoa.

Aren’t we supposed to have our OWN identity in relationships?

While for most of us, we believe so, for some codependent people, the belief is that they are not complete until they are in a relationship and that person they are in love with, completes them.

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I mean who can forget that scene in the Jerry Maguire movie when he says those same words, “You complete me.” 

It sounds romantic and I am sure for some, it is a desire to hear these exact words but I urge you to STOP! It is another Hollywood scenario that sounds better on screen than in real life.

Remember 50 Shades of Grey? Very exciting movie and book, but think about it in real life. Think of it especially with a partner who may not be a milionaire and owns a hundred companies and looks like Christian Grey. Hey realistically most of us can’t or won’t attract that kind of guy into our lives in this lifetime (being real not pessimistic). Would it be as romantic if your guy lived on his friends’ couches and didn’t hold down a job? I thought so.

In life, we have to learn to discern what sounds more like a great fantasy or what can actually work in our life. Most times, romantic fantasies need to stay just there, in fantasy.

Here are three signs of a codependent relationship. If you notice some or all of these, hang tight. I got you. I will also talk about connections in love xo.

Signs of a Codependent Relationship:

1. Your Sense of Purpose is delayed as you tend to your partner’s needs 

When I was  younger, I was very  much caught up in a codependent relationship with a boyfriend. I was a rising star at my college and given many blessings to advance forward in my path, but truthfully, I cared more about how he felt than my future. I remember there was a leadership conference and each college in the NorthEast United States were allowed to send two representatives from their school. Of course I was selected to represent my school and guess what I did? I threw it away to spend the week with my boyfriend.

When you are in a codependent relationship, the other person seems more important than you. Their needs, their desires, their wants are catered to and yours barely are acknowledged.

To break out of this mold, (and yes you can) the power scales need to be balanced. Start by taking inventory of a month. Are you only doing activities your partner wants to do or are your needs met? If you notice a tipping of the scales in their direction, have a talk with them and let them know that this is an issue for you and you would like it to be more balanced in your relationship. Either they will agree with you or not, and then you get to decide how that goes. But for now, start with inventory. Take an honest look at your relationship and decide how it feels.

 In its broadest definition, a codependent is someone who cannot function from his or her innate self and whose thinking and behavior is instead organized around another person, or even a process, or substance.

2. You believe the other person is responsible for your happiness 

In the first sign mentioned above, it is expected that the scales are as balanced as they can be to make it an equal relationship. This balancing does NOT equal out to your partner catering to you to make you happy.

One time I was arguing with a boyfriend when I was 14. I remember this clearly because of what I said and his response.

Me: ” I am so unhappy! It is your responsibility to make me happy in this relationship!”

Him: “Well then we are screwed because it is not my job to make you happy, that is your job. My job is to focus on my happiness and together we create a happy relationship.”

Lord that boy was smart. Smart and right.

No one can make you happy. YOU know this! But yet, once we get in relationships, it seems like all logic goes out the window and for some of us, we turn into whiny little babies who need constant attention.

We start placing blame when things go wrong and never think to look at ourselves. Why is this?

Sometimes we place the heavy obligation of happiness on another’s shoulder because we don’t want to face the truth that the relationship is not meeting our needs. We may know that it is time to move on but fear of being alone or dying single, keeps us in place. Then when we stay, we become unhappy and place that blame on our partners’ shoulders.

Be the bigger person. If you are not happy in your relationship, leave. If you are not happy with yourself, get help. Whatever it is, do anything but blame your partner. Because you know what? If your partner truly is the source of your unhappiness, then go back to step 1 and leave. It really is that simple.

I believe some people feel if they complain about it, it will somehow magically change to what they want. This is not how the Law of Attraction works. In fact, the more you complain about a source of displeasure, the more of it you will attract. I have tried repeatedly to share this information with several people in my life and guess what happens? Absolutely nothing. They keep complaining, and they keep staying in the rut they are in. In life, you have to know when to help and when to walk away and for these individuals, I tend to walk away.

If you can’t create a happy life using the resources you were given or have attained in life, then no one else will do it for you. This is your burden to bear. Figure it out. 

3) You need to be around that person all the time 

When you are with them, you feel ALIVE and full of love and happiness. When you are away from them, you call/text/snapchat often. When you can’t reach them, you are dying on the inside. If you do have peace and quiet in your alone time, it is because you know they are at work or the dentist and can’t access their phone. You feel happy and content.

Sounds familiar?

Being alone is necessary. It is in our times of silence and solitude that we uncover the parts of ourselves that need the work or can do with some improvements. When you are around someone all the time, (and yes it can be the same person or different people), you are engaged in interactions. There is no time to reflect, meditate and do some self-analysis.

I think some people use people for constant companionship because they don’t want to have introspection! They know on a deeper level, there are some issues to sort out but don’t have the drive, interest or courage to do so.

I have met some highly functional and successful broken people and have been impressed! They have shrouded themselves in such a strong invisibility cloak, it would make Harry Potter jealous!

Try to factor in some alone time away from your partner. How does it feel?

If it brings up anxiety, stress or fears, then you are onto something. You may have hidden out in a codependent relationship for awhile but cleverly crafted it as, “We are a team” or “We do things together”.

No you are not. You were born into this world alone and you will go out alone. This precious partner of yours will not sacrifice their life to go with you at the end of your timeline. And more than likely, they will eventually move on and be with someone else until their end of time. This is natural because at the core of it, we each need to survive and thrive.

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Now that we have some signs of codependency, let’s look at some signs of a healthy relationship. For some of you, there is a possibility to change a codependent relationship to a healthy one so why not try now? Just because you have identified being in a codependent relationship, doesn’t mean you have to be stuck in it. Here are three signs of a healthy relationship:

1) You Respect each other’s Boundaries 

My partner loves riding his Harley and loves his dog. He will not tolerate anyone in his life that does not respect his need to ride and his time with his dog. I can tell you that I am not particularly interested in riding on the back of his motorcycle and I am not a pet owner or dog lover (I know shoot me). How do we make it work? We respect the boundaries.

I join him on his weekend bike rallies by either driving there with him or staying back so he can go with his friends who also love to ride. When we plan our schedules, we factor in time for him to go riding. I find something else to do. With his dog Silas, we include him in our plans and then we create events without him. We work together while respecting each other’s boundaries. 

When you truly listen to your partner, you are not listening to respond but rather to understand. What makes them tick? What sets them off? And what can you do in the process to respect their process while also respecting yours?

Boundaries are needed in relationships! It lets each person know the level of safety and comfort available based on needs. Once needs are respected, each partner can relax more into the relationship and develop deeper bonds.

Take a personal inventory of your own relationships now. Do you know your partner’s boundaries? Do you respect and uphold them? What can you do differently to show respect for what your partner requires?

When you respect your partner’s boundaries, you allow room for connection because they trust you. They trust that you will not hurt them, not by your words but by your actions. This means everything to a person. I know it does for me.

If you don’t know what your boundaries or your partner’s boundaries are, no problem! Start making a list! I like to make a page with three columns and write down all the things I want in a relationship, what I can compromise on and what I cannot or will  not tolerate. For example, I want a kind person in relationship, I can compromise on if they are a pet owner and I will not tolerate smokers. Once you make your list, ask your partner to do the same and it doesn’t matter if you have been together for 2 months or 20 years, start now in communicating! Boundaries can change over time as we age, so don’t be surprised if your partner says things that seem new to you. This is the process of connecting and if you stay with it, you will reach deeper levels of your relationship!

2) You have no problem saying NO to your partner

One time I was really into studying the ancient arts of tantric practice and I dragged my partner along with me. We were both in a room with our tantric teacher, me in a sarong and him in a sarong that barely covered his body. He looked delicious but uncomfortable! He went through the private session with me and loved it but he put his foot down and refused to go to a group class with nakedness where we talked about intimacy! He drew his line!

And you know what I did? I respected it. I didn’t push, beg, manipulate or anything of the sort. I agreed and found ways to continue my tantra study through books and online courses and then used the practices with him in the sanctity of our home.

In a relationship, you can say no. You don’t have to cosign to everything. Sometimes I see women doing the craziest things to please a man! Things they would never do but did it to keep his attention. Guess what happens? Invariably a breakup happens and those same women go bat s**t crazy! You know why right? Because they sacrificed their time, money and effort to be with him and they can’t for the life of themselves, figure out why he wouldn’t want to stay.

Say yes to the things that make you happy and interested to do. When my partner asks me to go visit his daughter in Myrtle Beach, hell yes please! When he asks me to go to a football game in the dead of winter, not so much.

You have to have a firm basis of stability in your relationship to be able to say no though. If you are insecure and unsure about yourself and the relationship, chances are you are going to keep saying yes to things even though you rather not. What happens is you will start to break down energetically and exhaustion sets in. You overextend yourself and you will feel it in the long run. Concerning your partner, you may shift blame to them for your tiredness or crankiness even though you were the one that said yes!

Save yourselves and your relationship this nightmare by just honoring where you are, what you need and what you can and cannot do. Trust me, they will love you for it and sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder.

3) You have a life outside of your relationship

When I do relationship coaching, I invariable start out with my clients drawing a pie chart and having them fill in each pie piece with what is needed for a well rounded life. Some write health, love, social, money, career, spirituality etc…. And then I have them color in the pie pieces on a scale from 1-10 with 1 meaning little to no effort and 10 as maxium effort.

For my codependent clients, most times the love piece is fully colored in and for the other parts there is a lot of blank paper!

Guess what happens to these same people who have break up? They absolutely crumble.

When you place all your worth, time and attention on any ONE of those pie pieces, your whole world can end if that piece is taken away. It is important to have a life outside of your relationship. Start by asking these questions:

  • Do I have a daily spiritual practice?
  • Do I spend enough time with my friends and social circle?
  • Do I work hard enough or too hard?
  • Do I take vacations?
  • Do I work out daily or weekly?
  • Do i spend enough time with my partner, too much or too little?

When you start asking these questions, you train yourself to see where your attention is. If you noticed in one week, you never meditated, worked out, made a home cooked meal and spent all your time at work….you can see how imbalanced a life is.

Create a life where you thrive in all areas of your life so if one unfortunately has to be removed, you can mourn in appropriation. It doesn’t consume you because there are so many other pieces that are working.

In the end, we all are pursuing happiness. If we attach this happiness to a relationship, we can create sadness by its departure.

Learn how to have healthy habits for the sake of your healthy body, positive mind and thriving soul. In return, your relationships in your life will blossom as you now have more to contribute to them than take from them. How wonderful that will be for everyone!

Until  next time, stay in the love and the light

xo Uma

Untitled design (9)Uma is an intuitive consultant, consciousness coach, published author, inspirational speaker and the owner of Lotus Wellness Center in Northern VA.

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I don’t do KnockOffs…

I am not a flashy person with nice, name brand things. It’s true! In fact, most of my name brand things come to me generously through my mom, dad and brothers who like the flashy things and every now and then on a birthday or Christmas occasion, like to get me one too.

When I do get the flashy things, I love it. I love it because it’s good quality stuff and the difference in the price DOES make a difference in the feel, durability, dependability and experience of the product.

When I was in college, I made do with Payless shoes and Walmart purses. I am not knocking them, hey they worked for me for a long time. But as I got older, I wanted more. I didn’t want my shoes to only last the summer or my purse to make it to a year and then shred on me. I wanted good, quality products that could last a bit longer so the turnaround on them would stretch. I am really not a shopper so I delay the process for as long as I can bear. If I am buying something, please Lord let it last my lifetime so I don’t have to go shopping.

At this point, some of you might have started to wonder if I am off my rocker. “Uma done did it now and lost her damn mind sitting her talking about shoes and purses.”

Or have I? (cue evil laugh and rubbing of hands together)

Maybe not. You know there is a purpose to this blog, so hang in there, I am getting there.

I am talking about quality versus quantity and real versus artificial because I feel the need to remind people that in life, if you take the quick route, you will eventually get what you paid for.

At my center I teach a variety of classes; some certification classes that follow the protocol of the parent company I am subscribed to and the rest Spirit Led. Spirit Led just means that Spirit woke me up (usually around 3am) and channeled a class to hold. I obediently follow through and it becomes one of the most amazing experiences myself and the students experience. It’s not made up, it is destined. 

As fun as my job is, there is the little quirks that pop up from time to time. In the beginning it was “nail on chalkboard” bearable but now, after so many years and so many times, its more like an annoying fly that buzzes too close to your pina colada on the beach. Shoo fly, don’t bother me!

One of these quirks is my observation of how many people that take a class or two in metaphysics and then become teachers in a turnaround faster than you can say, “Olly Olly Oxen Free!”

I remember working with a business coach awhile back and after assessing my center and what I do, she made the remark, “I have to give it to you-you create classes and teach and basically you are teaching your competition. Well isn’t that a doozy.” It is.

Now let’s be clear. I am not knocking anyone who has a life path and destiny to become a spiritual teacher or to own a wellness center similar to mine. In fact, there are many who created their businesses and have my stamp of approval with them because Spirit told me they would go far and do well as is their calling. I am only too happy to oblige.

But for the few, who do it for money, fame and recognition…. this is a post for you. 

Now some of you at this point might think I am being mean, shady or condescending. You have a right to your perspective but hear me out, and if you can stomach it, read through the rest of this blog before you make a firm decision that Uma is catty and immature. I am pretty sure you will have a different opinion by the end.

I am writing this blog in hopes it reaches the people who are doing these things and if it does, this is what I would like to say to them: “Stop it. You are doing more harm than good.”

Now why would I say that? Did I just pull it out from thin air? No.

Did Spirit tell me to say it to give people complexes? No.

Do I feel better or superior to others and feel the need to put people down? No.

I say it because if it is anything I can be known for in this lifetime, it is my integrity. I truly care about people. Most times people may think I don’t because I am not a warm, squishy kind of person but you know, my type of caring is not in that category. I am genuinely worried about people fulfilling their soul missions and making sure they are acting in authenticity and alignment with their purpose.

So with that being said, here are the reasons why a newbie student turned newbie teacher is not a good idea and why when you pay more or go with more, you get more:

  1. Newbie teachers break the cardinal rule.

Yes there is a cardinal rule of learning and this is how it goes: First you learn, then you DO and then you teach. Now depending on who you talk to, this can span months to years to decades. While I am a bit concerned about the timeline, I am more concerned with the concept.

My partner would laugh every time we took a class together. Immediately when we returned home, I would call up close friends or clients and offer them a session of what I just learned for free or at a discounted rate. My goal would be to get a set number of students in and practice the session. Usually by the end of the week, I have the protocol memorized and can do it easily without my manuals or handouts. This is the doing part of the protocol. Then after months or years of doing, I would feel confident to teach because I have seen all aspects (or alot) of the process and can handle situations as they arise.

I had one student learn a class from me in one month and then two months later she was offering the class AND at the cost I charged for the class. I was floored but I waited to see what Spirit would do. I knew this woman was not competent enough to teach this class, it was quite technical and had set procedures to follow. How could she possibly pull it off without even practicing it outside of the one session she did in class? I was worried and anxious thinking of her students who signed up and I prayed for them, that they would get alot out of the class and somehow it would all magically pull together to be a successful event. Well I didn’t even have to do that. Spirit ensured that class did not happen and as the days led up to it, one by one her students started dropping out. I was part relieved and also part sorry for her. I knew she needed that class for financial purposes but also my integrity said this was not right. Spirit agreed.

When you learn something, you need time to understand that thing. You need to sit with it, breathe it in, experiment with it and heck even fail at it. You have to mess up, try again and work it, work it, work it until you find your flow. Once you arrive at that point (however long it takes), you will know it’s time to teach it.

Usually I create classes because students ask me to create them. The way my process works is I get a message from Spirit to teach a class. I say, “That’s fine” but I need validation that this is meant to be and soon after that, the right people come my way to either collaborate or to be taught. That simple.

I became a past life regression therapist this way. I was working on a client, doing a regular reflexology session and as I was talking to my client, my voice naturally went into a hypnotic flow and my client went into a light trance. She started to recall a past life concerning an issue she was facing in her present day circumstances. There was alot of healing and tears that came from this process and I found it fascinating. I didn’t think about it anymore until months later when I was sailing on the river Seine in France and realized I was reading the book, “Many Lives many Masters” by the amazing Dr. Brian Weiss. I was being drawn to the path of past life regression and didn’t realize it. When I went home, I booked a class and got in to Dr. Weiss training program to become a past life therapist. It is still one of my favorite modalities to facilitate to this day.

I have never put up a class because someone else was offering it or to compete because the energy is wrong from the get go. And I have learned over the years of doing this, that if the energy and Spirit is not there, it is more work than necessary and shouldn’t be done. I have in fact CANCELED classes that had people in it! Why? Because the energy felt off and in acting in my integrity, I didn’t feel the students would get the same powerful delivery I could have delivered if I did it another time. As you can imagine this is frustrating to some but for those who know me and respect my process, they are relieved. Relieved to have a teacher who cares more about their experience than her bank account.

All this talk about money leads me to #2.

2. Newbie teachers are often in the grip of Ego not Spirit

I understand. There is no judgment here but a quiet request to really check in before you decide to offer this class you just learned. Are you sure you can pull it off? Will you do it justice? Will the student have a better experience with another teacher who has been doing it a lot longer than you? Do you have enough integrity to admit that?

When I teach Tuning Fork Therapy®, I RAVE about my teacher and the founder of the modality, Francine Milford. I WISH all my students could take it firsthand from her, the way I did. Francine is partly retired but comes out of retirement to teach from time to time (well at least for me!). I LOVE classes with her partly because its at her house in sunny FL and she makes me lunch too. 🙂 Mostly I love classes with Francine because she is so knowledgeable about everything and I always leave learning more than what I paid for.

I am proud to say that every teacher of Tuning Fork Therapy® in Northern Virginia came through me as I was the only person in this area taught personally by Francine Milford. I uphold this class to the highest respect because of that responsibility and also because students in my area cannot get a personal training from Francine unless they go to Florida to learn from her. So it is my responsibility I feel to give them as close an experience as I can to what she offers. It is nowhere near it of course! But still I try.

Francine sees my integrity in what I do and recently she gifted me 13 boxes sent by mail of over 225+ attunements and classes. Most of her life’s work, I now possess and my responsibility is to teach it to continue Francine’s legacy. As you can expect, I will take my time reviewing the classes and knowledge before offering it to students, because I want to make sure I teach it the way Francine would want me to teach it and to do the courses justice. It has to be right.

When I see Newbie teachers hustling to put up a class they just learned (and may not have been a good student at), I know they want the ROI quickly. I get it. When we spend money, we need to earn money but I believe there should be a pause button here somewhere and then a golden question to follow. A question like, “How does this work out for the student?”

DO you really feel you can deliver a wonderful experience and turn that student ON to the love of learning they are about to receive? Or will this be another failed class with let downs and disappointments?

Each class I offer, I prep for weeks and sometimes months before I actually step into a classroom. There is the outlining, storyboarding, mission planning, checks and balances, dry run through, emotional run through and spiritual run through before I even advertise the darned thing! And once it is advertised, there are more checks and balances, fielding Q&As and inventory before we get to class. Once in class, I hardly eat (or breathe) as I am so focused, tuned in, taped in and turned on to Spirit to deliver precisely what is needed for that group and by Spirit’s commands.

Newbie teacher are you prepared for all of that? Can you DO all of that? And lastly, are you interested in creating all of that?

One time I had a former client tell me they wanted to become a teacher. I knew this was a mistake. For one, my client was an extreme introvert so ummm….not sure how that would work.

I started to detail the work I did before, during and after class times and the amount of interpersonal communication required for EACH student and they backed down immediately!

“Oh heck no, I don’t want to talk to people that much! I don’t even like people!”

Bingo.

But you know how I saw that? Cause I am an experienced metaphysical teacher and highly intuitive person. I am trained to see what one cannot see at the present moment.

Usually when a Newbie teacher offers up a class, their drive is ROI, excitement, money, fame and/or significance. My advice is to take the time to learn what you know and trust that Spirit has your back. By rushing to put up an event you are not well trained in, you run the risk of messing up the class and not giving the student a pleasant experience.

There is no rush, no destination, only the journey. Trust the process. 

3. You get what you paid for

Sometimes I have potential clients call me for a session and when they realize my price, they would back out because “I am too expensive.” I once had a gentleman ask me, “Why would I pay you that rate for a session when I can go down the street and get it for ___(lesser amount)?”

I don’t even fight them on it. At that point, I agree with them and let them know that is a good deal and they should go there. Most times when I do that, I am met with silence on the phone. They didn’t expect me to say that and I guess they were hoping I would fight for their business. That’s not necessary.

Firstly, there are plenty of good, established healers in the area and I am sure if they go to someone else, they will get what they need. I have my clients, the people who want to see me and be seen by me. Other healers have theirs. We do not need to fight over this.

It is not my desire to work with everyone. I have no reason to. I made a call out to the Universe concerning the time of clients I want to see and so far, I have been getting my clientele. I am not hurting either. In the nearly ten years I have been working as an intuitive and healer, I have seen close to 10,000 clients. I know because I keep track of my sessions and I see roughly around 1,000 people/year.

My clientele come to me because they have been everywhere else and it is not working.

My clientele trust me to deliver the services they need and want with the highest integrity and passion I can bring.

My clientele do not fight me or question me on my services or prices because they implicitly trust that quality is more important to me than quantity as it is to them.

It is what makes me a genuine, real healer and teacher; not a knock off.

My reason for writing this blog is simple. I want you to know who I am and what I am about.

I love the work I do and it pains me to see charlatans degrade, abuse and villify my profession. Please people, let’s be more conscientious of what we are doing and how we are doing it.

The formula again: Learn. Do. Teach.

Some may say I made myself the whistle blower concerning this topic or the self appointed monitor. I am ok with those titles because we don’t have a regulating board of members or accreditation to our work. So someone has to say something and say it loud and clear. So I will.

You get what you pay for.

If you want quality, find the trusted, reliable, long standing healers/teachers in your community. It will cost you less in the long run.

My love and light with you until next time,

xo Uma

Untitled design (9)Uma Alexandra Beepat is an Intuitive Consultant, Metaphysical Teacher, Consciousness Coach and Published Author.

Uma owns Lotus Wellness Center and three other businesses in Northern Virginia.

For more information on Uma, visit http://www.umalotusflower.com

 

 

Why I walk the Spiritualist Path

I came to the path of Spiritualism in 2016 when I first stepped onto the holy grounds of the Arthur Findlay college in Stansted, UK. Ok it wasn’t holy, but it felt like that to me. Similiar to the Harry Potter movie where young witches and wizards got off the Hogwarts Express to Hogwarts, I too felt bedazzled by the huge castle, wintery grounds and sense of magic in the air. I was taken.

As I began my week long studies in mediumship, I learned too about the path of Spiritualism and quickly joined the SNU (Spiritual National Union) pledging my support whole heartedly.

Why?

Spiritualism is a religion separate from Christianity but, yet it tends to get grouped in with it. This happens because of the many similarities of the religions in act but differences in intent. It is these differences in intent that drew me in, and I hope after reading this article, it will draw you in too (at least intellectually :))

For an example in differences in intent, both Christianity and Spiritualism believe in a heaven and hell. Christianity believes people end up in either based on their deeds. Spiritualism believes that heaven and hell are not actual places but states of consciousness that souls go to based on the Law of Attraction.

As a Spiritualist grows, the learning of new knowledge is often at odds with their past learning. For this and other reasons, it is imperative to clearly express the beliefs and teachings of Modern Spiritualism.

The biggest difference (in my eyes) from Spiritualism and Christianity is that Christianity views man as flawed. We “fell from grace” and needed to atone for our sins. Spiritualism acknowledges the part of the Bible where God created man in his likeness and sees the soul as a divine spark of light. This religion acknowledges that man has free will, and each person has the right to be creative and responsible for themselves.

While both religions reference the Bible, there is a major difference here again. Christianity views the Bible as infallible and in Spiritualism, the bible is seen as fallible because even though it is inspired writing and came through the interpretation of men; which is prone to mistakes.

Christianity requires a belief in Jesus Christ as the only Savior and Son of God who can help us mortals gain salvation. In Spiritualism, Jesus is respected as a great Spiritual Teacher of the natural laws, to which Spiritualists subscribe. We are each responsible for our own salvation.

I like the path of Spiritualism because as a religion, its main focus is to raise the level of consciousness of humankind. This goal is in alignment with my goal and hence why I call myself a Spiritualist.

Spiritualism creates and encourages growth of one’s own individuality. Unlike other religions where we have to depend on someone else or something else for our salvation, Spiritualism makes us responsible for our own lives. I like that.  I spent many years as a Christian, and as much as I love the religion and rituals, I didn’t like the idea that a beautiful, compassionate, loving person like Jesus had to suffer and eventually die for my sins. That is the description of vicarious atonement and thankfully it has no place in Spiritualism.

One of the positive aspects of Spiritualism is to objectify life as a means for us spiritual beings to unfold physically, mentally and spiritually in a balanced state conducive to progression. It recognizes the divinity within each of us that we are not a body with a soul, but that we are souls with physical bodies.

From this viewpoint, we then get to see religion not as a static dogma or creed but flowing as a way of life. As we continue to understand the purpose and the continuity of this life beyond death, helps us to remove the fear of death.

I remember the days of old when I sat in church as a young child, and listened to the Priest go on and on about the hellfire, brimstone and horror that awaited my young, sinful flesh. No thank you! I am grateful that Spiritualism has taught me that death is not the cessation of life but a change of condition and continuation of our consciousness.

While most religions speak of the hereafter, only Spiritualism proves the existence of the hereafter through spirit communication and the phenomena of Spiritualism.  As a practicing evidential medium, it is as much awe for myself as it is for my clients when I bring through communication from their loved ones with details and specifics. I would be lying if I said each time I did it, I got less sensitized. I am always in amazement at what Spirit brings and just how much they prove the continuity of life after death.

Another great aspect of Spiritualism is the encouragement to seek further education to develop our spiritual talents. We are supported to learn and not dwell on lower energy such as anger and envy.

In ending, I will not judge another religion for people. For me, I came to the path of Spiritualism because I needed the positive messages, uplifting views on death and dying and encouragement in my spiritual development. Basically, I like how I feel on the Spiritualist path and because it has helped me so much, I have decided to share it with any and everyone who would like to hear about it. After all, as Ram Dass said quite eloquently: “We are all walking each other home.” Let’s get there peaceful, happy and content.

Love and Light until next time,

xo Uma

Uma Alexandra Beepat is an Intuitive Consultant, Psychic Medium and Spiritual Teacher in the Northern Virginia area where she owns Lotus Wellness Center and Lotus Signature Massage School. To find out more about Uma, visit http://www.umalotusflower.com

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The Sin of Loving Yourself

I love myself.

I really love myself.

I love myself so much that sometimes people get offended.

They get offended because in loving myself, I fail to love them as hard as I love myself.

That is a fact.

There is a large population of people who are looking and searching for the best answer to the age old question, “How do I love myself?”

I am sorry but I am not in that group of people.

I somehow seem to be lumped in with the narcissists and vain, the “uppity” and snooty crowd because I have never doubted my brilliance, my divinity or the Goddess who resides within me.

However, because I honor that divine Spark within me and think of myself in a glorious way, I have been called the above names before. It’s a catch isn’t it?

I don’t need classes or books to tell me how to overcome my shyness or connect with my Inner Goddess. I don’t need workshops to help lift me up. I am already there. But because I am already there, and don’t need help on how to get there, I am outcasted and ridiculed. I am either the anomaly or a fraud; however I am not the real deal in self love, because well, I don’t look like what self-love is meant to look like. I am TOO confident, TOO good with my boundaries and TOO self involved. 

In this blog, I am addressing a small, overlooked issue that remains (to this day) overlooked because it seems insensitive to talk about it when clearly there are other people (the majority) on the opposite end of the spectrum who do not face this issue.

What is the issue?

The issue is that we have created a world to be in constant need of something and to deny the existence of those who have no need of anything. Specifically in the issue of unconditional love. 

See, I love myself unconditionally. What does that mean to me?

It means that no matter what I do or say or think, I still love me. I love me in spite of my faults, my glories, my weaknesses and my strengths.

I understand me and I know me. I know that despite what is exhibited on the outside, or what people’s perceptions are of me, they don’t know me like i know me. That’s why someone else cannot tell me MY truth or what I meant by what I did. That is their perception and they are entitled to it.

I love myself so hard that even when people tell me their perceptions of me and say it like it is fact not opinion, I don’t correct them, get defensive, attack or withdraw. I have enough love within me, that I can listen to what they say and still hold space for them and their opinions of me without feeling the need to respond.

When someone loves themselves unconditionally, they are afforded a freedom to live in the moments they create without guilt or regret over past mistakes or anxiety and restlessness about the future. They are able to navigate through life easily because they are peace with it all. Loving yourself affords you a freedom to be happy; despite what other people feel or think about you. It’s worth the isolation if anything!

So in realizing my super power (loving myself and accepting myself regardless of what the world thinks of me), I decided to share some tips if I may with you. Whether you are already in self love with yourself or asking that question, “How do I love myself?”, from my humble opinion here are some ideas to start with:

  1. Recognize that you are complete and whole already

In my opinion, the first step to self-love is realizing that there is nothing to fix or wrong with you. You are already there. Think of buying a fixer-upper first home. What are the feelings there? Excitement to own a home? Check. Excitement to renovate and recreate the original model to what you want? Check. Excitement of all the possibilities that will come by this purchase? Check.

The idea is that you are that original canvas sent from the master architect himself. You get to create the mural you want on it! However if you start off by denying the existence of the original architect, or doubting his work, or picking at perceived flaws with the canvas….then you are off to a rough start!

A better idea is to accept what is your canvas, what the master Architect has sent to you and create your mural as you wish. No doubting, wishing for something different or being critical. Instead be in a place of acceptance and love for what IS there as opposed to what isn’t. Get my drift? Self-love is about acceptance that you are quite perfect and stunning as you are, with no need to change, mimic or be someone else.

2. Choose your cheerleading squad carefully

As I have said before, I don’t give much thought to what people think about me. I am living this life for myself and by my terms. That being said, I tend not to associate with too many people. My acquaintances circle is large and my inner circle is a few I can count on one hand. I like it that way.

I once heard that Oprah is particular about what she hears, to the point when a car service picks her up, they are instructed not to engage in chit chat and not to play music. She doesn’t want to listen to the wrong stuff.

What is the wrong stuff? Gossip, slander, cursing, derogatory remarks. All these sounds can mess with your vibe, your vision, your flow. The same thing with having friends who cannot support you or stay in low vibe behavior.

“Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events and small minds discuss people.”- Eleanor Roosevelt. 

I once had a friend tell me I changed friends as often as people changed underwear. Ok, she exaggerates but there is a kernel of truth in there. My truth is I can be the BEST of friends with people, but once it goes south for me, I am out!

Now some of you might think, “Oh Uma but that is such a lonely road!” Nope, nope, nope it is not. See I have friends since elementary school days that are healthy, positive, successful and thriving. They keep me entertained.

I have parents, siblings and a whole host of cousins and relatives that flood my life with positivity, happiness and joy. They keep me laughing.

I have an amazing partner who teaches me, learns from me and grows with me. He keeps me in love.

And finally, I have my kids who mentor me in the new ways of the new world from their perspective. They keep me inspired.

You can mourn the few you lost along the way or you can celebrate the hundreds who are still there, still positive and still rooting for you. Choose wisely!

3. Understand it is all just an opinion

One defining moment in my life is when I stood up to a bully a couple of years ago (yes I was an adult and bullied!). She was supposedly a friend in my life but her behavior and actions were anything but. She was always critical of me and my life and one day, I had enough and looked her square in the eye and said, “That sounds wonderful, but you know what? It is your opinion I should do it that way and I don’t want to do it that way because my opinion is to do it differently. Your Opinion is Valid BUT YOUR OPINION DOES NOT DEFINE MY REALITY.”

I think she was shook up by the yelling part but it was part frustration and part epiphany when I said it. It’s true! She had an opinion. It wasn’t God’s truth and she didn’t get divine wisdom from the heavens into my affairs. It was just her thought process based off of the way she does things and thinks about things. Its ok, but it’s not gold.

As you learn to see everyone as opinionated people, it helps you tremendously to ease off them and not take it too seriously what they say.

Even if their way saves you $2.34 or 4  minutes, who CARES? Is your aim to get to your grave on time and saving money? Of course not! Your aim is to live your life YOUR WAY and you get to choose whose opinion you take into consideration and whose you toss out with the trash. Either way, don’t feel guilty about it. Just do you.

I can keep writing on this topic because it is my cornerstone of my work. Living authentically, boldly and by my rules and my decisions is important. I hope that this blog touches at least someone in a positive way. What I really want to say to you, is that you are perfect just as you are, you are loved and you matter.

Love and Light until next time,

xo Uma

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Uma Alexandra Beepat is a Consciousness Speaker, Metaphysical Teacher, Intuitive Consultant and Psychic Mediumship Mentor. Uma owns four businesses, is a single mom to two pre-teen boys and lives life large!

To find out more about Uma, visit  http://www.umalotusflower.com

 

 

 

The Microcosm within the Macrocosm

This is an important time in history and by that, I am referring to the Dr. Christine Blasey Ford’s testimony against Brett Kavanaugh. It is important on a personal scale between these two people, on a community scale as the decisions are made to appoint or not appoint Kavanaugh and on a global scale as the Divine Feminine energy rises around the world.

Whichever side you are on, whatever your beliefs or opinions, it’s about to get ugly….. and not for reasons you think.

  1. The pain is still fresh years later

For many women and men who have been sexually abused or put in uncomfortable positions, this case is reopening old wounds. I have heard the testimony from Dr. Ford myself and it created a lot of discomfort and unease within me due to my own sexual abuse history. I watched Brett Kavanaugh defend his name and deny the claims, and it angered me as I personally thought of my own attacker and how he would act if I called him out.

Even though many of us suffered sexual abuse or misconduct at the hands of another many years ago, no amount of time or healing will wipe that memory clean. It still hurts on some level.

I have been active in my personal healing concerning this issue and for many years I thought I had a grip on it. I was able to heal my past, forgive my attackers, cut old cords and even get involved in a loving relationship with my soulmate. I am the mom of two boys and I am able to provide unconditional love and acceptance to them as boys who will later become men. Life was rosy, clean and full until….until it wasn’t.

As I sat glued to the TV screen watching in discomfort as Dr. Ford rehashed her memory of the event, I felt sad. As the senators grilled her and asked the questions, I felt anger. Many of those questions I could have answered myself.

“Yes I didn’t come forward because I didn’t think anyone would believe me or it wouldn’t get addressed.”

“Yes I only came forward now because circumstances created forced me to.”

As you can see, I am writing from a personal perspective….and this is what I want you to be aware of. That everyone who is watching this unfold, will come from a personal perspective.

  • People who have been abused will identify with this event in support of Dr. Ford
  • People who have been in Kavanaugh’s shoes or close to it, will try to simmer it down or be less involved with it, hoping for it to go away.
  • People who have not been abused but have loved ones who have, will be in support of Dr. Ford.

The list can go on. On some level, it affects us all. Whether it affects you personally or you are a parent of daughters and think of their lives….it will affect us.

So my request is for us to be kind to each other. As we create space to hear each other’s viewpoints on this matter, let us not only see from our viewpoint but from others as well. 

2. Men are being held accountable

It is no coincidence that Dr. Ford’s testimony came the same week Bill Cosby was sentenced to prison for a number of years. The Divine Feminine principle is on the rise and many are already hearing and feeling her call. Women are being asked (no longer politely) to stand up, unite and fight back against the men who were not honoring the Divine Masculine principle in healthy ways.

Not all men are to blame. We KNOW this. If you are a man and worried about being attacked for being a man, you are not getting the idea. ONLY men who have abused the privilege of masculine energy, love and higher principles are being called to the bar right now. Only those who fed on the weak, are on trial right now. So let’s not make this a divide between the male and female societies. It is a call to conscious trial for those who have abused power. Innocent men are not blamed or called up and for innocent men I thank you for living in unity with the Divine Feminine principle within yourselves and with the women in society. May you continue to grow in love, strength and spirituality.

This call to trial is not to humiliate or demoralize the accused either. At least I don’t believe so. I believe it is the Universe’s way to get the wayward Soul to go straight again, at least before they check out of this earth school.

Bill Cosby will have alot of time to think and hopefully make amends with his past behavior while in jail. No interviews, shows or books to write-just him and the walls. May he come clean to himself at least and receive his awareness at the age of 81. Better late than never.

The same for Brett Kavanaugh. At some point, I hope he is able to look at his situation from another perspective and see why his actions were hurtful to another. Ego will probably keep him from sharing that awareness with anyone else and that is fine. It takes a big person to admit their mistakes. If he can at least see it from Dr. Ford’s perspective and from the perspective of others who have come out with allegations against him, it may be a big learning lesson for him.

Let us not allow this event to divide us, but to unite us in compassion for each other and for ourselves. Women can do the same things men can do. They can abuse the Divine Feminine principle as well. As we continue to watch events unfold, let us remember this. One bad apple does not ruin a barrel of apples. Similarly we do not throw out a barrel of apples over one bad apple. It is about justice within reason, compassion and servitude. May we work together to heal our society. 

3. Awareness is growing in our society

I know for myself I am becoming much more mindful of my own behavior and speech towards others. I liked to call myself the “truth teller” or the “strict teacher” because I am passionate about helping people move past their excuses and getting on their path of success. I love hearing people talk about their goals in life and even more so when they make me part of it. I feel its my duty to help them get there when they entrust their lives in my hands.

As these worldly events unfold, I am taking a deeper look at myself and how my passion for helping may come across to those I am helping. Is it really helpful? Is it actually hurting more than helping?

I can see awareness growing in myself as I ask these questions and I know that other people in society are also having the same awakening.

We will never be perfect, we don’t need to be. What we need to do though is understand our roles, be compassionate with ourselves and others and do our best every chance we get.

Whatever the outcome with Dr. Ford and Brett Kavanaugh, I am praying for both of them to receive healing, grow in awareness of self and contribute this new awareness to society. For me, I am going to do the same.

I am aware enough to know that I have not hurt people purposefully. I am aware enough to know that my drive and passion in thoughts, words and life can inadvertently hurt people and for that I am sorry. I am sorry for anyone who has come in contact with me and left with a bitter taste in their mouth. I am sorry and it is my promise to do better.

I do not need the Universe to make me take a stand for my actions, I chose to do it now with my awareness and I hope I can motivate others to do the same. Let us be accountable for our actions and make amends. We are all in this together and it is time for us to stand together as an united whole not parts divided. We are stronger as a collective and together we can rise.

May you all be well.

xo Uma Alexandra Beepat

Learn to Grow. Grow to Learn.

I fear the path of spirituality and where it is leading to.

From my personal observations, the scene has changed quite dramatically from the time I entered almost thirty years ago and I am almost positive the old timers….those from decades past, probably thought the same of my generation.

Are we getting better or worse in our hidden agendas, motives, secrets and lies?

Are we truly living to Be or living to get ahead?

What are we avoiding so much by pursuing our new found Spiritualities?

As much as I am outgoing and love to be in large circles discussing everything and anything remotely interesting….I also am quite introverted, concerned with deeper thought about the natural of our reality.

In my introverted moments, I have taken to observing people and matching what they say with their words to what their body shares with its language. Arguably, 90% of the time it doesn’t match up.

I am trained in body linguistics and I notice that there is tension, stiffness and unease when some people are making statements that are not in alignment with their higher truth. I don’t say a word to them about it.

Why? Well it is said in communication, be the observer not the evaluator; meaning that if you mix the two, the communication becomes unhealthy and violent with others.

For example, this is a mix of observation and evaluation: John is a lazy man.

This is an observation: I have noticed that when John is not working, he likes to lie on the couch and watch his netflix shows. He will invariably do this every night when he comes home from work before having dinner and going to bed.

So why am I worried about the spiritual path? Because it seems more people these days are making statements where they combine the two-observation and evaluation- and then pass it off as the Golden Truth or the only way it is. This coupled with not enough shadow work is seeming to me to be the downfall of the Spiritual generation.

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There is a term for communication with observation and evaluation; it is called Violent Communication and it is named so because it brings pain, harm and threat to those receiving it.

As a mentor in psychic spiritual development, it is imperative that I teach from this concept because it keeps our “egoic” self out of the reading and allow Spirit to work through us.

As a spiritual teacher it is imperative that I teach from this concept because truly, there IS more than one way of doing something. My way is one way, the student’s way is another and there are plenty more where that came from.

I am being triggered by those in our community that take a stance, have only one perspective, create a lack of choice, create fear or disgust and bring heaviness to the divine path of spirituality.

It needs to stop.

As most of you know, I own a holistic wellness center and massage school in Northern Virginia. I hold about 10-20events/month and I am receiving new faces at many events. Within this population of new faces, I would venture to say that about 75% of them have come from another group or school that taught in such a way, it broke their Spirit, their confidence and their interest in evolving spiritually. It breaks my heart.

Of course, I say nothing. It is not my agenda to discuss another teacher’s work or get into the “WHY” of what they did. That would be observation with evaluation. No, instead I focus on what is presenting before me-the meek, the broken, the hurt and the confused; and my agenda is simply to clarify, to expand, to inspire and to create.

I frequently encourage my students to try out other Meetup groups and teachers in their Spiritual journeying. It is important to get a well rounded flavor of spiritual thought, actions and processes so the student can decide what works for them and what doesn’t. I am neither offended or proud when a student leaves my practice or joins my practice respectively. I am concerned on what they are receiving and how they are presenting in life.

A long time ago, someone had said that I was more committed to someone’s spiritual path than being liked or appreciated. That stuck with me because that is my Truth. I do not say things just to be on your good side, I say things to invoke thought and perspective on issues you are stuck on.

I am not here to be liked, I am here to be respected for the outstanding work I do and how I have helped you on your path in some way. 

In communication, I have also noticed that people are not listening as much to listen but instead to respond. You can tell by the quick answers they provide without even hearing out the question. They have already formulated what is to be said. It is to be said because it is to match the ideal they have set. The ideal they have set is to match the picture in their head of who they are.

It sounds amazing for LOA but for digging deep, it is a nightmare.

When Rob and myself book packages with clients, many times it is because that first session or two is spent peeling back the layers of ideals and grand schemes. Yes I understand you want to get there, but before we do, I need to understand the shadow self and what you are capable of when you self-destruct.

And yes you will self-destruct. It happens in all of us and I would like to think it is a fail safe mechanism instilled in us to prevent over-anything. Over-success, Over-fame, Over-fortune, Over-joy, Over-pride, Over-greed. You get it, all the overs and overs.

The “Overs” take us out of this moment and to a place far, far away. It stops us from being in the moment and learning how to accept something as is, without evaluation.

There is no right and wrong, good or bad…it just IS.

Lastly, as I see the growth of spirituality rise, I see the darkness of the shadow self shrink. And it is not shrinking because people are doing the work; no in fact, it is shrinking due to ignorance, non-acknowledgment and drive.

  1. Ignorance: If I ignore those deeper feelings and keep chanting or saying positive affirmations, all day every day, things will change. I call this the ‘Fake it Till You Make It” method. Many new age Spiritualists are using it and while it feels fresh, positive and upbeat….because of its hidden agenda to hide the darkness undertone, it just comes across as an uncomfortable dinner with family who is fighting but putting on a show for visiting friends and loved ones. It feels fake and then it gets awkward because I realize that these people are really believing they are putting on a show and I am buying it, but I am not buying it and then I feel guilty about that because there is so much effort here to convince me and I really should make an effort to believe it…..sigh. This is what happens when I get around these kinds of people and then I start to act strange around them because all of this is going on in my head.
  2. Non-Acknowledgment: I can deal with the ignorant because at least they KNOW they have a dark side but choose to ignore it. A certain group of people I cannot be around is the non-acknowledgers. Oh boy, this is a doozy. It is a doozy because they don’t even know they have a problem. It may sound shocking but not quite..think of the friend who is in an abusive relationship or has a pattern of dating the same men. Think of the person who is always losing their job and sleeping on couches from time to time. With this group of people, I feel compassion for them because they are unaware of the problem they are experiencing which is creating the life situations they are in. It would take me a good year of working with one of these people to get through and even then, success in a turn around in not quite guaranteed, We normally tend to fight going into our shadow work and when you have someone new learning about their shadow self and then told it is responsible for the majority of decisions they are making? It might be brain overload!
  3. The Driven: There is a definite change in culture as of recent; with recent being about 3-4 years ago. When my partner and I came to holistic study and learning, we came to fix ourselves. It was not even a thought to become a healer, own a center or create spiritual community. We were selfish! We wanted the healing for ourselves and we bonded over our respective pain bodies. We motivated each other and Rob did an hour of energy healing on himself every day and I did two hours of spiritual practice on myself every day. I called them my MERCY mornings which stood for Meditation, Exercise, Reiki, Card Reading and Yoga. I latter moved away from that description and changed it to MERRY mornings and created a workshop out of it to help people develop their own spiritual practice. In doing our hourly self-healing practices every day, we were facing our shadow self head on. We were not hiding, dismissing or creating goals to avoid- we were facing our demons head on and mostly by ourselves without the help of others or community. These days I meet people who recently had an awakening, stated taking a couple of classes and have decided they want to be a healer or own a center. I would be a millionaire if I collected money from people who told me their goal in life was to own a wellness center and do all the things I did.

The thing is, if you really want that, then you have to go get that. BUT, one favor I am going to ask you….is to go within, spend some time with yourself and ask yourself truly, “What is it that I deeply desire?”

I once had a student remark that I made everything look effortless and when she looked at me, she thought Effortless. 

I will tell you now that it is such a nicer feeling (and an effortless one!) when Spirit has something planned for you and you discover that as you grow and mature on the Spiritual path than if you decide something is for you and it may not be for you.

In owning a wellness center, Spirit deemed it necessary for me to have this. I have not ever thought about owning a wellness center in my life. As I started to grow and develop, I started seeing visions of this wellness center. I doubted it. Then Spirit sent messages through clients and friends who also had the vision and then I doubted less. Then Spirit brought the money, people, location and business to me. So I accepted.

Everything I have on the Spiritual Path came to me easy, in perfect timing and with abundance. Why? Because I had no agenda. LITERALLY.

A brief synopsis of my journey thus far:

  1. Had two kids –> realized I did not want to use my Master’s degree in Health Care Management to work the regular 9-5 anymore. I wanted to be home with my babies! So what next Spirit?
  2. Spirit pointed me and paid for massage school outright! A year of learning, making new friends, growing and evolving. I need a job now Spirit! What’s next?
  3. Hired at my first spa job a month before I graduated massage school. Pointed in the direction of Reiki and Reflexology. Love this! What’s next?
  4. Spirit created enough income for me to leave the spa jobs (3 at the time) and work full time from home. Yaaaah! This is what I wanted! To be accessible to my kids. Awesome! What’s next?
  5. Spirit created enough income for me to rent space outside of my home to regain privacy of home. My popularity started growing and I had to relearn boundaries and professional separation between my personal life and professional life. Lots of lessons, I am humbled. What’s next?
  6. Lots of requests from clients to write a book with all my sage advice and wisdom. Spirit woke me at 3am and we wrote the book and was done by 11am with the outline. Within two weeks, the book was completed. Sold and is a big hit with readers. Wow, how humbling, I am a published author now. Thank you Spirit. What’s next?
  7. Lots of massage school closings in our area, we need massage therapists on the forefront of healing and self-care. Spirit provided the means and resources to open a massage school. Location? Spirit created space down one floor in the same building I am in! Yaaah! Ease and Joy! No commute!

I will stop there, because you get the picture! I had no plans. If you talked to me 10 years ago and told me all the things I would accomplish by the time I turned 40, I would have thought you were on something.

In each scenario, I am happy and content with what is in front of me. When I take a class, I take it for the love of learning not to reteach it at my studio. There are so many modalities I am qualified and certified in that I have not yet taught at the center. Why? Simply because Spirit has not deemed it necessary yet. And if and when they do, I will be ready to do such a thing.

If you are reading this, and you are triggered in anyway by what you are reading, I do apologize for how you feel. I recommend you go into those feelings because that is the beginning of the shadow work. To understand your triggers and why you feel pain from my words or anyone’s words. It can only sting if there is some element of truth in it that you are denying yourself from seeing. See it, deal with it and work through it.

In closing, I would like to reiterate with what I started with. I fear the path of spirituality and where it is leading to.

When I started out in spiritual community ten years ago, I was spoiled. I had the most delicious experiences with people who were vulnerable, raw, open, honest and authentic. No one sought to be on a pedestal above others and no one was learning or attending events to become a healer. We were rejoicing in learning and sharing space, digging into our shadow selves and learning from them. This was my experience and it proved invaluable in making me the person I am today. I wish this for everyone too.

I will keep observing and paying attention. I may not say much but I will continue to think alot. It is my deepest desire we return to a state of vulnerability and humility.

Where we can show up for each other with compassion and love, instead of envy or entitlement.

Where we can listen to hear and not listen to respond.

Where we can be the constant student and step up to the path of the teacher when we are called to it by Spirit.

Where we can sit at the feet of teachers we hold in high regard not because of the number of certificates they have but because of the beauty of their words well chiseled over time from pain, suffering, learning, growing and sharing.

Where we can exist without an agenda or need to be something we are not.

Where we can stop degrading ourselves by “searching for a purpose” and revel in the joy of living.

Because truly there is no greater purpose than that.

Until next time,

I will see you and see you xo

Uma

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Uma Alexandra Beepat

http://www.umalotusflower.com