I don’t do KnockOffs…

I am not a flashy person with nice, name brand things. It’s true! In fact, most of my name brand things come to me generously through my mom, dad and brothers who like the flashy things and every now and then on a birthday or Christmas occasion, like to get me one too.

When I do get the flashy things, I love it. I love it because it’s good quality stuff and the difference in the price DOES make a difference in the feel, durability, dependability and experience of the product.

When I was in college, I made do with Payless shoes and Walmart purses. I am not knocking them, hey they worked for me for a long time. But as I got older, I wanted more. I didn’t want my shoes to only last the summer or my purse to make it to a year and then shred on me. I wanted good, quality products that could last a bit longer so the turnaround on them would stretch. I am really not a shopper so I delay the process for as long as I can bear. If I am buying something, please Lord let it last my lifetime so I don’t have to go shopping.

At this point, some of you might have started to wonder if I am off my rocker. “Uma done did it now and lost her damn mind sitting her talking about shoes and purses.”

Or have I? (cue evil laugh and rubbing of hands together)

Maybe not. You know there is a purpose to this blog, so hang in there, I am getting there.

I am talking about quality versus quantity and real versus artificial because I feel the need to remind people that in life, if you take the quick route, you will eventually get what you paid for.

At my center I teach a variety of classes; some certification classes that follow the protocol of the parent company I am subscribed to and the rest Spirit Led. Spirit Led just means that Spirit woke me up (usually around 3am) and channeled a class to hold. I obediently follow through and it becomes one of the most amazing experiences myself and the students experience. It’s not made up, it is destined. 

As fun as my job is, there is the little quirks that pop up from time to time. In the beginning it was “nail on chalkboard” bearable but now, after so many years and so many times, its more like an annoying fly that buzzes too close to your pina colada on the beach. Shoo fly, don’t bother me!

One of these quirks is my observation of how many people that take a class or two in metaphysics and then become teachers in a turnaround faster than you can say, “Olly Olly Oxen Free!”

I remember working with a business coach awhile back and after assessing my center and what I do, she made the remark, “I have to give it to you-you create classes and teach and basically you are teaching your competition. Well isn’t that a doozy.” It is.

Now let’s be clear. I am not knocking anyone who has a life path and destiny to become a spiritual teacher or to own a wellness center similar to mine. In fact, there are many who created their businesses and have my stamp of approval with them because Spirit told me they would go far and do well as is their calling. I am only too happy to oblige.

But for the few, who do it for money, fame and recognition…. this is a post for you. 

Now some of you at this point might think I am being mean, shady or condescending. You have a right to your perspective but hear me out, and if you can stomach it, read through the rest of this blog before you make a firm decision that Uma is catty and immature. I am pretty sure you will have a different opinion by the end.

I am writing this blog in hopes it reaches the people who are doing these things and if it does, this is what I would like to say to them: “Stop it. You are doing more harm than good.”

Now why would I say that? Did I just pull it out from thin air? No.

Did Spirit tell me to say it to give people complexes? No.

Do I feel better or superior to others and feel the need to put people down? No.

I say it because if it is anything I can be known for in this lifetime, it is my integrity. I truly care about people. Most times people may think I don’t because I am not a warm, squishy kind of person but you know, my type of caring is not in that category. I am genuinely worried about people fulfilling their soul missions and making sure they are acting in authenticity and alignment with their purpose.

So with that being said, here are the reasons why a newbie student turned newbie teacher is not a good idea and why when you pay more or go with more, you get more:

  1. Newbie teachers break the cardinal rule.

Yes there is a cardinal rule of learning and this is how it goes: First you learn, then you DO and then you teach. Now depending on who you talk to, this can span months to years to decades. While I am a bit concerned about the timeline, I am more concerned with the concept.

My partner would laugh every time we took a class together. Immediately when we returned home, I would call up close friends or clients and offer them a session of what I just learned for free or at a discounted rate. My goal would be to get a set number of students in and practice the session. Usually by the end of the week, I have the protocol memorized and can do it easily without my manuals or handouts. This is the doing part of the protocol. Then after months or years of doing, I would feel confident to teach because I have seen all aspects (or alot) of the process and can handle situations as they arise.

I had one student learn a class from me in one month and then two months later she was offering the class AND at the cost I charged for the class. I was floored but I waited to see what Spirit would do. I knew this woman was not competent enough to teach this class, it was quite technical and had set procedures to follow. How could she possibly pull it off without even practicing it outside of the one session she did in class? I was worried and anxious thinking of her students who signed up and I prayed for them, that they would get alot out of the class and somehow it would all magically pull together to be a successful event. Well I didn’t even have to do that. Spirit ensured that class did not happen and as the days led up to it, one by one her students started dropping out. I was part relieved and also part sorry for her. I knew she needed that class for financial purposes but also my integrity said this was not right. Spirit agreed.

When you learn something, you need time to understand that thing. You need to sit with it, breathe it in, experiment with it and heck even fail at it. You have to mess up, try again and work it, work it, work it until you find your flow. Once you arrive at that point (however long it takes), you will know it’s time to teach it.

Usually I create classes because students ask me to create them. The way my process works is I get a message from Spirit to teach a class. I say, “That’s fine” but I need validation that this is meant to be and soon after that, the right people come my way to either collaborate or to be taught. That simple.

I became a past life regression therapist this way. I was working on a client, doing a regular reflexology session and as I was talking to my client, my voice naturally went into a hypnotic flow and my client went into a light trance. She started to recall a past life concerning an issue she was facing in her present day circumstances. There was alot of healing and tears that came from this process and I found it fascinating. I didn’t think about it anymore until months later when I was sailing on the river Seine in France and realized I was reading the book, “Many Lives many Masters” by the amazing Dr. Brian Weiss. I was being drawn to the path of past life regression and didn’t realize it. When I went home, I booked a class and got in to Dr. Weiss training program to become a past life therapist. It is still one of my favorite modalities to facilitate to this day.

I have never put up a class because someone else was offering it or to compete because the energy is wrong from the get go. And I have learned over the years of doing this, that if the energy and Spirit is not there, it is more work than necessary and shouldn’t be done. I have in fact CANCELED classes that had people in it! Why? Because the energy felt off and in acting in my integrity, I didn’t feel the students would get the same powerful delivery I could have delivered if I did it another time. As you can imagine this is frustrating to some but for those who know me and respect my process, they are relieved. Relieved to have a teacher who cares more about their experience than her bank account.

All this talk about money leads me to #2.

2. Newbie teachers are often in the grip of Ego not Spirit

I understand. There is no judgment here but a quiet request to really check in before you decide to offer this class you just learned. Are you sure you can pull it off? Will you do it justice? Will the student have a better experience with another teacher who has been doing it a lot longer than you? Do you have enough integrity to admit that?

When I teach Tuning Fork Therapy®, I RAVE about my teacher and the founder of the modality, Francine Milford. I WISH all my students could take it firsthand from her, the way I did. Francine is partly retired but comes out of retirement to teach from time to time (well at least for me!). I LOVE classes with her partly because its at her house in sunny FL and she makes me lunch too. 🙂 Mostly I love classes with Francine because she is so knowledgeable about everything and I always leave learning more than what I paid for.

I am proud to say that every teacher of Tuning Fork Therapy® in Northern Virginia came through me as I was the only person in this area taught personally by Francine Milford. I uphold this class to the highest respect because of that responsibility and also because students in my area cannot get a personal training from Francine unless they go to Florida to learn from her. So it is my responsibility I feel to give them as close an experience as I can to what she offers. It is nowhere near it of course! But still I try.

Francine sees my integrity in what I do and recently she gifted me 13 boxes sent by mail of over 225+ attunements and classes. Most of her life’s work, I now possess and my responsibility is to teach it to continue Francine’s legacy. As you can expect, I will take my time reviewing the classes and knowledge before offering it to students, because I want to make sure I teach it the way Francine would want me to teach it and to do the courses justice. It has to be right.

When I see Newbie teachers hustling to put up a class they just learned (and may not have been a good student at), I know they want the ROI quickly. I get it. When we spend money, we need to earn money but I believe there should be a pause button here somewhere and then a golden question to follow. A question like, “How does this work out for the student?”

DO you really feel you can deliver a wonderful experience and turn that student ON to the love of learning they are about to receive? Or will this be another failed class with let downs and disappointments?

Each class I offer, I prep for weeks and sometimes months before I actually step into a classroom. There is the outlining, storyboarding, mission planning, checks and balances, dry run through, emotional run through and spiritual run through before I even advertise the darned thing! And once it is advertised, there are more checks and balances, fielding Q&As and inventory before we get to class. Once in class, I hardly eat (or breathe) as I am so focused, tuned in, taped in and turned on to Spirit to deliver precisely what is needed for that group and by Spirit’s commands.

Newbie teacher are you prepared for all of that? Can you DO all of that? And lastly, are you interested in creating all of that?

One time I had a former client tell me they wanted to become a teacher. I knew this was a mistake. For one, my client was an extreme introvert so ummm….not sure how that would work.

I started to detail the work I did before, during and after class times and the amount of interpersonal communication required for EACH student and they backed down immediately!

“Oh heck no, I don’t want to talk to people that much! I don’t even like people!”

Bingo.

But you know how I saw that? Cause I am an experienced metaphysical teacher and highly intuitive person. I am trained to see what one cannot see at the present moment.

Usually when a Newbie teacher offers up a class, their drive is ROI, excitement, money, fame and/or significance. My advice is to take the time to learn what you know and trust that Spirit has your back. By rushing to put up an event you are not well trained in, you run the risk of messing up the class and not giving the student a pleasant experience.

There is no rush, no destination, only the journey. Trust the process. 

3. You get what you paid for

Sometimes I have potential clients call me for a session and when they realize my price, they would back out because “I am too expensive.” I once had a gentleman ask me, “Why would I pay you that rate for a session when I can go down the street and get it for ___(lesser amount)?”

I don’t even fight them on it. At that point, I agree with them and let them know that is a good deal and they should go there. Most times when I do that, I am met with silence on the phone. They didn’t expect me to say that and I guess they were hoping I would fight for their business. That’s not necessary.

Firstly, there are plenty of good, established healers in the area and I am sure if they go to someone else, they will get what they need. I have my clients, the people who want to see me and be seen by me. Other healers have theirs. We do not need to fight over this.

It is not my desire to work with everyone. I have no reason to. I made a call out to the Universe concerning the time of clients I want to see and so far, I have been getting my clientele. I am not hurting either. In the nearly ten years I have been working as an intuitive and healer, I have seen close to 10,000 clients. I know because I keep track of my sessions and I see roughly around 1,000 people/year.

My clientele come to me because they have been everywhere else and it is not working.

My clientele trust me to deliver the services they need and want with the highest integrity and passion I can bring.

My clientele do not fight me or question me on my services or prices because they implicitly trust that quality is more important to me than quantity as it is to them.

It is what makes me a genuine, real healer and teacher; not a knock off.

My reason for writing this blog is simple. I want you to know who I am and what I am about.

I love the work I do and it pains me to see charlatans degrade, abuse and villify my profession. Please people, let’s be more conscientious of what we are doing and how we are doing it.

The formula again: Learn. Do. Teach.

Some may say I made myself the whistle blower concerning this topic or the self appointed monitor. I am ok with those titles because we don’t have a regulating board of members or accreditation to our work. So someone has to say something and say it loud and clear. So I will.

You get what you pay for.

If you want quality, find the trusted, reliable, long standing healers/teachers in your community. It will cost you less in the long run.

My love and light with you until next time,

xo Uma

Untitled design (9)Uma Alexandra Beepat is an Intuitive Consultant, Metaphysical Teacher, Consciousness Coach and Published Author.

Uma owns Lotus Wellness Center and three other businesses in Northern Virginia.

For more information on Uma, visit http://www.umalotusflower.com

 

 

Why I walk the Spiritualist Path

I came to the path of Spiritualism in 2016 when I first stepped onto the holy grounds of the Arthur Findlay college in Stansted, UK. Ok it wasn’t holy, but it felt like that to me. Similiar to the Harry Potter movie where young witches and wizards got off the Hogwarts Express to Hogwarts, I too felt bedazzled by the huge castle, wintery grounds and sense of magic in the air. I was taken.

As I began my week long studies in mediumship, I learned too about the path of Spiritualism and quickly joined the SNU (Spiritual National Union) pledging my support whole heartedly.

Why?

Spiritualism is a religion separate from Christianity but, yet it tends to get grouped in with it. This happens because of the many similarities of the religions in act but differences in intent. It is these differences in intent that drew me in, and I hope after reading this article, it will draw you in too (at least intellectually :))

For an example in differences in intent, both Christianity and Spiritualism believe in a heaven and hell. Christianity believes people end up in either based on their deeds. Spiritualism believes that heaven and hell are not actual places but states of consciousness that souls go to based on the Law of Attraction.

As a Spiritualist grows, the learning of new knowledge is often at odds with their past learning. For this and other reasons, it is imperative to clearly express the beliefs and teachings of Modern Spiritualism.

The biggest difference (in my eyes) from Spiritualism and Christianity is that Christianity views man as flawed. We “fell from grace” and needed to atone for our sins. Spiritualism acknowledges the part of the Bible where God created man in his likeness and sees the soul as a divine spark of light. This religion acknowledges that man has free will, and each person has the right to be creative and responsible for themselves.

While both religions reference the Bible, there is a major difference here again. Christianity views the Bible as infallible and in Spiritualism, the bible is seen as fallible because even though it is inspired writing and came through the interpretation of men; which is prone to mistakes.

Christianity requires a belief in Jesus Christ as the only Savior and Son of God who can help us mortals gain salvation. In Spiritualism, Jesus is respected as a great Spiritual Teacher of the natural laws, to which Spiritualists subscribe. We are each responsible for our own salvation.

I like the path of Spiritualism because as a religion, its main focus is to raise the level of consciousness of humankind. This goal is in alignment with my goal and hence why I call myself a Spiritualist.

Spiritualism creates and encourages growth of one’s own individuality. Unlike other religions where we have to depend on someone else or something else for our salvation, Spiritualism makes us responsible for our own lives. I like that.  I spent many years as a Christian, and as much as I love the religion and rituals, I didn’t like the idea that a beautiful, compassionate, loving person like Jesus had to suffer and eventually die for my sins. That is the description of vicarious atonement and thankfully it has no place in Spiritualism.

One of the positive aspects of Spiritualism is to objectify life as a means for us spiritual beings to unfold physically, mentally and spiritually in a balanced state conducive to progression. It recognizes the divinity within each of us that we are not a body with a soul, but that we are souls with physical bodies.

From this viewpoint, we then get to see religion not as a static dogma or creed but flowing as a way of life. As we continue to understand the purpose and the continuity of this life beyond death, helps us to remove the fear of death.

I remember the days of old when I sat in church as a young child, and listened to the Priest go on and on about the hellfire, brimstone and horror that awaited my young, sinful flesh. No thank you! I am grateful that Spiritualism has taught me that death is not the cessation of life but a change of condition and continuation of our consciousness.

While most religions speak of the hereafter, only Spiritualism proves the existence of the hereafter through spirit communication and the phenomena of Spiritualism.  As a practicing evidential medium, it is as much awe for myself as it is for my clients when I bring through communication from their loved ones with details and specifics. I would be lying if I said each time I did it, I got less sensitized. I am always in amazement at what Spirit brings and just how much they prove the continuity of life after death.

Another great aspect of Spiritualism is the encouragement to seek further education to develop our spiritual talents. We are supported to learn and not dwell on lower energy such as anger and envy.

In ending, I will not judge another religion for people. For me, I came to the path of Spiritualism because I needed the positive messages, uplifting views on death and dying and encouragement in my spiritual development. Basically, I like how I feel on the Spiritualist path and because it has helped me so much, I have decided to share it with any and everyone who would like to hear about it. After all, as Ram Dass said quite eloquently: “We are all walking each other home.” Let’s get there peaceful, happy and content.

Love and Light until next time,

xo Uma

Uma Alexandra Beepat is an Intuitive Consultant, Psychic Medium and Spiritual Teacher in the Northern Virginia area where she owns Lotus Wellness Center and Lotus Signature Massage School. To find out more about Uma, visit http://www.umalotusflower.com

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The Sin of Loving Yourself

I love myself.

I really love myself.

I love myself so much that sometimes people get offended.

They get offended because in loving myself, I fail to love them as hard as I love myself.

That is a fact.

There is a large population of people who are looking and searching for the best answer to the age old question, “How do I love myself?”

I am sorry but I am not in that group of people.

I somehow seem to be lumped in with the narcissists and vain, the “uppity” and snooty crowd because I have never doubted my brilliance, my divinity or the Goddess who resides within me.

However, because I honor that divine Spark within me and think of myself in a glorious way, I have been called the above names before. It’s a catch isn’t it?

I don’t need classes or books to tell me how to overcome my shyness or connect with my Inner Goddess. I don’t need workshops to help lift me up. I am already there. But because I am already there, and don’t need help on how to get there, I am outcasted and ridiculed. I am either the anomaly or a fraud; however I am not the real deal in self love, because well, I don’t look like what self-love is meant to look like. I am TOO confident, TOO good with my boundaries and TOO self involved. 

In this blog, I am addressing a small, overlooked issue that remains (to this day) overlooked because it seems insensitive to talk about it when clearly there are other people (the majority) on the opposite end of the spectrum who do not face this issue.

What is the issue?

The issue is that we have created a world to be in constant need of something and to deny the existence of those who have no need of anything. Specifically in the issue of unconditional love. 

See, I love myself unconditionally. What does that mean to me?

It means that no matter what I do or say or think, I still love me. I love me in spite of my faults, my glories, my weaknesses and my strengths.

I understand me and I know me. I know that despite what is exhibited on the outside, or what people’s perceptions are of me, they don’t know me like i know me. That’s why someone else cannot tell me MY truth or what I meant by what I did. That is their perception and they are entitled to it.

I love myself so hard that even when people tell me their perceptions of me and say it like it is fact not opinion, I don’t correct them, get defensive, attack or withdraw. I have enough love within me, that I can listen to what they say and still hold space for them and their opinions of me without feeling the need to respond.

When someone loves themselves unconditionally, they are afforded a freedom to live in the moments they create without guilt or regret over past mistakes or anxiety and restlessness about the future. They are able to navigate through life easily because they are peace with it all. Loving yourself affords you a freedom to be happy; despite what other people feel or think about you. It’s worth the isolation if anything!

So in realizing my super power (loving myself and accepting myself regardless of what the world thinks of me), I decided to share some tips if I may with you. Whether you are already in self love with yourself or asking that question, “How do I love myself?”, from my humble opinion here are some ideas to start with:

  1. Recognize that you are complete and whole already

In my opinion, the first step to self-love is realizing that there is nothing to fix or wrong with you. You are already there. Think of buying a fixer-upper first home. What are the feelings there? Excitement to own a home? Check. Excitement to renovate and recreate the original model to what you want? Check. Excitement of all the possibilities that will come by this purchase? Check.

The idea is that you are that original canvas sent from the master architect himself. You get to create the mural you want on it! However if you start off by denying the existence of the original architect, or doubting his work, or picking at perceived flaws with the canvas….then you are off to a rough start!

A better idea is to accept what is your canvas, what the master Architect has sent to you and create your mural as you wish. No doubting, wishing for something different or being critical. Instead be in a place of acceptance and love for what IS there as opposed to what isn’t. Get my drift? Self-love is about acceptance that you are quite perfect and stunning as you are, with no need to change, mimic or be someone else.

2. Choose your cheerleading squad carefully

As I have said before, I don’t give much thought to what people think about me. I am living this life for myself and by my terms. That being said, I tend not to associate with too many people. My acquaintances circle is large and my inner circle is a few I can count on one hand. I like it that way.

I once heard that Oprah is particular about what she hears, to the point when a car service picks her up, they are instructed not to engage in chit chat and not to play music. She doesn’t want to listen to the wrong stuff.

What is the wrong stuff? Gossip, slander, cursing, derogatory remarks. All these sounds can mess with your vibe, your vision, your flow. The same thing with having friends who cannot support you or stay in low vibe behavior.

“Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events and small minds discuss people.”- Eleanor Roosevelt. 

I once had a friend tell me I changed friends as often as people changed underwear. Ok, she exaggerates but there is a kernel of truth in there. My truth is I can be the BEST of friends with people, but once it goes south for me, I am out!

Now some of you might think, “Oh Uma but that is such a lonely road!” Nope, nope, nope it is not. See I have friends since elementary school days that are healthy, positive, successful and thriving. They keep me entertained.

I have parents, siblings and a whole host of cousins and relatives that flood my life with positivity, happiness and joy. They keep me laughing.

I have an amazing partner who teaches me, learns from me and grows with me. He keeps me in love.

And finally, I have my kids who mentor me in the new ways of the new world from their perspective. They keep me inspired.

You can mourn the few you lost along the way or you can celebrate the hundreds who are still there, still positive and still rooting for you. Choose wisely!

3. Understand it is all just an opinion

One defining moment in my life is when I stood up to a bully a couple of years ago (yes I was an adult and bullied!). She was supposedly a friend in my life but her behavior and actions were anything but. She was always critical of me and my life and one day, I had enough and looked her square in the eye and said, “That sounds wonderful, but you know what? It is your opinion I should do it that way and I don’t want to do it that way because my opinion is to do it differently. Your Opinion is Valid BUT YOUR OPINION DOES NOT DEFINE MY REALITY.”

I think she was shook up by the yelling part but it was part frustration and part epiphany when I said it. It’s true! She had an opinion. It wasn’t God’s truth and she didn’t get divine wisdom from the heavens into my affairs. It was just her thought process based off of the way she does things and thinks about things. Its ok, but it’s not gold.

As you learn to see everyone as opinionated people, it helps you tremendously to ease off them and not take it too seriously what they say.

Even if their way saves you $2.34 or 4  minutes, who CARES? Is your aim to get to your grave on time and saving money? Of course not! Your aim is to live your life YOUR WAY and you get to choose whose opinion you take into consideration and whose you toss out with the trash. Either way, don’t feel guilty about it. Just do you.

I can keep writing on this topic because it is my cornerstone of my work. Living authentically, boldly and by my rules and my decisions is important. I hope that this blog touches at least someone in a positive way. What I really want to say to you, is that you are perfect just as you are, you are loved and you matter.

Love and Light until next time,

xo Uma

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Uma Alexandra Beepat is a Consciousness Speaker, Metaphysical Teacher, Intuitive Consultant and Psychic Mediumship Mentor. Uma owns four businesses, is a single mom to two pre-teen boys and lives life large!

To find out more about Uma, visit  http://www.umalotusflower.com

 

 

 

The Microcosm within the Macrocosm

This is an important time in history and by that, I am referring to the Dr. Christine Blasey Ford’s testimony against Brett Kavanaugh. It is important on a personal scale between these two people, on a community scale as the decisions are made to appoint or not appoint Kavanaugh and on a global scale as the Divine Feminine energy rises around the world.

Whichever side you are on, whatever your beliefs or opinions, it’s about to get ugly….. and not for reasons you think.

  1. The pain is still fresh years later

For many women and men who have been sexually abused or put in uncomfortable positions, this case is reopening old wounds. I have heard the testimony from Dr. Ford myself and it created a lot of discomfort and unease within me due to my own sexual abuse history. I watched Brett Kavanaugh defend his name and deny the claims, and it angered me as I personally thought of my own attacker and how he would act if I called him out.

Even though many of us suffered sexual abuse or misconduct at the hands of another many years ago, no amount of time or healing will wipe that memory clean. It still hurts on some level.

I have been active in my personal healing concerning this issue and for many years I thought I had a grip on it. I was able to heal my past, forgive my attackers, cut old cords and even get involved in a loving relationship with my soulmate. I am the mom of two boys and I am able to provide unconditional love and acceptance to them as boys who will later become men. Life was rosy, clean and full until….until it wasn’t.

As I sat glued to the TV screen watching in discomfort as Dr. Ford rehashed her memory of the event, I felt sad. As the senators grilled her and asked the questions, I felt anger. Many of those questions I could have answered myself.

“Yes I didn’t come forward because I didn’t think anyone would believe me or it wouldn’t get addressed.”

“Yes I only came forward now because circumstances created forced me to.”

As you can see, I am writing from a personal perspective….and this is what I want you to be aware of. That everyone who is watching this unfold, will come from a personal perspective.

  • People who have been abused will identify with this event in support of Dr. Ford
  • People who have been in Kavanaugh’s shoes or close to it, will try to simmer it down or be less involved with it, hoping for it to go away.
  • People who have not been abused but have loved ones who have, will be in support of Dr. Ford.

The list can go on. On some level, it affects us all. Whether it affects you personally or you are a parent of daughters and think of their lives….it will affect us.

So my request is for us to be kind to each other. As we create space to hear each other’s viewpoints on this matter, let us not only see from our viewpoint but from others as well. 

2. Men are being held accountable

It is no coincidence that Dr. Ford’s testimony came the same week Bill Cosby was sentenced to prison for a number of years. The Divine Feminine principle is on the rise and many are already hearing and feeling her call. Women are being asked (no longer politely) to stand up, unite and fight back against the men who were not honoring the Divine Masculine principle in healthy ways.

Not all men are to blame. We KNOW this. If you are a man and worried about being attacked for being a man, you are not getting the idea. ONLY men who have abused the privilege of masculine energy, love and higher principles are being called to the bar right now. Only those who fed on the weak, are on trial right now. So let’s not make this a divide between the male and female societies. It is a call to conscious trial for those who have abused power. Innocent men are not blamed or called up and for innocent men I thank you for living in unity with the Divine Feminine principle within yourselves and with the women in society. May you continue to grow in love, strength and spirituality.

This call to trial is not to humiliate or demoralize the accused either. At least I don’t believe so. I believe it is the Universe’s way to get the wayward Soul to go straight again, at least before they check out of this earth school.

Bill Cosby will have alot of time to think and hopefully make amends with his past behavior while in jail. No interviews, shows or books to write-just him and the walls. May he come clean to himself at least and receive his awareness at the age of 81. Better late than never.

The same for Brett Kavanaugh. At some point, I hope he is able to look at his situation from another perspective and see why his actions were hurtful to another. Ego will probably keep him from sharing that awareness with anyone else and that is fine. It takes a big person to admit their mistakes. If he can at least see it from Dr. Ford’s perspective and from the perspective of others who have come out with allegations against him, it may be a big learning lesson for him.

Let us not allow this event to divide us, but to unite us in compassion for each other and for ourselves. Women can do the same things men can do. They can abuse the Divine Feminine principle as well. As we continue to watch events unfold, let us remember this. One bad apple does not ruin a barrel of apples. Similarly we do not throw out a barrel of apples over one bad apple. It is about justice within reason, compassion and servitude. May we work together to heal our society. 

3. Awareness is growing in our society

I know for myself I am becoming much more mindful of my own behavior and speech towards others. I liked to call myself the “truth teller” or the “strict teacher” because I am passionate about helping people move past their excuses and getting on their path of success. I love hearing people talk about their goals in life and even more so when they make me part of it. I feel its my duty to help them get there when they entrust their lives in my hands.

As these worldly events unfold, I am taking a deeper look at myself and how my passion for helping may come across to those I am helping. Is it really helpful? Is it actually hurting more than helping?

I can see awareness growing in myself as I ask these questions and I know that other people in society are also having the same awakening.

We will never be perfect, we don’t need to be. What we need to do though is understand our roles, be compassionate with ourselves and others and do our best every chance we get.

Whatever the outcome with Dr. Ford and Brett Kavanaugh, I am praying for both of them to receive healing, grow in awareness of self and contribute this new awareness to society. For me, I am going to do the same.

I am aware enough to know that I have not hurt people purposefully. I am aware enough to know that my drive and passion in thoughts, words and life can inadvertently hurt people and for that I am sorry. I am sorry for anyone who has come in contact with me and left with a bitter taste in their mouth. I am sorry and it is my promise to do better.

I do not need the Universe to make me take a stand for my actions, I chose to do it now with my awareness and I hope I can motivate others to do the same. Let us be accountable for our actions and make amends. We are all in this together and it is time for us to stand together as an united whole not parts divided. We are stronger as a collective and together we can rise.

May you all be well.

xo Uma Alexandra Beepat

Learn to Grow. Grow to Learn.

I fear the path of spirituality and where it is leading to.

From my personal observations, the scene has changed quite dramatically from the time I entered almost thirty years ago and I am almost positive the old timers….those from decades past, probably thought the same of my generation.

Are we getting better or worse in our hidden agendas, motives, secrets and lies?

Are we truly living to Be or living to get ahead?

What are we avoiding so much by pursuing our new found Spiritualities?

As much as I am outgoing and love to be in large circles discussing everything and anything remotely interesting….I also am quite introverted, concerned with deeper thought about the natural of our reality.

In my introverted moments, I have taken to observing people and matching what they say with their words to what their body shares with its language. Arguably, 90% of the time it doesn’t match up.

I am trained in body linguistics and I notice that there is tension, stiffness and unease when some people are making statements that are not in alignment with their higher truth. I don’t say a word to them about it.

Why? Well it is said in communication, be the observer not the evaluator; meaning that if you mix the two, the communication becomes unhealthy and violent with others.

For example, this is a mix of observation and evaluation: John is a lazy man.

This is an observation: I have noticed that when John is not working, he likes to lie on the couch and watch his netflix shows. He will invariably do this every night when he comes home from work before having dinner and going to bed.

So why am I worried about the spiritual path? Because it seems more people these days are making statements where they combine the two-observation and evaluation- and then pass it off as the Golden Truth or the only way it is. This coupled with not enough shadow work is seeming to me to be the downfall of the Spiritual generation.

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There is a term for communication with observation and evaluation; it is called Violent Communication and it is named so because it brings pain, harm and threat to those receiving it.

As a mentor in psychic spiritual development, it is imperative that I teach from this concept because it keeps our “egoic” self out of the reading and allow Spirit to work through us.

As a spiritual teacher it is imperative that I teach from this concept because truly, there IS more than one way of doing something. My way is one way, the student’s way is another and there are plenty more where that came from.

I am being triggered by those in our community that take a stance, have only one perspective, create a lack of choice, create fear or disgust and bring heaviness to the divine path of spirituality.

It needs to stop.

As most of you know, I own a holistic wellness center and massage school in Northern Virginia. I hold about 10-20events/month and I am receiving new faces at many events. Within this population of new faces, I would venture to say that about 75% of them have come from another group or school that taught in such a way, it broke their Spirit, their confidence and their interest in evolving spiritually. It breaks my heart.

Of course, I say nothing. It is not my agenda to discuss another teacher’s work or get into the “WHY” of what they did. That would be observation with evaluation. No, instead I focus on what is presenting before me-the meek, the broken, the hurt and the confused; and my agenda is simply to clarify, to expand, to inspire and to create.

I frequently encourage my students to try out other Meetup groups and teachers in their Spiritual journeying. It is important to get a well rounded flavor of spiritual thought, actions and processes so the student can decide what works for them and what doesn’t. I am neither offended or proud when a student leaves my practice or joins my practice respectively. I am concerned on what they are receiving and how they are presenting in life.

A long time ago, someone had said that I was more committed to someone’s spiritual path than being liked or appreciated. That stuck with me because that is my Truth. I do not say things just to be on your good side, I say things to invoke thought and perspective on issues you are stuck on.

I am not here to be liked, I am here to be respected for the outstanding work I do and how I have helped you on your path in some way. 

In communication, I have also noticed that people are not listening as much to listen but instead to respond. You can tell by the quick answers they provide without even hearing out the question. They have already formulated what is to be said. It is to be said because it is to match the ideal they have set. The ideal they have set is to match the picture in their head of who they are.

It sounds amazing for LOA but for digging deep, it is a nightmare.

When Rob and myself book packages with clients, many times it is because that first session or two is spent peeling back the layers of ideals and grand schemes. Yes I understand you want to get there, but before we do, I need to understand the shadow self and what you are capable of when you self-destruct.

And yes you will self-destruct. It happens in all of us and I would like to think it is a fail safe mechanism instilled in us to prevent over-anything. Over-success, Over-fame, Over-fortune, Over-joy, Over-pride, Over-greed. You get it, all the overs and overs.

The “Overs” take us out of this moment and to a place far, far away. It stops us from being in the moment and learning how to accept something as is, without evaluation.

There is no right and wrong, good or bad…it just IS.

Lastly, as I see the growth of spirituality rise, I see the darkness of the shadow self shrink. And it is not shrinking because people are doing the work; no in fact, it is shrinking due to ignorance, non-acknowledgment and drive.

  1. Ignorance: If I ignore those deeper feelings and keep chanting or saying positive affirmations, all day every day, things will change. I call this the ‘Fake it Till You Make It” method. Many new age Spiritualists are using it and while it feels fresh, positive and upbeat….because of its hidden agenda to hide the darkness undertone, it just comes across as an uncomfortable dinner with family who is fighting but putting on a show for visiting friends and loved ones. It feels fake and then it gets awkward because I realize that these people are really believing they are putting on a show and I am buying it, but I am not buying it and then I feel guilty about that because there is so much effort here to convince me and I really should make an effort to believe it…..sigh. This is what happens when I get around these kinds of people and then I start to act strange around them because all of this is going on in my head.
  2. Non-Acknowledgment: I can deal with the ignorant because at least they KNOW they have a dark side but choose to ignore it. A certain group of people I cannot be around is the non-acknowledgers. Oh boy, this is a doozy. It is a doozy because they don’t even know they have a problem. It may sound shocking but not quite..think of the friend who is in an abusive relationship or has a pattern of dating the same men. Think of the person who is always losing their job and sleeping on couches from time to time. With this group of people, I feel compassion for them because they are unaware of the problem they are experiencing which is creating the life situations they are in. It would take me a good year of working with one of these people to get through and even then, success in a turn around in not quite guaranteed, We normally tend to fight going into our shadow work and when you have someone new learning about their shadow self and then told it is responsible for the majority of decisions they are making? It might be brain overload!
  3. The Driven: There is a definite change in culture as of recent; with recent being about 3-4 years ago. When my partner and I came to holistic study and learning, we came to fix ourselves. It was not even a thought to become a healer, own a center or create spiritual community. We were selfish! We wanted the healing for ourselves and we bonded over our respective pain bodies. We motivated each other and Rob did an hour of energy healing on himself every day and I did two hours of spiritual practice on myself every day. I called them my MERCY mornings which stood for Meditation, Exercise, Reiki, Card Reading and Yoga. I latter moved away from that description and changed it to MERRY mornings and created a workshop out of it to help people develop their own spiritual practice. In doing our hourly self-healing practices every day, we were facing our shadow self head on. We were not hiding, dismissing or creating goals to avoid- we were facing our demons head on and mostly by ourselves without the help of others or community. These days I meet people who recently had an awakening, stated taking a couple of classes and have decided they want to be a healer or own a center. I would be a millionaire if I collected money from people who told me their goal in life was to own a wellness center and do all the things I did.

The thing is, if you really want that, then you have to go get that. BUT, one favor I am going to ask you….is to go within, spend some time with yourself and ask yourself truly, “What is it that I deeply desire?”

I once had a student remark that I made everything look effortless and when she looked at me, she thought Effortless. 

I will tell you now that it is such a nicer feeling (and an effortless one!) when Spirit has something planned for you and you discover that as you grow and mature on the Spiritual path than if you decide something is for you and it may not be for you.

In owning a wellness center, Spirit deemed it necessary for me to have this. I have not ever thought about owning a wellness center in my life. As I started to grow and develop, I started seeing visions of this wellness center. I doubted it. Then Spirit sent messages through clients and friends who also had the vision and then I doubted less. Then Spirit brought the money, people, location and business to me. So I accepted.

Everything I have on the Spiritual Path came to me easy, in perfect timing and with abundance. Why? Because I had no agenda. LITERALLY.

A brief synopsis of my journey thus far:

  1. Had two kids –> realized I did not want to use my Master’s degree in Health Care Management to work the regular 9-5 anymore. I wanted to be home with my babies! So what next Spirit?
  2. Spirit pointed me and paid for massage school outright! A year of learning, making new friends, growing and evolving. I need a job now Spirit! What’s next?
  3. Hired at my first spa job a month before I graduated massage school. Pointed in the direction of Reiki and Reflexology. Love this! What’s next?
  4. Spirit created enough income for me to leave the spa jobs (3 at the time) and work full time from home. Yaaaah! This is what I wanted! To be accessible to my kids. Awesome! What’s next?
  5. Spirit created enough income for me to rent space outside of my home to regain privacy of home. My popularity started growing and I had to relearn boundaries and professional separation between my personal life and professional life. Lots of lessons, I am humbled. What’s next?
  6. Lots of requests from clients to write a book with all my sage advice and wisdom. Spirit woke me at 3am and we wrote the book and was done by 11am with the outline. Within two weeks, the book was completed. Sold and is a big hit with readers. Wow, how humbling, I am a published author now. Thank you Spirit. What’s next?
  7. Lots of massage school closings in our area, we need massage therapists on the forefront of healing and self-care. Spirit provided the means and resources to open a massage school. Location? Spirit created space down one floor in the same building I am in! Yaaah! Ease and Joy! No commute!

I will stop there, because you get the picture! I had no plans. If you talked to me 10 years ago and told me all the things I would accomplish by the time I turned 40, I would have thought you were on something.

In each scenario, I am happy and content with what is in front of me. When I take a class, I take it for the love of learning not to reteach it at my studio. There are so many modalities I am qualified and certified in that I have not yet taught at the center. Why? Simply because Spirit has not deemed it necessary yet. And if and when they do, I will be ready to do such a thing.

If you are reading this, and you are triggered in anyway by what you are reading, I do apologize for how you feel. I recommend you go into those feelings because that is the beginning of the shadow work. To understand your triggers and why you feel pain from my words or anyone’s words. It can only sting if there is some element of truth in it that you are denying yourself from seeing. See it, deal with it and work through it.

In closing, I would like to reiterate with what I started with. I fear the path of spirituality and where it is leading to.

When I started out in spiritual community ten years ago, I was spoiled. I had the most delicious experiences with people who were vulnerable, raw, open, honest and authentic. No one sought to be on a pedestal above others and no one was learning or attending events to become a healer. We were rejoicing in learning and sharing space, digging into our shadow selves and learning from them. This was my experience and it proved invaluable in making me the person I am today. I wish this for everyone too.

I will keep observing and paying attention. I may not say much but I will continue to think alot. It is my deepest desire we return to a state of vulnerability and humility.

Where we can show up for each other with compassion and love, instead of envy or entitlement.

Where we can listen to hear and not listen to respond.

Where we can be the constant student and step up to the path of the teacher when we are called to it by Spirit.

Where we can sit at the feet of teachers we hold in high regard not because of the number of certificates they have but because of the beauty of their words well chiseled over time from pain, suffering, learning, growing and sharing.

Where we can exist without an agenda or need to be something we are not.

Where we can stop degrading ourselves by “searching for a purpose” and revel in the joy of living.

Because truly there is no greater purpose than that.

Until next time,

I will see you and see you xo

Uma

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Uma Alexandra Beepat

http://www.umalotusflower.com

 

 

 

Feel the Fear…and do it Anyways

Morning y’all!

I write to you from the Dulles airport as I wait to board my plane to L.A. I wish it was that short of a journey but I am actually preparing for one of the longest flights of my life (aside from Egypt). I am going to Australia.

It has been a dream of mine to go to the land down under since I saw Crocodile Dundee! I have met a few Australians here and there on my journeys and I have always been fascinated by the culture which seems so similar to Americans but yet, different. I love their accent, their seemingly carefree attitude and love of life. What what a whole country and continent of this be like? And so the journey was decided upon.

Thankfully, I am not doing this alone. I have my two best friends Rani and Jen traveling with me. Well Jen is traveling with me as Rani is an Aussie! We are going to see her in her home town of Cairns and learn about the Aussie culture from a true Australian.

I am very thankful for these girls because we have this deep soul connection based on our spiritual paths and combined interest in growing and learning everyday. We first met at the Omega Institute back in 2015 when we each showed up for the Dr. Brian Weiss workshop on Past Life Regression. We each had our own backstory for being there but yet as different as they were, we still had similar interests.

I am happy to say that despite our locations in VA, CA and Australia, we have remained best friends ever since 2015 and have met up every year since then! In 2016 and 2017 we met at the Arthur Findlay College in Stansted, UK for mediumship training and now in 2018 we are meeting in Australia for Shamanic healing and extractions. How does it get better than that?

I spontaneously decided to write this blog because in the days leading up to this big trip, I realize, I have been more than nervous, I have been downright scared!

I have traveled to over 30 countries and five continents but this is one of the biggest trips I am taking. My actual itinerary getting there takes three days with the two different time changes. I leave Dulles at 7.25am and get in to L.A at 10am. I then have a loooooooong layover as my flight to Sydney leaves L.A at 11pm. That flight is a 15 hour flight and I am having all sorts of nerves about not sleeping and being awake the entire flight (flashback to my trip to Egypt). Yes the Egypt trip was a harrowing one as I was in coach class for the entire 18 hour trip WITH my 3 year old and 1 1/2 year old boys who decided to stay up the entire flight. Can you feel my nerves yet?

So as I sit here preparing for the first leg of my trip with this three hour flight across the US to California, I am reflecting on how in life, we tend to stay safe and keep it easy. I think it’s a natural thing really. If you look at life, we tend to strive to reach a comfortable level and once we get there, it is comfortable to stay there. We look to be in the right relationship, right job and right home. Once we hit that trifecta, we tend to stay there for the long haul.

I have forgotten how exciting travel can be because I travel so much on these smaller flights (VA to FL or VA to CA) that the fun of traveling has been taken out as I literally am on automatic pilot, the entire way. Now I am being challenged to pace myself, set myself up for a long trip and be on the lookout for unexpected surprises and challenges, I have to admit the adrenaline rush is now more exciting than frightening. What else is possible? How does it get better?

In life, it is ok to work hard to get to the comfortable things we want and need. However, every now and then, it is imperative that we also include a little adventure to keep the heart going, blood pumping and the thrill of living alive. You really don’t appreciate life until you test its boundaries from time to time.

Ask yourself these questions and see what comes up:

“When is the last time I did something daring?”

“When was the last time I took a great trip or had the adventure of a lifetime?”

“What can I plan for next year?”

I say next year because you need a good couple of months to plan a trip of a lifetime or great adventure. This trip to Australia has been in the plans for a year now and I can’t tell you the satisfaction and sense of accomplishment I am feeling now that it is coming to fruition. Carpe diem as my boyfriend says! (Seize the day!).

So dear reader, as you read this quick airport blog through, I ask you to feel the fear of the plans you have waiting in the wings and despite that fear, do it anyways.

In fact, you can choose to witness the feelings in your body about these ideas as fear…..or you can convert it to excitement. They both FEEL the same but one fills you with a sense of dread and the other, a sense of wonder. Which do you choose?

For me, as I get ready to board this first flight on my journey, I am choosing excitement over fear. Life is meant to be lived and that is for us all.

Until next time,

xo Uma

Uma is the owner of Lotus Wellness Center in Northern VA where she practices as a psychic medium, healer and metaphysical teacher. Uma loves to travel and is happy to say she has visited six continents now with her eyesight set on the last continent of Antartica before 2020! To learn more about Uma, visit http://www.umalotusflower.com uab-web-3

Spirit Helps through Dreams

One of the beautiful things about being in tune with my psychic senses, is that I get visions and warnings from the Spirit world that tends to keep me ahead of the game. These warnings typically come in the form of dreams.

I know some of you might wonder, “Can you take that stuff seriously?” I am here to tell you, yes you can and I do very seriously.

When my beloved grandmother whom I adored and learned much about the spiritual path from, was about to make her transition; Spirit started sending me messages. I dreamt she passed at my mom’s house and in the bedroom she was staying in. I had this dream two weeks before she passed and it allowed me to take a flight down to see her and spend some time with her before she made her journey.

My deceased uncle Abe came to me in a dream to warn me about a family member who was making some bad decisions. I spoke to this family member and helped them through a rough period in their life. They were surprised I knew something was going on as they were keeping things quiet and no one knew.

I frequently get dreams about people I know in life and meet through my business Lotus Wellness Center. I would love to say that it has been all peaches and roses over here in my line of business but interestingly enough I have met a few shady characters under the “Spiritual Tribe” banner. It makes for an interesting ride.

At first I would be dismayed when things go wrong, people attack me or my business (sometimes even my kids). I would take it personally and feel helpless and defenseless. It’s a bad feeling when someone doesn’t like you, even worse when they talk about you from their perception and then the absolute worst when you can’t do anything about it.

Or can you?

Spirit is always with us and is our family, friend, loyal companion and protector. We always have the choice to pray for help and guidance and ask the Angels for protection. I pray to different celestial beings for particular requests and when it comes to protection, I love to request Archangel Michael’s assistance. When I pray to Archangel Michael, I envision him surrounding me with bright blue flames and using his sword to cut ties to negative situations and circumstances. It feels freeing.

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When I call in Spirit in times of distress and upset, immediately I get signs and “advice” on how to proceed. I like to say, “I work for Spirit” but I believe Spirit works with me as well.

One of the ways Spirit communicates messages to us is through dreams. These dreams can either be visionary or symbolic. Both are prophetic.

A visionary dream is where you “see” things as clearly as they are going to happen with no need for interpretation. For instance, when I saw my grandmother deceased in a room in my mother’s home, that was visionary. Exactly as I saw it in my dream is how it happened in real life.

A symbolic dream includes photos, pictures and scenes that need some deciphering to get the message. Most people receive these kinds of dreams and feel unsure how to proceed. Well, there are many ways including hiring a dream analyst to interpret your dreams for you. I prefer the old fashioned way (and cheaper way too) which is to interpret them myself. I do that by looking up online dream dictionaries like this one here. If I see animals in my dream, I look up the meaning of that particular spirit animal. It is called animal medicine and it comes at a time when we need a message or warning.

One time I had a dream about some people I no longer socialize with. In my dream, they were sabotaging my house and I saw an alligator on my lawn. I saw my partner handle the situation and as we were walking away, two hawks flew above us and we each received a hawk feather. I looked up the meanings and sure enough, the alligator signified deceit and secret betrayals and the hawk’s message was to have greater awareness and warn us of incoming drama. My partner and I heeded the message, cut some people out of our lives and soon after, we found out what they were doing which was unknown to us. The dream saved us the feelings of betrayal because we knew ahead of time it was coming, so we were able to prepare for it. Spirit animal medicine works!

If this article intrigues you, I suggest you try it! While it is not a guarantee that every time you set the intent to dream, it will happen there are a few things you can do to help this process along:

  1. Try to go to sleep around the same time every night. This gets your body use to a schedule and will get you into the deep sleep you need to have dreams.
  2. Set the intention before sleep. I like to ask the Angels to bring clarity and understanding to my dreams about situations I am facing. I also ask to remember the dreams when I awaken.
  3. Get in the habit of writing down your dreams in a journal. I like to keep a pen and journal handy by my bed so as soon as I wake up, I can write down what I remember. When we do this, we train our minds to remember what we see in our dreams and our bodies to record it by writing it down.

It takes some time to get the hang of, especially if you have viewed sleep only as a divider between today and tomorrow, but once you do, you will be so thankful! The messages that stream through from the subconscious to the conscious mind with the help of our Spirit friends is simply astounding and helpful. I wish for you to be as aware and enlightened as possible, and interpreting dreams is one of the best ways to do so.

Until next time,

xo Uma

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The True You overcomes the Lies of You

You know what’s beautiful about being in the spotlight? Being in the spotlight.

You know what’s horrible about being in the spotlight? Being in the spotlight.

One of the things I have had to deal with over the years, is people’s perceptions of me (usually wrong and false) and the “take backsies” of those false perceptions when they finally meet me.

“Don’t take this the wrong way, but I never liked you until I met you.”

“People say you are such an evil person but I get you! You are so raw and authentic!”

“I am glad I met you because from what I heard, I never thought I would like you.”

At first it use to really bother me. I mean really bother me that there was the idea of people being out there, meeting me and gasp, not liking me.

But as you get older, you get wiser and well honestly you care less so as these situations come up, they tend to rub me less and less. I am ok with it now.

I would like to say I am actually at the point where I can laugh at the silliness of it all. I can say that, because something recently happened concerning this and you know what I did? I laughed. Not an evil laugh as some might believe but a good ole hearty chuckle because I know what I know what I know and that knowing saves me a great deal of heartache and trauma drama.

Recently I had to do a reading for a client who came to me through a mutual acquaintance. This mutual acquaintance no longer approves of me and in fact is so disapproving of me, they tend to share their views about me publicly. So I know something was said about me to this prospective client.

I have to admit, I was kind of curious about this situation I was facing. Do I cancel the reading to stay in integrity to myself or do I go ahead and do this professional work and put my personal opinions to the side?  You betcha, I did the latter and took the client.

Frankly speaking, when it comes to the work I do, I maintain that I work for Spirit and I trust them enough to know that my personal views will not interfere with the reading I had to give. This person did not make me feel uncomfortable or have a threatening presence. I only knew that they were close friends with my former acquaintance and I was more concerned with them being able to receive this Spirit reading fully or having barriers up because of who was delivering the message.

I trusted Spirit though because with this person requesting a reading from me means only one thing to me. They needed my services and they were willing enough to put their personal opinions aside and trust me for this service. I was greatly appreciative and humbled. People can say what they want about me, but at the end of the day, I am a damn good Spirit communicator. People can say what they want about you, but they can’t touch what you are damn good at. 

As I got ready to meet this person for the first time, I prayed and asked Spirit to be with us for this reading and for me to be the clear channel I know I can be. See the truth of the back story is that even though I have the foresight to see what happened and why it happened, I am a girl with feelings and my feelings got hurt with the past actions and how they played out. I can forgive but rarely do I forget. I can move on but I can remember. You can be full of love and light and cautious. It’s definitely a thing. 

I was pleasantly surprised by my client. From the minute she sat down, she addressed the elephant in the room. “I want you to know that I don’t care what is being said about you, I can see your Spirit and it shines beautifully. You are real and you are wonderful and I love you already.” All barriers down, it was time to work.

And this brings me to the crux of this blog. People can SEE you. Not physically see you with their eyes (well of course they can) but see you with their Soul.

As we live these lives we have been given, we will choose to live it the way WE want to live it. This will understandably rub some people the wrong way as through their eyes, they feel they can advise you to do a better job of living your life. It all sounds silly here on screen but truthfully, this is the base of the matter. People want to tell you what to do based off of their perception. Forgive them anyway. 

As you rub people the wrong way, two things can happen.

  1. They move out of your life and move on to other things. They can either judge you for perceived failures or be a bigger person and realize that you are not in alignment with them, it’s not a right or a wrong, and move on peacefully.
  2. They can talk about you to whoever will listen because they really feel the need to justify their perceptions.

With the #1 kind of person, it is a relief. Relationships begin and they end. It is a natural part of life. When you meet someone who is mature enough to walk away and still think you are great….just not great for them….you have met a truly inspired being. I would like to think I am this kind of person because even though there have been many endings to relationships in my life (both romantically and platonically), I really still think each of those people are awesome in their right and wish them well.

With the #2 kind of person, it is a shame. I know it is natural to want to FEEL hurt by their actions but you cannot allow yourself to go down this rabbit hole. Their actions have less to do with you and more to do with their perception of you and how tightly they cling to it.

I don’t accept it when a client says, “I have no choice in the matter.” That is a straight and bold lie. We always have a choice and sometimes we make a choice out of laziness, necessity or lethargy. If a woman is in a bad relationship, she can leave. If she chooses to stay, she will tell you her reason from the get go. “I needed to stay for the kids” or “I don’t work, what will I do?” Still a choice.

When people leave your life, they have a choice to see what they want to see. They absolutely choose it when they see you as a negative person and then choose to share that with others.

Let’s be clear, I am not advocating to lie or hide truths from people; I am asking for a shift in perception.

Have people done me wrong? Absolutely.

Do I have a reason to drag someone’s name through the mud? Definitely.

Do I do it? No.

There is no point. Every relationship has ups and downs and when one is over for me, I tend to recall and reflect on the person’s high qualities and not their faults or mistakes. It is my choice.

I hope you make the same choice because I can personally tell you, it always work out in the end.  I have had several people come back into my life after a period of isolation and I can honestly say, I felt no guilt because I didn’t trash them while they were away. Some of these relationships came back for closure and some came back to be ignited. Life is a journey and we are constantly saying hello and goodbye while on it.

So if you are on the unfortunate end of the stick where people are talking badly about you, forgive them anyways. You know who you are, and you need to stand proud by that. People have a choice whether to believe what is being said about you or think for themselves. I think you will be pleasantly surprised by how many people do the second part.

I was so happy to read for this new person who will now become a regular client of mine, because she loved the session so much. She loved it so much that she went back to our mutual acquaintance and raved about it to her too! I love that Spirit has my back and you know what? Spirit has yours too.

Be you. Be flawless yet authentically you. Those that will love you will flock to you and those that don’t, don’t matter anyways. Find your tribe and live free.

xo Uma

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Uma Alexandra Beepat is the owner of Lotus Wellness Center in Manassas, VA where she teaches classes in spiritual development and provides intuitive consultation services. For more information visit http://www.umalotusflower.com

The Path of Least Resistance

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I listen to a lot of Abraham Hicks recordings on YouTube. I am a big fan of the Law of Attraction (LOA) and while there are many speakers on this topic, Esther Hicks just hits home with it for me.

It is not uncommon for me to include the requirement of listening to Hicks YouTube videos in my clients’ weekly homework. It is so helpful on so many levels. Many times my clients do not know who Abraham Hicks is, and well, if you are in this bracket, let me help a little.

Abraham is a group of beings not from this world who use Esther Hicks as a vessel to speak their messages. Esther acts like a channel by first relaxing and allowing the Beings who are collectively referred to as Abraham to speak through her. You can find hundreds of FREE YouTube videos on this phenomena like this one. The messages are always positive and filled with love and compassion for us earthly beings. I find myself soothed after listening to one of their fabulous channeled recordings.

 One of the teachings Abraham Hicks stresses about 80% of the time is taking the Path of Least Resistance. At first, I just liked hearing it and repeating it to myself because it sounded catchy. It made me sound smart and like I knew what I was talking about. However as I started delving deeper into the world of LOA, I kept bumping up against blocks while trying to manifest my goals in life. What the?!

I decided one day to really ponder on the concept. The Path of Least Resistance. What does that mean? Maybe some of you might get it right away but to this Capricorn, it sounded like Greek. I couldn’t understand. Until I did.

I had a situation come up with a friend that I could not avoid. I had a different point of view than this friend and unfortunately it was a strong difference in opinion. So strong that we could not continue on the same path because our points of views were so radically different.

It was at that point that I decided to try the Path of Least Resistance. I mean, I wasn’t about to change my mind, it felt right at the time for me to do what I was doing and for them, well they were just as stubborn about their view point as well. We were at an impass and only because of that, this stubborn Cappy decided to try a different route.

At first I just stopped resisting her. I would state my point clearly and then also clearly let her know I wasn’t going to change my mind so the ball is in her court as to what she wanted to do. Well, it would have been a good end to a movie if it just ended there, but of course it didn’t. It escalated and quickly.

This person who was so loving towards me turned harshly and took to social media to attack my personal life and my business. Ouch.

All of me wanted to fight back. To defend, to fight and mostly to win, but I kept remembering Abraham Hicks words, “You want to manifest your hearts desires? Take the Path of Least Resistance. What you resist, persists.”

So I didn’t do anything. I left it alone. I hurt silently in private and then put on a brave face when I went out in public and did the best to teach my classes and see my clients for services, but always with the burning, stinging words in my back. I felt less than, unappreciated and betrayed.

Eventually the former friend grew weary of attacking me and moved on to something or someone else, who knows because I was unfriended on FB which suited me well, because if it is one pet peeve of mine about Facebook is all the passive aggressive posts people put up. I mean just say what you mean and mean what you say already!

Well years passed and I all about forgot about this moment in history because like the LOA promised, things worked out in the end. My decision which I felt strongly about at the time panned out and my business grew by leaps and bounds, despite all the negative publicity (or maybe because of it) she brought to me. What was even more special was her reaching out to me after the fact and asking for us to have lunch and sit down and talk a bit. I was reluctant at first because I wasn’t sure who I was going to get but I trusted and went with best intentions.

It turned out to be a good lunch! She apologized for her behavior towards me and went into some personal details of what she was going through at the moment and how it just made me the punching bag. I was floored because of course, when you go through something like that, you tend to think its all your fault!

The thing that did change though was my reactions to these incidences. The Path of Least Resistance taught me several things which has helped me with my confidence, self-esteem and in maintaining my positivity:

1) You are a Shiny Mirror for others

Many times when people are REACTING to you, they are really reacting to some aspect within themselves they don’t like but are seeing quite clearly in you. I mean think about it. What could you possibly do that would be so devastating that they have to cut you out of their life? When you see people cut you out of their life or block you on Facebook, it is because they don’t want to SEE you…a.k.a they don’t want to SEE the parts of themselves reflected back.

SO if someone says you are bossy (true story), they are unhappy with the moments in their life when they are bossy and they feel bad about it. They want to change it but instead of analyzing their own behavior, they tend to look at what you are doing instead. It stings less. Didn’t Jesus say it best? Worry not about the speck in my eye but the log in your own?

What do you do then? You take the path of least resistance. You do nothing and let them act out. I have lived long enough to see people who made a great spectacle of themselves over MY actions or MY words, come back later in life and apologize. And you know what you do then? You stay humble and be in gratitude that they can accept responsibility for what they did because that speaks volumes to their character. The most enlightening beings will come back and apologize because they have no ego, they truly are concerned with their growth and making amends as they go along. Stand up people in my opinion.

2) Don’t Assume. It’s not Personal.

Even though the insults hurled at you may seem personal, it really isn’t. Hurt people hurt people and the harder the insults come at you, the more hurt they are in. I remember one time a looooooooong time ago when I was a young girl, full of emotion and passion, I had a screaming match with my boyfriend. I mean I was 16 and I was full of RAGE (God knows for what) and he was the one I was mad at so……..BLAST!

 It’s funny that I can’t remember all the details of this particular fight, it was so long ago but I will never forget how he reacted. He too was only 16, a boy really but so mature. He stood there for the longest time, silently and watched me; then when he found a break in my rampage, he just slowly walked towards me and hugged me. Well he timed that perfectly because I was so winded from all the yelling and screaming, I couldn’t do anything but collapse in his arms and cry. And he just held me. It was one of the most poignant and tender moments I have in this life that I like to reflect on. He would be a prime example of the Path of Least Resistance. He didn’t take it personally anything I said. He knew I was hurt and he knew I was lashing out and he was committed to hugging me and being there for me despite it all. Wow. Talk about a classy 16 year old!

If only we could all be that poised…..but actually, we can. I believe tolerance of other peoples’ actions or words is a muscle that needs to be built up. If you grew up in a home where kindness and virtue were extolled daily then you might have a weak tolerance muscle. If you grew up in a rougher neighborhood, you may have a strong tolerance muscle. But like anything else, you can build it.

NOW I am not saying just stick around and be a punching bag for other people. No way! You have to also have discernment about situations. If your partner is usually cool, calm and centered and one day they flip off and start dropping F bombs everywhere, you might want to take that opportunity to build your tolerance muscle. On the other hand, if the partner is constantly letting you down, hurting you emotionally or draining you, this is not the time ti build tolerance. It’s another muscle you need to work on and its called detachment.

 3) Focus your Energy Elsewhere

It takes a lot of energy to stay engaged with someone who dislikes you. It is exhausting running those mental processes of what you could,should and would have done in a different scenario. Stop. Haven’t you read #1 and #2? It’s never about you and it’s mostly their own issues they are addressing.

So that frees you up now…what will you do with your reclaimed energy? For me, whenever I am “under attack”, (remember this happens quite a few times a year, and I find the more popular my center grows, the more this happens on the regular), it is the perfect time to take a hiatus from social media. I would limit my social media time to just posting for my businesses and then be off as quickly as I got on. I would also increase my meditation time to tune out those pesky negative thoughts and stay in my vortex of happiness, peace and joy.

It becomes almost a game, where instead of playing to win, you are playing for peace. What can I do today to have the easiest and most peaceful day possible? You start to plan your route around people or things that can trigger you, and you know what? It works. You become so focused on your self happiness and ways to stay peaceful, that you almost forget there is someone out there who is unhappy with you. I heard a saying that I really loved that went something like this, “It doesn’t matter what other people think of me, it only matters what I think of myself.” Well I tend to think I am just the cat’s meow, so negativity be gone! There ain’t no place for you here!

 4) People will talk, let them.

I remember one time an ex-partner and I broke up romantically but remained friends. It’s not uncommon for me to do that, I mean, just because we didn’t work out romantically doesn’t mean I stopped liking or even loving the person, so why not stay friends? Well we were living in a small community at the time where everyone knew everyone. I remember he went to an event and these two nosy older ladies straight up asked him about our love life in front of everyone. He was a classy guy and he handled it well. He was able to answer their questions to tell them what they needed to hear without betraying our connection.

I remember when he told me I was so enraged. I mean what business is it of theirs? What did our love life have to do with the event anyways? But I did as my partner suggested and let it go. At first I let it go more for him because he was such a stand up guy but then I saw the reason in it. It doesn’t matter what you do or don’t do…people will always have some opinion about it.

You have to learn to take the path of least resistance and walk away from the drama without engaging. What happens when you do engage? It gets worse. Because that’s what unhappy people want. A reason to feel alive, a reason to DO something, a reason to fight for something because they can’t or won’t fight for their own self improvement. Ouch. I know it sounds harsh but trust me, I have seen enough of these depressing people in my life, and they all have a common thread which is unhappiness within themselves.

Now when I see other people nosy about other peoples’ businesses, I instantly recognize the core issue. They feel unloved or unworthy within themselves and feel the need to put down someone else to feel a little better. There is no helping these people because unless they accept responsibility for what they do, it wouldn’t change; so why even bother? I have learned to let people have the last say…not because I can’t debate them, but I just don’t have the energy or interest to. That revelation brought me so much joy and peace, it made the path of least resistance more irresistible.

I am aware that for letting go or taking the path of least resistance is either an entirely new concept or something you have dabbled with. My advice? Take it slow, do what you can and be easy on yourself. In the beginning if the path of least resistance is just you focusing on your breathing to feel better, then do that. In time, it will build to bigger and bigger steps to the point, you are completely not engaging and it becomes second nature.

Now isn’t that a nice concept? To live your life independently of others and be free.  What a beautiful world that would be if we all could. Until next time, stay in your Vortex and always be full of love and light,

xo Uma

The Birth of Awareness

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Ever since I was a little girl I was chastised for the wrongness of me. At first I was confused. What do you mean I laugh too loud? What does it mean that I am too curvy for a 10 year old? Why do you want to tame my long, unruly hair and put me in dresses when I rather climb a tree and play football with my brother and his friends?

Eventually the confusion gave way to anger. I became angry and stayed angry for a very long time. Anytime I felt the judging comments or looks coming my way, I would block it off at the start with my own growl or piercing stare. I learned from an early age how to shut down opposition fast.

There is a right and a wrong, good and bad to this though. While I learned how to love myself unconditionally, I also avoided constructive criticism that came my way from well meaning friends, boyfriends and family members. I couldn’t take it as constructive, I was too burnt from the years of oppressive comments that burned me to my core. I was angry and if you were not in agreement with me, you were against me. And all of Uma, couldn’t have that.

 Fast forward to last year which I lovingly refer to as my “Dark Year of the Soul” and those unhealthy behaviors came full force. My anger cost me my relationship, friendships and created stress and strife in my life. I was not feeling the Zen I was promised from being on the Spiritual path.

I knew I desired change but I didn’t know how to go about getting it. Abraham Hicks says all of your reality is your manifestation and everyone and everything in it is there to serve you, as it is about you, and for you because it is created by you. I like to use the terminology of a sandbox. When we are born, we are born into our own sandboxes. As we go through life, we invite people into our sandbox to play with us. Some stay awhile, some come and go and come back again and some come in quickly and never return again. Sometimes we leave our sandbox to go meddle in other people’s sandboxes, and that is ok. It’s all a circle of life. A circle of sandboxes.

I believe what happened last year followed this concept and the Law of Attraction. Me, the UMA that was born on this Earth Planet many years ago knew she was wanted to uplevel and be there before she turned 40. The UMA wanted to work on those few bothersome things that were still affecting her on a personal and emotional level, and take it a higher level. So the UMA invited in the contrast.

Abraham Hicks talks about the need of human beings to invite in contrast for them to transform. Contrast is all the yucky things- drama, strife, struggle, pain and suffering. At this moment in time, we cannot ascend or transform without the contrast, so according to their teachings, it is a beautiful thing when the contrast comes because it signifies growth.

There was a lot of strife and struggle last year with business as I created another two businesses in addition to the two I already owned. My health and weight was not in the best place and these things were affecting me and therefore leaking into my relationship with my soulmate. Eventually it led to our downfall and for his own safety (and sanity) he had to lovingly walk away from our relationship. That was the last straw and I broke.

In true Uma style, I didn’t break halfway or a little bit or one piece at a time, I broke completely. It was a breaking of my self. It was the beginning of my death.

I remember reading Eckhart Tolle’s work awhile back, “The Power of Now” where he talked about being suicidal because he was tired of being him. He reached the point where he thought about suicide and was seriously contemplating it and it was that one night, he experienced as he called it, the death of the Ego.

As Eckhart was muling over the thoughts in his head, “I can’t stand myself”, he realized there were two voices. The “I” and the “myself”. So which one was he? He was identifying himself all the time in his thoughts and he wanted to know, who was this person speaking? From that first question, he gained an incredible amount of clarity and awareness and it changed his life to take him to the level of success he is at now.

Some call this other voice a monitor, some call it the Voice of Reason, some say Higher Self or our Inner Being. It doesn’t matter, the understanding is the same in that we are always accessible to a higher version of ourselves, and that higher version usually comes out in times of strife.

Last summer, I had a breakdown myself like Eckhart and contemplated dark thoughts. It was a dark moment where I wasn’t sure which way to proceed. It felt like all of life was failing me. My businesses were becoming increasingly difficult to handle, I felt betrayed by the disappearance of my soulmate, my kids were gone for the whole summer and I was all alone in my house with my thoughts. Yup, I was ready to check out feeling sorry for myself.

I remember one painful night very well. I drank a lot because I was trying to numb the pain of feeling alone, overwhelmed, fearful, scared, depressed and like a failure. I was in and out of consciousness and I faintly remember crying and talking to a friend about how this was all too much and I was overwhelmed. I went to bed feeling defeated and begging the Universe for another way.

I can’t remember exactly how the turn around came and I wish I did so I could share it truthfully here. What I do know, is that blessedly it came. I just woke up (literally) the next morning and I felt….lighter. Something was lifted and something was no longer there but I didn’t know what. It didn’t matter though, I felt so good, I got up and did my morning spiritual practice, something I haven’t done in a long time. And then I decided I wanted to live. Not just live day to day but truly live. I wanted to experience this life and expand my experiences as much as possible outside my previous circle of pain. I felt I could do it and I wasted no time getting to work.

I planned a girls trip to Mexico. I wanted to do one of my first loves, which is traveling. I also have a hobby of visiting ancient wonders of the world so Chichen Itza was on my list. In going to Mexico, the visit to the famous ruins wasn’t my high point. The high point of that trip was jumping into a cenote (an underground sinkhole) and swimming in the cool waters.

There were two ways to get into the cenote, either jump into the dark lagoon trusting there is no mythical water dragon there to eat you up or you can take the ladder down. I remember standing there with Julie and we were both contemplating it. It felt important somehow, me taking this jump, like it was representing something more than what it was.

As I stood there, I realized, “Uma this is what you do. You weigh the pros and cons of everything as life is passing you by. No more! trust your intuition and the vibration of the moment and go for it if it feels right.” I stopped thinking and jumped into the cool dark waters. As I sank lower and lower and lower, I let go. It was only a couple of seconds but it felt like a lifetime going down in that water. I kept falling and it felt good. It felt free.

As I rose to the surface of the water, I felt all the heaviness of my problems stay behind in that cenote and I came up lighter, happier and free. I laughed out loud uncontrollably and was crying but no one could tell because I was swimming in a cenote, where there were tons of people, lots of whooping and yelling and my uncontrollable laughter and tears were part of the mayhem. I felt like me again.

Not me prior to my relationship or my business, big things that were part of my identity for such a long time. I remember specifically feeling like I was when I was 12 years old. I felt sassy and happy and content with who I was. I felt fearless and adventurous and always up for a good time. I felt joy.

When we returned from Mexico, I jumped into life. I took a spontaneous trip to Florida to see my babies and hang out with my brother, talking about life on a beach in Fort Lauderdale and just being in the moment. I went to a concert with friends high on life and heard my favorite all time song live. And met some interesting people that taught me some interesting things. I took another spontaneous trip to Florida to be in an advanced mediumship workshop with John Holland and met an incredible group of people and fell in love with the most beautiful Gypsy man I ever met. We became friends but knew we lived this life together before.

In living for myself and with myself, I became increasingly aware of what this life was like and what it was about for all of us. I developed compassion for myself and all beings. I stopped looking through the lens of hate, anger, fear, blame, shame, regret, doubt and all the other distractor implants we have to distract us from just loving and being love. I became love.

Now this love I was experiencing and being, was my version of expression of love. So sometimes I can say this and some people go “huh?” Uma is NOT what I would think of as love and light, and you know what? You are damn right. I am not.

 My expression of love is trust and allowance. My definition of trust is in alignment with the Access Consciousness founder Gary Douglas’s definition which states, “Trust is not about trusting in someone or in self, it is about trusting that person will act exactly how you know them to act given their circumstances and their thought processes.” I became clear in my perception. I became aware.

In trusting that people were going to do certain things based on what they know to do, I relaxed and allowed. I held no judgment and I stayed in my sandbox.

People noticed a change in me over this summer. To some, they couldn’t understand me. Like literally. We would have conversations and they would look at me and say, “I can’t understand what you are saying.” And this is the second part of my love coming in. I allowed. I was doing and saying things outside of the comprehension of many and they couldn’t grasp what I was doing. For some, they were aware enough to know that something else was at play here so they accepted and allowed and some turned to judgment. It was all okay.

Some went further and accused me of ridiculing them and being mean so I got blocked and unfriended on FB. I was accused for being a “fake spiritual teacher” and I got ridiculed for being an emotional being. However none of these things triggered me. I didn’t feel dejected or rejected. The anger did not come nor did the pettiness, because I was just so keenly aware of what was happening and sometimes even on a cellular level. This is how I knew I gained enlightenment. Life was still happening all around me and to me but I did not have a charge, an emotional charge about it. I was in a state of continual perception.

The best part of this enlightenment happened in my workplace. I took this awareness into my work, and I spoke to bodies that were sick and dying and brought them back to functioning. Law of Attraction brought me terminally ill clients, more so than I have seen in years. Last year became the year I stopped being a massage therapist and the majority of my sessions were either on the phone or in person and talking. No touch, just talking BUT people were leaving healed. Lighter, free and more aware. I am grateful for this shift that has profoundly helped me and helped others.

It’s not miracle work, its awareness. When you gain awareness, you know what you need to say to everyone and everything to make it work again. And making it work again, work the way it was intended to work, that was my way of expressing love in this community.

So what was the point of this blog? The moral of the story? Step into the pain. Go into it willingly. Embrace it if you must because eventually, one painful day or night, it will lead to the death of the ego and in doing so, the birth of awareness can happen.

I am not saying I am perfect now. Hardly. I am however more aware of where I still have work to do and what I can work on and what needs to be left alone until another time. When I do make a mistake or hurt someone’s feelings unintentionally, I am quick to apologize. I am even quicker to listen and slower to defend. I am learning to accept that people will do what they need to do to comfort themselves without regard for others because truly, they have to take care of themselves.

I am also learning when to offer help and when to step back. I recently tried to help someone close to my heart but they responded with such anger and hate towards me, I stepped back immediately and stayed in a place of allowance and love for the person. This particular person and I had a torrid past and they clearly were still hurting from my past actions. It is because of their hurt, I wanted to help, especially because I created the hurt in the first place but they said something that added to my awareness. “I am not ready”. I agreed and stepped back. I love this person for honoring where they are at and not judging themselves for still holding on to the anger. This is the version of super human I intend to be myself. To be ok with all the feelings and accepting of them all.

I see what people are doing, and I am seeing it clearly because I have no judgment into what they are doing. I want to help. Its part of my soul contract why I came here.

So in closing, ask yourself  if you are in the middle of depth and despair. And if you are, be honest and ask yourself, are you running from it? If a yes comes up, how about trying something different? How about leaning into it as Pema Chodron would say, or just letting go and allowing it? Maybe you will experience the great death I did and begin to feel the free-ness of being you and being aware. It is something I wish for everyone. Awareness without Judgment. It’s a beautiful thing.

 Love and Light,

xo Uma