5 Tips to a Mature Breakup

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A few months ago I experienced yet another breakup in my life. You would think I would be safe from this trauma/drama in making it to my 40s, but no life has other plans for me. Including heartache and despair.

The breakup I am referring to is one with a close friend of mine and not a boyfriend. It seems I have a lot more breakups with friends these days and I guess I should be thankful that it is not intimate love related, but still it hurts. It hurts just as bad.

However in this story, there is a silver lining. In fact the silver lining is so shiny, it just damn well blots out the entire dark cloud. Why? Because despite the breakup, my friend and I were able to leave on amicable terms and I thought that was pretty amazing.

I am pretty sure there are many people who face the same situations I face on a daily basis. However no one is talking about it or they are suffering quietly about it. No need! There IS a way to end a friendship/relationship when the time is up and there really doesn’t need to be any struggle.

Here are five simple tips to achieve the breakup of your dreams (seriously) so you can walk away feeling lighter and free:

  1. There is no Right or Wrong, Good or Bad. It just is. 

My friend and I had a good run in our friendship for a couple of years but with the start of 2018, we both knew the change was coming. We weren’t sure what was about to happen but we knew instinctively that things were about to change and we needed to proceed with caution.

As the months progressed, it became evident that the change was about US. We no longer could be in each others’ lives the way we had been. Life was pulling us in different directions. I am a middle aged mom to two young boys, in a committed relationship and working full time in my three businesses. To protect her privacy and identity, I wouldn’t describe her situation but let’s just say, it was different from mine. And the differences were becoming increasingly more obvious as the months wore on. What drew us together in the first place was now vanishing quickly and we were clasping at straws desperate to save our friendship.

When our breakup finally happened, I am relieved to share that neither of us thought bad things of the other. In fact it’s the opposite! We layered praise upon praise to each other in our last breakup communication to the point where it was comical! I laughed a little, imagining someone reading our texts and thinking in a thought bubble, “Are they breaking up or making up? I can’t tell!”.

But it wasn’t for show either. We meant it. We meant every word we said when we said we enjoyed our friendship and our memories would be kept close to our hearts.

When you breakup with someone, more often than not, it is because life pulls you apart not because you stop loving that person. The love is still there but it’s not enough to sustain a relationship. So you end amicably and don’t point fingers. No one has to be the bad guy and for that, I am thankful to her for not making me out to be one.

2) Be Honest and Communicate

When we hit a rough patch we did the worst thing we could do. We holed up in our respective corners and avoided each other like the plague. Great. Of course it didn’t solve anything and it only made the confusion and discomfort worse.

When we finally decided to come out of our shells and talk about it, we felt immediate relief and peace restored! We were both feeling the same way but out of love and respect for each other, we didn’t want to say anything! We didn’t want to hurt each others’ feelings. Aww.

In finally communicating our personal truths, we realized just how much we had drifted from each other and how we could not fulfill each other needs list anymore. It made the breakup much more easier as we realized it wasn’t personal.

Sometimes when we go through things, we can only see it from our vantage point. When you communicate with someone, you can learn how they see it too and most times, its not the way you see it. It’s a valuable learning lesson that has helped soften the blow of a breakup and helped me to see things from someone else’s perspective. A game changer so to say.

3) Be Open and Be Vulnerable 

While communication is key to having a successful breakup, it cannot happen this way if guards are up and barriers surround each person. Space needs to be created for open and honest communication where each person is wiling to be vulnerable to share how they are feeling.

Rough stuff! I decided in the conversation to be the first one to open up and talk about how I was feeling. My vulnerability caused her to let her guard down and speak truthfully about what I did that hurt her for which I apologized. She too apologized for things she did that hurt me and was clear to let me know that she didn’t mean to ever hurt me. It was one of the most profoundly touching moments in my life. Two women, speaking from their heart with care and concern for the other. Powerful.

Hurt people hurt people. When you want to end a relationship with someone, attacking them will not make it an easy process. Instead of pointing fingers to the person and playing the “blame game” try speaking only to your hurts, feelings and emotions. Let them SEE you and what you are going through. Chances are, your vulnerability will cause them to be kind to you and also be honest.

4) State Clearly the Goals and Objectives
Sometimes the end of a relationship feels ominous. No one discusses what the actual outcome will look like or feel like, so then situations come up where you run into them at the local coffee shop and everyone feels awkward and out of place. Reminds me of my first school dance. Awkward.

When we ended, we noted that due to business relations we would still see each other from time to time and we were both ok with that. By acknowledging the social/work/family obligations you have with them, it makes it less awkward when you do see them at these social events.

I also stated my objectives for the breakup because really, what kind of b***h would I be if I just broke up friendships for fun? There were specific reasons for this breakup with the most noticeable one being that I was holding my friend back. She is meant for great things and in her need to help me with my businesses and my dreams, I saw too clearly she was sacrificing her own. She needed to go, even if I had to kick her out, she needed it because she deserved so much better than what I could offer her.

In being that open and honest in communication about my objectives, it brought her alot of relief and happiness. I could FEEL her exhale and feel better within herself. At the end of the day, a breakup is rejection and no one likes to feel rejected. Once she realized that I wasn’t rejecting her or her friendship but actually supporting her in achieving her goals and dreams, she felt so much better. And you know what? That made me immensely happy! Like I said earlier, there is no good guy or bad guy here. We are all just walking each other home, and sometimes we chose not to walk together.

5) Still be their Cheerleader 

After all the heart wrenching talk, it was time to bring the conversation to a close and I could feel the sadness from her as I did from me. I vowed to myself to still be on the sidelines cheering her on because truthfully, there is no ill will here. She is a great person and I was so lucky to have her in my life for the time that I did. I was blessed.

The next day I woke up and sent her a motivational FB meme in a private chat. I wanted her to smile and know that I still believed in her. Even though our lives are taking us in different directions, it doesn’t mean I will stop caring or loving her. I truly will continue to do so, as I know she will for me. It’s just not in the cards for us at this time.

In the end, we never really know what’s to come in our lives. Sometimes people circle back into our lives and sometimes they came for a season and left when it was over. Despite the differences, if you chose to have a mature breakup, then you create a world of love and care, connections and possibilities. Just thinking of those things make me feel joyful, light and peaceful. I think everyone deserves to feel this way, don’t you?

Here’s to happy endings (smile) and joyful beginnings. May we know them, have them and be open to receiving them.

In love and light,

Uma

 

 

Getting through a Psychic Attack

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What exactly is a psychic attack? 

It is an occurrence that happens to you without your consent and meant to bring harm directly or indirectly to you. From what I have learned, there are two types of psychic attacks out there:

 1) Intentional/Direct attack:

This is the attack we dread. Someone intentionally sends bad energy, thought forms, words or actions in your direction. Ooooohhh it gives me the creepy crawlies to just think about it! I mean, you got to be a very unhappy or vengeful person to intentionally want to harm someone right? I shudder to think that there are people out there in the world like this, but hey, we turn on the news everyday and witness it on a physical plane (mass murders, suicide bombers etc..) so why should it be so hard to believe there are people who would do bad to someone on an energetic plane?

 This kind of attack is not limited to witches. Yes there are absolutely witches who can cast spells or perform voodoo on others to create a psychic attack either for personal or financial reasons (paid to do this work) but the majority of intentional psychic attacks come from regular people. It is so easy these days to google stuff. Your boyfriend broke up with you? No problem, find a bonding spell out there and cast it. Because your intention is strong, it will most likely work. The thing to note here is that while you may have your short term gift received in him coming back to you, it will most likely not last long term (he has free will) and also the Universe is taking notes. Nothing ever happens without retribution. This is what we call karma.

 I remember I had a young male client come in to see me for energy work. In receiving his weekly treatments, he felt comfortable to open up and share about his life. He said he was a wizard and worked with black magic. I told him good for him and to be careful because karma is in full effect, what you put out there, you get back. He didn’t listen to me and continued on his path.  I heard from him months later and was sorry to hear that life had crumbled around him. He was in a stressful situation and he couldn’t even afford to book a session with me and asked if I could just give him some free advice. I said sure, stop dabbling in black magic, pray for help and trust and wait on God to provide. I don’t think it was what he wanted to hear as he never called back but you know that is really the best advice I could give.

 2) Unintentional/Indirect attack:

 The majority of psychic attacks fall under this category. It is made up of regular people not getting their way and being immature about it.

 Think about a time when someone really hurt you emotionally. Yes absolutely, think of a breakup or a falling out with someone close to you. If you have ever uttered one or more of these phrases, then chances are you sent a indirect attack to another person:

– Oh she makes me so mad, I wish she would get what’s coming to her!

– He broke up with me, fine, I wish his life is miserable without me

– I can’t stand to see her with someone else. I hope she dates a loser worse than me.

– I wish a car would run her over and just end her life!

Sounds creepy right? Even now reading it, I bet you are going “Oh I would never say that!” Honey, of course you would. When people are mad, they say the craziest things. This is why in spiritual communities, we talk about being careful with our words. Our words have vibrations attach to them and when we send it out, it has the possibility of manifesting especially if you have the right combination of:

– The sender has a high frequency/vibration and a strong emotional charge about the matter

-The receiver is weaker and worn down therefore their psychic defense system is lacking

Clearly those two people sound like the aftermath of a breakup, right? One is stronger and one is worn down and most times is the strong person sending the attack.

It is easy to fall in this category and this is why it is important to be super vigilant about your words and thoughts. A couple of years ago I wrote a blog about a situation between myself and my boyfriend at that time. We had a troubling argument that ended with him hanging up the phone on me. OOOOHHH I was livid! I called him back and told him, “Fine! Have it your way, we are done and I hope your life is s**t without me!”

Well weeks later when we reconciled and talked (with cooler tones) he brought it up and said that day was the worst day for him! After he got off the phone with me, he was racing to work because he was late and he got pulled over and got a speeding ticket. He got to work and then his supervisor docked him for being late and he was suspended for three days without pay AND when he went back to his car, he had a flat tire! OMG I felt horrible! I had noooo idea because I definitely didn’t want any of those things to happen to him! So ever since then, I am VERY mindful of my words and even when I am in a heated discussion, I am sure to wish the person love and light. It may be through gritted teeth, but hey! I said it right?

 SO now that you know about the different types of psychic attacks, you need to know what to expect when under an attack. There are definite signs and you have to be able to tell if this is indeed from an attack or just having a crap day or week.

 Symptoms of a Psychic Attack:

– Anger and Irritability

– Anxiety and Restlessness

– Sleeplessness/Insomnia

– Losing appetite/not eating

– Plants dying

– Dead insects around the house

– Miscommunication and frequent quarrels with the loved one in question

– Heart racing or chest pains

– Headache or pressure in the head region

– Stomachache or feelings of nausea

– Feeling lost, confused or disoriented

– Feelings of sadness or being under a heavy weight

The thing to keep in mind is this: these symptoms have to come out of nowhere. If you experience these symptoms on a regular basis, then that points to something deeper and you should not be reading this article but seeking medical attention from trained professionals who know how to respond to these symptoms!

One time I was under a psychic attack, I had no idea and it was a very strange situation for me. I am sharing it here in hopes that someone can learn from my situation and in case it happens to them, they will have an idea of what to do!

During that week I was out of it. So much so, my students were worried because I was not my usual self. I had a lot of anxiety and I felt like throwing up. My heart was racing and I couldn’t concentrate, I felt all over the place. What was going on?!

It was on a Saturday when I finished teaching my last class and after the last student left, I went out to my deck to go and sit in the Sun. I prayed and asked for guidance. I was led to create a Reiki ball and infuse it into my solar plexus region. I did it and felt a little calmer. With this tiny bit of calmness I was given the message to call my spiritual advisor.

 I couldn’t get a hold of my go to advisor so I did some research to find someone else. I was drawn to this woman who did tarot readings and I called her to see if she could help me. I had to think about what to ask because I was in such a cloud of confusion, I didn’t know where to begin…but as soon as spoke to me, she went right to my relationship with my partner. I thought that was uncanny for her to do as at that time our relationship had volatility and we were arguing a lot. She said he was under a psychic attack from someone from his past and it is affecting me too. Wow, this was validation because my partner had told me just days ago he felt a psychic attack around him when he was doing his energy work on himself. Amazing.

After talking to the reader, I alerted my partner to his accuracy in picking up on it and then I went to work on myself. Here’s some things I did:

Defending yourself in an attack:

1) Warm bath with Epsom Salts:

I immediately went to the bathroom after the reading, put a mix of epsom salts and lavender in the bathwater and sat in it. I made sure my toes and fingers were submerged so as the bonds began to break up, they could leave through my extremities. I sat in the water for about 10-15 minutes, until I felt calm and peaceful. Afterwards, I let the water out and then took a shower to wash off all remaining traces of negativity.

 2) Prayer, Affirmations And Intentions:

While I was sitting in the tub, I prayed the Lord’s Prayer first then I prayed my own prayer of protection and removal of curses/attacks and then I went on YouTube and found another prayer to remove curses. I ended all prayers by saying, “I send back this curse to whence it came sevenfold.”

See even though my reader named the person sending the attack, I did not name them. Why? Because it is not 100% known. What if, this person did not send it? Then you would be directing negative energy sevenfold back to them! That is some karma you have to deal with later on! It is best to say “whence it came” so it correctly goes back to its rightful owner.

3) Saran Wrap the Belly! 

This sounds weird I know but it is an old belief that power comes in and goes out from your solar plexus which is the midpoint of your upper part of your stomach. So when you wrap it in plastic you are not allowing your energy to go out or new energy to come in. Also if you couple this with the statement above, then you are removing the block and sending it back to its rightful owner.

 4) Protection Stones and Crystals 

The usual protection stones to have are the ones related to the root chakra meant for grounding and protection. These are generally black stones such as hematite, onyx and tourmaline but can also include tiger’s eye  and obsidian.

I took three grounding stones and placed them over my solar plexus under the wrap and slept with them that way. I also laid out crystals on the bed to my right side, I included rose quartz, clear quartz, amethyst and tiger’s eye.

Aside from doing these things you can carry the stones around in your pocket and it is said to block an attack, carry it on your left side because that is where attacks come in from. You can also wear the stones in jewelry around your neck, wrist, fingers or ankles.

 5) Aromatherapy 

I have a diffuser in my room and I put in a blend of oils known for their spiritual protection and grounding properties. The oils I used were frankincense, cedarwood, sandalwood and clary sage. (need oils? buy quality oils here)

6) Chakra Clearing and Reiki

At this point I have spent two hours of protective rituals so now I am sleepy…which is a good sign because remember I haven’t slept in a week due to the insomnia! I took a selenite wand and went through each chakra clearing them using intent and Reiki and by the time I got to my root, I was so exhausted I knocked out. I woke up eight hours later feeling so refreshed, peaceful and calm. Wow an experience.

So whatever you are going through, take some time to process and tap into the universal consciousness to read your situation (like I did sitting in the sun and connecting in). Once you get directed into what you need to do, don’t be lazy! Get up and do it! And always, always have faith and trust that you will be taken care of no matter what.

 love and light,

Uma

Breaking Free…

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A story for the history books, Meghan Markle married Prince Harry and became the Duchess of Sussex. Well done Meghan, well done.

A few weeks ago we had the royal wedding and even though I knew I would watch and be moved, even I was a little shocked at how emotional I got over it. I mean, I cried for goodness sake!

It wasn’t just a cry about true love or romance or fairy tale endings. It was a cry of relief and a cry of hope because you see the Meghan Markle story is so much more than a story of true love against all odds. It’s a story of someone becoming something she and everyone else thought was off limits to her. It’s the story of Ascension.

As we all know, Meghan did not fit the traditional mold of women that marry in to the royal family. Let’s see how many strikes were against this woman shall we?

  1. American
  2. Even worse, American Actress
  3. Age wise-37 years old is an old maid status
  4. Divorced!
  5. And let’s not forget, biracial.

Yet despite the glowing and obvious “problems”,  Meghan was allowed in to the Royal family and is now the Duchess of Sussex. We can only speculate to that process but I am sure it wasn’t all rosy and good times for sure!

This IS history in the making, not only for Meghan but for her future children (if an option) and the Royal Family as well. Her lineage will now always be tied to the Royal family in some way, talk about a game changer situation! Way to go Meghan! 

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Meghan Markle outside the Buckhingham palace 22 years ago. Now she has access in! 

So what is the take away about this? More importantly why is this fairy tale story making me cry and why is it important to YOU?

Because it is a live and direct reminder to us all that at ANY time in our story, we can change our outcome. We can change our trajectory and become something bigger, greater, stronger and happier. We can ALL have fairy tale endings for ourselves and our generations to come. That’s why tears flowed freely for me.

We are only a product of our past if we choose to remain in our past. I don’t think for a second Meghan sat and thought about her past life or how much of a non-fit she was when Harry asked her out. I am pretty sure she said Yes without hesitation and without thinking too much about it.

It’s about living in the moment and living from your heart. It’s about choosing to see the beauty in you that others see in you. It’s about saying YES to life and all the choices and possibilities that come your way. Without hesitation. Without review. Without judgment.

It doesn’t matter where you started. Start Again. It doesn’t matter who you have been. BE who you are now. It doesn’t matter if you feel less than. Fake it till you make it. You have the power inside of you to recreate who you are at any given moment. It is all up to you.

So take a page from Meghan’s playbook will you? Go for gold, accept opportunities sent your way and who knows? Maybe you too can change your entire life and create a lasting legacy for generations to come. Dare to be bold and dare to dream. You got this,

Love and Light,

Uma

Manifesting Life against the Odds

It is interesting how life can throw you a curve ball when things are going good and you were smooth sailing for a bit. When things start to crumble around you, you then buy into the idea that you have no choices left and you have to do what you have to do to get by.

 Not only is this an incorrect assumption but also an unhealthy one. Once you truly start to believe that you have no choice in life, you get boxed in and all the creativity within you to manifest changes and direction will wither away. You become part of the sheeple that is roaming our earth school right now.

What are sheeple? People that act like sheep…a herd mentality that doesnt allow for unique and original thinking but staying in the group mentality. Don’t fall for it! You are not crazy (I really can’t diagnose you on that-out of scope!) if you think there are other ways to do things than the old tried and true.

I have a friend who gets so frustrated with me because I don’t think like her. Now understand this, the woman is a genius. She is a successful entrepreneur and has the dream life we all aspire to have one day; however she knows her path to success and I know mine. Many times she would tear down my dreams or become a negative Nancy when I discuss ideas with her. She would only let up when she sees the success come about because of my bold decisions and new thoughts. You too may have people like this in your corner. Take the lesson from me, don’t judge them or belittle them, they are only being negative because they fear for your safety and want to make sure you are doing the best you can. If they can only see solutions from their limited perception, it calls for you to be compassionate, not judgmental. Love them while you continue to do what you need to do.

 So back to the topic at hand. If you feel stuck and like there is no way to go, I am gently asking you to reconsider your position. Maybe all is not what it seems to be. Allow the Universe to manifest changes in your direction because you know what? It will and all that is required of you is three simple behavior changes that can make it happen.

As we say in hypnosis, only you can make it happen, expect it to happen and watch how it happens easily!

Choosing Correctly in Life:

 1) Make Choices out of Integrity not Fear

I once had a discussion with a healer friend that fried my brain. This person was continuously making the wrong choices and her business was continuously suffering because of it. I could see the area where she was going wrong but she didn’t and eventually, she went out of business through from what I saw, really making poor decisions based on fear. She refused to invest in her further education and learning because it was too expensive. She refused to advertise her services because that was being too commercial. She refused to network because “those things don’t work anyways”. As much as she believed in her answers, the root here was fear. Fear of spending money, fear of promoting her business and fear of creating connections.

You need to have a backbone and know what you are about before you embark on any kind of decision. I am an ethical person period. I may not be the friendliest or nicest or warm, comfy feeling kind of person you will meet but by Creator, I will be the most fair, ethical and reasonable person you do meet. I am a Capricorn, its in my blood! I have very fair and set ideas when it comes to being ethical.

When I make choices and decisions, I do so from this strong core of confidence and it doesn’t sway. So when it comes to scheduling, I know my schedule and only book clients per those times I have available. Have I turned away clients? Absolutely because the timing did not line up and I couldn’t fit them in because it would affect my personal time.

My friend? Not so strict when it comes to honoring herself. She was constantly booking clients late into the night or on weekends when she really needed the time off, as a result she burnt out and couldn’t regain that zeal and passion for her craft. Where did she go wrong here? She was accepting clients because of the money. She was operating from a fear based mentality that if I turn them away, I wouldn’t get them back.

That is another incorrect statement. Maybe this particular client would go somewhere else, but don’t you think the Universe would reward you for putting yourself first and honoring your boundaries? If she had let that person go and chosen her self care over the incoming money, she would have had a significant jump in business. How do I know? From personal experience!

You have to make choices that honor you. When you act with Integrity, you open up to the expansive energies of the best vibrations and they will take you to higher and higher ideals. Don’t settle because you feel you have to or the world is forcing your hand. You have to be in control of your life and not allow life to control you.

 2) Ask Questions, Don’t make Statements

There are three modalities I offer that speak to this: Access Bars, Theta Healing and Life Coaching. In each of them, they recommend asking questions as a way to open up your box. 

When you make a statement, you put an energetic imprint out into the Universe as this now becomes your Truth. When you say, “I am tired”, “I am weak”, or “I don’t have time”, you are making a stamp in the Universe. You create a little cardboard box around you that keeps you in that vibration.

How do you get out of the box or open it up? Ask questions. When I get stuck in life, this is what I do. For instance, every now and then I  get hit with a work related issue at my Wellness Center. Instead of living in the fear phase and buying into the permanence of the situation, I asked out loud:

“What is the good in this that I am not seeing?” 

“What can be done that honors me in this situation?”

By asking questions, I create the space for the answer to come. Sometimes it takes hours and sometimes it takes days, but when the answer comes, it always comes at the right time. 

When something pops up on your radar that is unexpected and maybe a bit ugly, don’t immediately buy into it. Ask yourself questions and ask the Universe questions and then give it some time. There may be an answer coming that is out of your realm of thinking and can just handle it all neatly with a bow! 

3) Schedule Connection time with the Universe 

The most important thing you need to do to make choices with integrity that honor yourself and others, is to have some quiet time. In quiet contemplation, meditation or silence, you are able to access your inner knowing, your intuition and feel situations out.

When you quiet down, you cut the noise of the outside world to tap into YOU. The person driving this van and ask what do they really want to do. What a concept eh? To actually ask the driver what the next step is instead of listening to all the backseat drivers with you!

In the end, your choices are critical in your life path as they lead to your circumstance. Learning to cultivate a mindful decision begins your path of self discovery, wisdom and knowingness. You will begin to understand why things are happening the way they do in your life. And that to me, is a sweet relief I would like to have more often than not. Don’t you agree?

 Until next time, stay in the Love and the Light!

xo Uma

Creating Wealth from Secondary Incomes

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If you are like the millions of people roaming this world, you are sometimes unsatisfied with your work-life commitments. Sure, the pay is good (or not) and the benefits are there (or not) but sometimes you can’t help but feel…lacking in some way.

 What if I told you there is a way out of the humdrum and monotony of your current situation? A way to make some extra money each month AND develop a sense of personal fulfillment and soul happiness? There is.

 Many people invest their time and money into developing a second career to help with the weight of their current bills and also provide space for creative expression. Most of us living in the DMV area hold prestigious jobs in the government community, which allow little to no self expression. A second job that expresses your interests can do more than add to your bank account, it can also bring life back to you.

There are many avenues you can go down to creating a secondary income and redefining your work life. For some, the second job becomes a satisfying hobby that brings in a little extra cash each month; for others, it can be the transition they have been waiting for to smoothly exit out of their current positions while maintaining the income stream.

 One of the few growing industries and little known secrets is the career of massage therapy. Here are some interesting and factual statements to consider from the Bureau of Labor Statistics Occupational Outlook Handbook 2016-21017 and the 2015 Massage Profession Research Report from American Massage Therapy Association :

  1. According to the 2015 Massage Profession Research Report from the American Massage Therapy Association, the number of practicing massage therapists grew by approximately 32% over the last decade.

  2. The United States Department of Labor projects that employment opportunities for massage therapists will grow much faster than average from 2014 to 2024.

  3. Approximately 32.6 million Americans received a total of about 140 million massages in 2014

  4. 92% of Americans believe that massage can be effective in reducing pain and 91% believe that massage can be beneficial to health and wellness.

 

If that isn’t enough to raise an eyebrow or have you lean in a little closer, consider these facts as well as published by the American Massage Therapy Association:

  • Research estimates that massage therapy was a $12.1 billion industry in the country in 2015.

  • By comparison in 2005, massage therapy was projected to be a $6 to $11 billion a year industry.

  • It is estimated that there are 300,000 to 350,000 massage therapists and massage school students in the United States.

  • From 2011 to 2015, revenue from alternative health care providers, which includes massage therapists, increased by 14 percent, and employment increased 19 percent. Revenue growth is projected to continue at an average rate of 3.6 percent per year through 2020.

  • Between July 2014 and July 2015, roughly 39.1 million adult Americans (18 percent) had a massage at least once.

I can tell you from personal experience as a licensed Massage Therapist and the owner of Lotus Wellness Center that these statistics and projections are on point. I have watched my business steadily grow in clientele and finances over the years from a meager start in 2008 to the booming business it is now.

 But enough about the money part of this talk. What about the feelings?

Entertain me for a second. Imagine your work day at your current job. You probably had a long commute, stuck in traffic, get to work where there is a lot of noise (staff, customers, work environment), tedious meetings, irritating coworkers and demanding bosses. You deal with this for 6-8 hours a day every day and then jump into traffic and get home so late and tired, there is no room or effort to do something else.

 Let’s switch the script. You own a massage practice from home in this scenario. You wake up when you want to, and come downstairs and workout in your living room or do some yoga and meditation. Make yourself breakfast and take a relaxing shower while listening to your favorite station on Pandora before heading to your home office where you begin your day. You see your first client and as you set the room with aromatherapy, relaxing music and a soothing environment…you think for a split second, “Wow my life is amazing.” At the end of the session, your client is immensely grateful to you for removing the stress of life from their muscles and pays you what you asked for. You say goodbye, book them a follow up appointment and then head out the door to run errands.

 

Even if half of that is not the reality of what your practice could be, even some of it is welcomed at this time. Am I right?

You might think to yourself it is too late to start a second career or I am too old for that. Well according to AMTA you might be right in the vicinity of the norm. What does the average massage therapist have in common with you?

  • Most likely to enter the massage therapy profession as a second career.

  • Predominantly female (86 percent).

  • At a median age of 45 years old. Twenty-one percent were younger than 35 in 2015.

  • Most likely to be sole practitioners.

  • Working an average of 20 hours a week providing massage.

  • Likely to provide massage therapy in a number of settings, including clients space, their own office, a health care setting, health club/athletic facility, or massage therapy only franchise or chain.

Yes starting a second career can be a daunting idea and something as serious and professional as massage therapy might be terrifying but the old adage applies here: What you put into it, you get out of it. If you learn a new hobby that takes one hour to learn and try to create that as your second career, you can get but so far. If you invest in your future by taking the necessary courses and action now, you can expect to reap the benefits later.

 By statistics and my own personal account, massage therapy is not going away, in fact it is becoming a popular trend that continues to grow and flourish with each coming year. Consider these statements:

  • Fifty-two percent of adult Americans who had a massage between July 2014 and July 2015 received it for medical or health reasons such as pain management, soreness/stiffness/spasms, injury rehabilitation, or overall wellness.

  • Ninety-one percent agree that massage can be effective in reducing pain.

  • In July 2015, more than fifty-one million American adults (16 percent) had discussed massage therapy with their doctors or health care providers in the previous year.

  • Of those who discussed massage with their doctor or health care provider, 69 percent of their doctors or health care providers referred them to a therapist/strongly recommended massage therapy/encouraged them to get a massage.

  • While physicians led the way in recommending massage (54 percent vs. 59 percent in 2014), chiropractors (46 percent vs. 49 percent in 2014) and physical therapists (37 percent vs. 43 percent in 2014) also recommended massage therapy when their patients discussed it with them.

  • Nearly two-thirds of adult Americans (65 percent) would like to see their insurance cover massage therapy.

  • Cancer-related fatigue

  • Low back pain

  • Boosting the body’s immune system functioning

  • Lowering blood pressure

  • Reducing headache frequency

  • Decreasing pain in cancer patients

  • Fibromyalgia

Can you imagine providing a service and getting paid to help people with pain relief and stress management? How awesome would that feel to do something worthy and contribute to society in a meaningful way?

At this time you are probably considering a second career in massage therapy, I mean why not? After the school and taking the exam, you can look forward to forming a lucrative business that:

1) Helps people

2) Adds to your income

3) Adheres to your schedule

4) You own and become a boss at!

 So what does it entail to become a massage therapist? In the State of Virginia, you are required to pass a background check, complete a 500 hour massage therapy program and pass the MBLEX exam. There are a variety of schools offering different variations of this requirement and you can choose one based off of your schedule and budget.

In Manassas, Lotus Signature Massage School opened their doors in 2017 to accept students for their first ever massage therapy certification program and have been going strong ever since.

A student can enroll any month (there is a new class starting June!) and the school year runs for 12 months with a total of 525 hours. The cost is the best part…..you can create a new career and get to your secondary income at the amazing cost of $7,500…a welcome break for new students as other schools in the area offer programs of 600+ hours and cost over $10,000.

Worried about fitting in a class schedule around your work schedule? LSMS has you covered. Classes run only twice a month on two weekends from Friday-Sunday. Imagine that? Developing a second career and making the transition to a soul satisfying career without a break in life.

If you are considering starting a second career in Massage Therapy, I recommend Lotus Signature Massage School for a variety of reasons:

1) The cost.

Because this is a new school forming, the significant drop in tuition fees (savings $5,000) is a welcome bonus to anyone who wants to transition from their former career without breaking the bank. Obviously fees will go up in following years but for the lucky few coming in this year, it’s a deal that cannot be replicated.

 2) Small classes.

Lotus Signature Massage School keeps their classes small with a maximum of 12 students at any given time. Small classes mean individualized and personal attention that is lacking in larger classes.

3) The Faculty.

Both faculty members have been in the massage field over ten years and both own their own businesses. They have each worked in a variety of settings and bring academic and real world knowledge to the program. Students will understand and learn about massage therapy in a professional and realistic way.

4) Location.

With several school closings in the area, this school is the nearest and most convenient location for anyone in the Manassas/Prince William county area. Other schools are located close to DC or Richmond and can be a pain to get to during the week and on weekends.

 Whether you are moved to begin a career in massage therapy or not, one message is clear that you really do need to consider. For most people, having one source of income is not enough both financially and spiritually. Multiple streams of income allow you to diversify your financial basket and also create opportunities for soul growth and creative expression. So if you are not happy where you are right now, start thinking and writing down ideas that make your soul happy. Massage therapy was mine, what’s yours?

 Love and Light,

xo Uma

Revisiting our old wounds

broken heart

HI there! Uma here on this wet and cold, dreary day. What happened to Spring?! Forecast tells us that the DMV area is in for a wet and soggy weekend with large chances of rain and flooding. Wow!

As I sit patiently waiting for the Spring/Summer weather to kick in, it became apparent to me how life imitates art and vice versa. Just when I thought I was nearing the end of the cold/wet season of Winter, the old season gives it one last hurray. Life imitating art. How many of us can relate to this in our personal lives? Just when we thought we completed a cycle, the wheel turned again and we found ourselves embroiled in past traumas yet again.

I once read Sonia Choquette’s book, “Walking Home: A Pilgrimage from Humbled to Healed.” It talks about the month long walk she took across the legendary Camino de Santiago, an 820 kilometer trek across Spain. I was fascinated about everything she encountered on her walk both in the outer world and her inner self. She was fighting herself as she walked, discarding old thoughts and belief patterns that no longer served her, working through pain and heartache and I was rooting for her! As the chapters wore down and I saw the pages lessening, I knew we both were going to come out of this experience ok, wiser and more grateful. HOWEVER! Three chapters (three more walks to the end) in she encounters a situation with some of her new friends she made on the path and a lot of old feelings and behaviors came into full effect. Even though it was more the other people’s actions and not hers, she was still affected by it. SAY WHAT?! I felt like saying, “Sonia we just spent a month walking the trail and letting everything go, why is this happening NOW?”

 Enter consciousness. Because this is the way life is.  We by nature, are a species that is constantly looking for ways to evolve. It is innate within us to want to do better, be better and live better. As we seek different avenues from where we were, in the process of getting to where we want to be, we will encounter difficulties. And this is what separates the men from the boys, as they say.

 Your old paradigms are the ways you use to be and the ways you use to think. Don’t be hard about it or disown it! It served its purpose at that time. I love it when people who have known me a long time try to give me a compliment about my “new” life and in doing so, they feel the need to put down my “old” life.

“Remember when you were a stuck up snob?”

“Remember when you were an angry girl?”

“Remember when you were mean and uncaring?”

I know their hearts are in the right place, and in their effort to compliment me now on all the lifestyle changes I have made, they wanted something to contrast it to. I get it, but here’s the thing. I am not sorry.

Due to life and my own reasons, I was absolutely a stuck up, angry and uncaring person. Look out for my autobiography, I go more into detail about it then! And at that time, that behavior and presence was needed. At that time. Now, I am in a different environment, one which allows me to authentically be myself and there is no need to defend myself or actions, so I can relax and be more comfortable in my skin. Sounds familiar?

 Don’t be ashamed of who you use to be before you found your spirituality, your peace, your Zen zone. You were that way because you had to be. Now you can afford to be something else, why? Because you are evolving.

However just because you have decided to do something better for yourself, doesn’t mean the world is ready to let go of its hold of you. It will make any attempt necessary to keep you in the illusion that this reality had over you. Don’t fall for it.

When you are making the most progress, expect things to take a turn for the worse. This is natural and by no means, is it meant to stop you. It is meant as a challenge for you to surpass, to have and claim victory over. You can do it, you know why? Because many of us do and this isn’t your first rodeo. Last time I checked, you passed all challenges 100% of the time and you are still here.

When you look at famous and successful people like Oprah Winfrey, Steve Jobs and Albert Einstein, they all have something in common. They hit many obstacles along the way but they refused to give up. They didn’t have the mindset that obstacles are real or permanent. They may have slowed down or diverted from the path, but they kept going nevertheless.

It is always darkest before the dawn, may be more a motivational metaphor than an actual scientific fact but i like it because in life it has been proven true. Whenever I hit a speed bump, and it seems like everything is falling apart around me, that is the time I am filled with elation because I know that bright sky is coming and it wouldn’t be too much longer now.

If you find yourself in a dark phase right now, hold on tight because your blessings are right around the corner. Trust and Believe and watch the miracles light up your night sky.

 Until next time, love and light always

Uma

Breaking up with Crystals

rose quartz

It happened again! My beautiful rose quartz crystal broke. As it fell to the ground this morning shattering one piece off of its perfectly sculpted merkaba design, I felt my heart shatter with it too. This is the fourth rose quartz that has broken in my vicinity and today, only today I understand there is a message for me in it.

 The first time I cannot remember the timeline but it was between 2013-2014. I visited India in March 2012 and bought beautiful rose quartz mala beads. Oh how I loved it! It was so beautiful and polished and felt so loving in my fingers. I would wear that particular set more for show and less for chanting as I used my rudraksha beads for that. I was so heartbroken when the mala beads broke and because it was so long ago, I don’t remember how it did. I did entrust it to a friend to repair but to this day I have not seen my beloved mala beads again. I know some of you might think, well simply call the girl and ask her back for your beads! Well I did, several times but to no avail. I figured it was Spirit’s way of saying to me, this is no longer for you. So I obliged.

 The second time a rose quartz piece broke for me was exactly a year ago when my partner and I drove down to Georgia to teach a Reiki I class. I wear crystal bracelets on my wrist and after we wrapped up our trip and was getting on the road to head back home, my beautiful bracelet got tangled up with some other stuff and when I pulled on it, the whole thing fell apart. In the parking lot of Subway where we stopped to get sandwiches for our trip home. At the time I didn’t think anything of it because it was a bracelet given to me from a friend who was no longer in my life. I felt that whatever connection was between us was over and in it being over, the bracelet no longer needed to be with me.

 The third time involved my rose quartz pendulum. I had taken it out for mentorship class one month and admired its beauty and in that short space of time, it easily and gracefully fell from my hands and broke the tip off the pendulum. Sigh.

It is only today however that I have put together that four times the same stone broke for me!  Now I still have rose quartz in my home in its natural rock shape but it seems whenever I try to wear it, it just jumps off of me. What to make of it?

 If you google articles on this topic you will find a whole host of answers as to why stones break. I tend to believe and follow the 5 reasons below as to why a stone breaks in your possession. Here they are:

 1) You no longer need that particular vibration/outgrew it: When we are drawn to a stone, it is said spiritually we are seeking something we don’t have within ourselves and by having the stone, it helps to fill us up. So if you needed protection and took to wearing a hematite bracelet and it breaks, the understanding is that you have fulfilled your own protective measures and can stand in your power now.

 2) The attachment to the person is over: Sometimes people give us gifts (not only stones) and when it breaks, it is a signal from Spirit that the connection is over. I remember I had a very rocky relationship with an ex boyfriend for two years and towards the end, I was packing my suitcase and a very expensive bottle of perfume he gave me broke. My mom laughed and said “Well I guess that’s over.” She was so right! A couple weeks later it was over for us.

3) It is saturated with negative energy: If you chose a stone for healing, wonderful! That is what healing stones like to do! So if you are conscientously using it every day with intent, the stone will respond by removing some of that negative energy from you until it is filled at which point it will shatter or break. It is not advisable to keep the stones around after this cause because it needs to be disposed of.

 4) It does not resonate with our energy: This reason occurs more at the beginning of a relationship as in when you first buy it and within a couple of hours or days, it breaks. The stone is saying to you, we do not match! For example, if someone bought rose quartz and soon after it broke,  we can see how the qualities of rose quartz is love and compassion and it will not blend well with someone who has a temperamental and judging attitude.

5) Divine Intervention: and sometimes Spirit/Angels/Guides/Deceased loved ones just want to plain get your attention! It could have been your favorite amethyst they broke or a lamp, just look at me! In this situation when something breaks, stop and close your eyes. Do you feel anything? Do you hear anything? This is how you decide whether there was an entity involved or not.

 Regardless of the reason, broken crystals need to be either fixed if they can be or disposed of. With my beloved rose quartz crystals, I bury them in my yard so their unconditional love and beauty can still be a part of my home and life.

So what do I think is happening for me with my own stones? I went with #1. In each scenario I was involved in some sort of spiritual activity (chanting, Reiki, teaching and now daily sadhana) and I do feel like I am growing spiritually with all these activities. I guess it is a price I have to pay as I steadily continue along my path, but you know it is also a lesson for me. To always remember to not be attached to anything or anyone in this life.

 Today I bury my rose quartz pieces but my spirit is lifted as Spirit gives me confirmation I am on the right path. And so it is.

 Until next time,

Love and Light,

~Uma~