I feel almost like screaming, “GET ME OFF THIS ROLLER COASTER!”
2020 has really been a year hasn’t it? I feel like I have been through the mud several times over and I am deserving of a much needed bath. Rinse and Repeat.
As we face the last quarter of this year, do you find yourself mentally preparing for the fight or flight that will come?
You know, I USE to. I use to anticipate struggles with this mindset and it never worked. Why? Simple, check out the energy behind the actions.
FIGHT- If I choose to stay and fight in a struggle, I am filled with lots of emotions of a lower kind (fear, dread, anger, terror). No one stays to fight because they are filled with love, compassion and understanding. We are ready for WAR and there inevitably will be a winner and a loser. Who wants that?
FLIGHT- If I choose to run from struggles, I am still filled with lots of emotions of a lower nature (fear, worry, anxiety, regret, depression, sadness). No one runs away from struggle thinking, “I am really showing some self love here by not facing an opportunity that has the potential for strong growth within me.”
That’s why these two options feel so heavy because it is not representative of who we are as people.
We were made to love, to crave connection and to desire true intimacy with each other. We are not made to fight or run from connections or experiences so we need to rework these old programmings in our heads.
For me, I choose neither fight nor flight, I choose flow.
FLOW- An option to allow you to stay in the midst of struggle and treat each situation on a case by case basis in a minute by minute breakdown.
Feels lighter already.
We will have many changes coming up as we end 2020, we have the obvious repeat offenders of CoVid19, race wars and pending elections but on top of that, we also have internal struggles we face as we lose jobs/careers, love/relationships or shift into new territories either geographically or spiritually.
Learn to flow and then, no matter what comes your way, you will be prepared to handle it according to your true nature……your nature of love and connection.
Here are three tips I use to allow myself to FLOW through tricky situations or sticky issues, I hope they bring you some clarity and awareness as much as they have for me.
- Make a rule-There are NO rules!
In Access Consciousness, I learned that an infinite being (us) can change our mind every 10 seconds. Why? Because when we start to live according to energy, we can allow ourselves to move as the energy moves us.
I have loved/disliked many, many people in many, many 10 second increments and it has been a huge relief for me. When you realize that your perception can change, it doesn’t box you in to force you to fight or run. It allows you to see people or situations as a constant change and therefore accept it. Try it! You can say something like, “In this 10 seconds I am really angry with you but I am open to that changing.”
This is a great way to honor what you feel and then also let the person or situation know that they do not have power over you because you determine how you feel not someone else’s actions.
2. Make no Committments
Whenever I RSVP for an event, I message the host to let them know that it depends on the day on how i feel and whether I will show up or not. I know in this world that sounds flaky but think about it for a second. Do you want someone to attend your event who doesn’t want to be there? Wouldn’t you rather them stay home?
Many struggles come about from trying to keep commitments. Let’s say you and your partner are suppose to go to a party and you decide not to go. You can either create a fight with them to allow you to stay home (gasp not you!) or you can run away from how you truly feel and go with your partner thereby sacrificing your desire. Either case, you aren’t going to have a good time because you aren’t honoring the flow of energy around you.
In the beginning, your circle may dislike this new part of you but in time they learn to accept it and even love it! Because now my circle knows when I show up, I am going to SHOW UP and have a good time! They may miss me in the frequency but they appreciate me in the quality.
3. Live an Obligation Free Life
When we do things out of obligation, it feels heavy because we aren’t doing it to honor ourselves, we usually do it to make someone else happy. This stinks.
Obligation is created by guilt. You don’t fulfill an obligation because you WANT to, you fulfill it because you HAVE to.
An easy way to opt out of the blame game (I bought you this now you need to buy me this, I gave you this so now you need to give me this etc…) is to just stop.
Whenever people give me gifts or host me or do something nice for me, I spend a good amount of time to thank them appropriately and show my respect for their kindness. That’s the end of it.
If anyone was to reach out to me and ask for a favor or something in return, I let them know if I can or cannot do it based on my time. Now this may take some time getting use to doing because most of us will get saddled with guilt.
I had to work through my own guilt by reminding myself that I do not put people into obligation so I expect the same from them too. That is, to not put me into obligation.
By not accepting obligation as a necessary part of relationships, it has actually opened me up to the genuine kindness about people. People really are kind! And if we stop looking for obligations, we can actually experience something magical as kindness. It feels so so light and happy.
So yes, if you are going to fight, then fight to be in flow. If you are going to run then run towards flow. Be the flow you wish to be and open your doors to allow the stream of abundance to flow right into your life.
There is so much here we can receive even during the struggles, we just got to put our fists down and plant our feet to receive them. xo Uma
Uma Alexandra Beepat is the owner of The Lotus and The Light Metaphysical Center in Manassas, VA.
Uma is a Soul Alignment Coach, Master Healer, Psychic Medium and the author of The Awakened Life.
Uma does energetic clearings through Access Consciousness and you can find out more about her work here http://www.thelotusandthelight.com