Don’t feel good about it? Fix it!

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If you have been following social media, you may have seen me go through some visible changes over the past few weeks.

From the outside looking in, you may think, “Uma is in a world of drama!”

BUT actually I am not.

All of these changes were foreseen and I have been ready for them for quite some time. How?

Well about 12 weeks ago my friend Paulina and I decided to trade weekly Access Consciousness body process and BARS sessions in an effort to revamp our lives and make us manifesting machines. Whoa!

While we were prepared, we had NO IDEA just how much our lives would change with these weekly sessions! I started to live for myself and not for other people’s expectations. I started having way more fun than I have had in a long time. Sometimes I laugh so much, my cheeks hurt and that has happened twice this week alone!

As with everything positive, there is a negative association and for me it was the identification of certain events, people and situations from my life that was just beginning to feel heavy.

Getting rid of events and situations are easy because they are products without feeling. Changing relationships in your life is a bit harder because you have to take into account how someone feels and try your best to do it in such a way that they leave feeling empowered and not broken.

I always remember a favorite quote from Brenee Brown to deal with situations like this. It says, “Who you are is how you lead.”

My intent is not to hurt people and to also honor my change of heart. So with each situation, I walk carefully to honor them and me and pray to the highest Goddesses, that it all works out beautifully.

I can say without a doubt, so far it has. I’ve managed to release some working partnerships that no longer felt light to me while still respecting my business associates.

When you are faced with a situation you don’t feel good about, it is quite easy to change, the question is not HOW you can change it but IF you want to.

When I work as a life coach in helping people reset their mindsets, the biggest obstacle I come across is their desire to have a changed outcome without actually committing to any behavior changes. The desire is there but it is not strong enough to warrant change.

I am going to share with you three of my own personal tips that I use to create change in my life when I don’t feel good. I hope it brings joy and lightness to your life as it has for me!

  1. Be Realistic about your Plan and Outcome

When I am creating change about something in my life, the first thing I do is have a self pep talk about what will go down. For instance, it was brought to my attention recently that my October retreat was not selling as many tickets as it normally does for this time of year. Here was my pep talk:

Ok Uma you know from past experience that this retreat should have been sold by now but it hasn’t. Whatever the reason (COVID, Financial struggles, Lack of interest), it feels good to let it go. You know you may experience backlash from the community and the few people who already signed up and prepaid but brace yourself for it. Create time this week to deal with these energies and don’t get stressed. You got this!

By talking to myself (haha) and being realistic about the struggle that is coming up (cancelling an event, refunding clients, taking down ads) it puts me in a mindset of readiness for what is to come as oppose to lying to myself about it and then being caught unawares. Be prepared by facing the outcome and getting yourself mentally and energetically ready for it.

2. Put yourself First

There is a tendency in our lives to want to take care of others before taking care of ourselves first. Call it being a mom or a nurturer or just giving a damn, we like to help people.

Usually that is A-OK however not when you are dealing with a struggle that involves you. Make the committment and put measures in place to honor your thoughts, feelings and emotions and then look to taking care of others.

When you do this, you will feel lighter through the whole situation because you are simultaneously handling stress and providing means for your self care. It IS possible to come out of an unhappy situation feeling peaceful. Make the commitment to yourself first, honor it and it will give you the courage you need to address the struggle in your life.

When I recently went through the craziness in my own life, I kept setting up trades with my friends for my self care and scheduling days and weekends off to regroup and take care of me. I also allowed myself to move at whatever rate felt good. Some days I didn’t do a darn thing and some days I was up until 3am working. Honoring yourself and your energy takes many forms, learn to judge less and BE more.

3. Practice Heavy and Light Exercises

One of my favorite exercises (you probably had enough hearing about it) is the heavy light. According to Access Consciousness, what feels heavy to you is a LIE and what feels light to you is your TRUTH.

Hey Uma, do you want to go swimming with sharks?”

Hell NO! Immediately I felt a sinking feeling in my stomach so I KNOW it’s a lie to me!

Hey Uma, do you want to go on all expenses paid spa day trip with me?”

Yes Please! Immediately my shoulders relaxed and I felt a “brightening” around my heart. Message received.

The bottom line in dealing with not so good feelings is to be aware of that fact and work through it as best as you can. Sometimes we can do it on our own, sometimes we need the help of our social circles and sometimes we need professional help.

Don’t make a judgment, do what feels light to you and work at it. Your day in the sun is near so don’t get lost in the clouds. xo Uma

Uma Alexandra Beepat is a Soul Alignment Coach, Psychic Medium and Owner of the Lotus and the LIght Metaphysical Center. http://www.thelotusandthelight.com

Fight or Flight? Neither! Let’s Flow xo

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Welcome September!

I feel almost like screaming, “GET ME OFF THIS ROLLER COASTER!”

2020 has really been a year hasn’t it? I feel like I have been through the mud several times over and I am deserving of a much needed bath. Rinse and Repeat.

As we face the last quarter of this year, do you find yourself mentally preparing for the fight or flight that will come?

You know, I USE to. I use to anticipate struggles with this mindset and it never worked. Why? Simple, check out the energy behind the actions.

FIGHT- If I choose to stay and fight in a struggle, I am filled with lots of emotions of a lower kind (fear, dread, anger, terror). No one stays to fight because they are filled with love, compassion and understanding. We are ready for WAR and there inevitably will be a winner and a loser. Who wants that?

FLIGHT- If I choose to run from struggles, I am still filled with lots of emotions of a lower nature (fear, worry, anxiety, regret, depression, sadness). No one runs away from struggle thinking, “I am really showing some self love here by not facing an opportunity that has the potential for strong growth within me.”

That’s why these two options feel so heavy because it is not representative of who we are as people.

We were made to love, to crave connection and to desire true intimacy with each other. We are not made to fight or run from connections or experiences so we need to rework these old programmings in our heads.

For me, I choose neither fight nor flight, I choose flow.

FLOW- An option to allow you to stay in the midst of struggle and treat each situation on a case by case basis in a minute by minute breakdown.

Feels lighter already.

We will have many changes coming up as we end 2020, we have the obvious repeat offenders of CoVid19, race wars and pending elections but on top of that, we also have internal struggles we face as we lose jobs/careers, love/relationships or shift into new territories either geographically or spiritually.

Learn to flow and then, no matter what comes your way, you will be prepared to handle it according to your true nature……your nature of love and connection.

Here are three tips I use to allow myself to FLOW through tricky situations or sticky issues, I hope they bring you some clarity and awareness as much as they have for me.

  1. Make a rule-There are NO rules!

In Access Consciousness, I learned that an infinite being (us) can change our mind every 10 seconds. Why? Because when we start to live according to energy, we can allow ourselves to move as the energy moves us.

I have loved/disliked many, many people in many, many 10 second increments and it has been a huge relief for me. When you realize that your perception can change, it doesn’t box you in to force you to fight or run. It allows you to see people or situations as a constant change and therefore accept it. Try it! You can say something like, “In this 10 seconds I am really angry with you but I am open to that changing.”

This is a great way to honor what you feel and then also let the person or situation know that they do not have power over you because you determine how you feel not someone else’s actions.

2. Make no Committments

Whenever I RSVP for an event, I message the host to let them know that it depends on the day on how i feel and whether I will show up or not. I know in this world that sounds flaky but think about it for a second. Do you want someone to attend your event who doesn’t want to be there? Wouldn’t you rather them stay home?

Many struggles come about from trying to keep commitments. Let’s say you and your partner are suppose to go to a party and you decide not to go. You can either create a fight with them to allow you to stay home (gasp not you!) or you can run away from how you truly feel and go with your partner thereby sacrificing your desire. Either case, you aren’t going to have a good time because you aren’t honoring the flow of energy around you.

In the beginning, your circle may dislike this new part of you but in time they learn to accept it and even love it! Because now my circle knows when I show up, I am going to SHOW UP and have a good time! They may miss me in the frequency but they appreciate me in the quality.

3. Live an Obligation Free Life

When we do things out of obligation, it feels heavy because we aren’t doing it to honor ourselves, we usually do it to make someone else happy. This stinks.

Obligation is created by guilt. You don’t fulfill an obligation because you WANT to, you fulfill it because you HAVE to.

An easy way to opt out of the blame game (I bought you this now you need to buy me this, I gave you this so now you need to give me this etc…) is to just stop.

Whenever people give me gifts or host me or do something nice for me, I spend a good amount of time to thank them appropriately and show my respect for their kindness. That’s the end of it.

If anyone was to reach out to me and ask for a favor or something in return, I let them know if I can or cannot do it based on my time. Now this may take some time getting use to doing because most of us will get saddled with guilt.

I had to work through my own guilt by reminding myself that I do not put people into obligation so I expect the same from them too. That is, to not put me into obligation.

By not accepting obligation as a necessary part of relationships, it has actually opened me up to the genuine kindness about people. People really are kind! And if we stop looking for obligations, we can actually experience something magical as kindness. It feels so so light and happy.

So yes, if you are going to fight, then fight to be in flow. If you are going to run then run towards flow. Be the flow you wish to be and open your doors to allow the stream of abundance to flow right into your life.

There is so much here we can receive even during the struggles, we just got to put our fists down and plant our feet to receive them. xo Uma

Uma Alexandra Beepat is the owner of The Lotus and The Light Metaphysical Center in Manassas, VA.

Uma is a Soul Alignment Coach, Master Healer, Psychic Medium and the author of The Awakened Life.

Uma does energetic clearings through Access Consciousness and you can find out more about her work here http://www.thelotusandthelight.com