Do You Need A Reading?

First of all, you don’t NEED a reading! You can desire a reading to provide more information into a specific situation. Not a need but a desire.

Most times people clam up when I talk about this stuff. Why? Well instead of explaining it, I can show it to you.

Today I received this message in my dm:

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Ya know……. it’s stuff like this that gives my line of work a bad name.

Sigh, don’t worry folks. I wouldn’t ever reach out to you and tell you this.

Readings are meant to validate what you already know. The truth is we already have inner knowledge of where we are going but yet sometimes we hesitate or have confusion. That’s when you get a reading.

Most of my clients already know the answer and my readings provide them the validation and confidence they need to make the next step.

Sometimes I see things they don’t see because in addition to being a reader, I am a seer. It is an ability I had since I was a child that developed and got more accurate and stronger over the years. In those situations, my seership proves invaluable as it allows my client to prepare for what will come.

Case in point, I read for a few people this year in January as an annual reading. I predicted sudden upsets to their lives and through my guidance, they were able to prepare for what was coming.

None of us KNEW it was Covid but my readings readied them and they were! Several clients wrote me by March to validate the reading and how it helped them so much.

My own readings also gave me this guidance last summer and I was able to prepare ahead of time for this year.

Most people when they reach out to me, have no idea what an intuitive reading is so I wanted to break it down a bit and explain what I do.

Firstly I do three specific types of readings that I will share now including my why and how of what I do.

 

  1. Mediumship Readings- this option is for people who want to connect with a loved one who has passed and is on the other side.

Why:

Most times people want to know that their loved one made it to the other side safely and if they had any last messages for them.

How:

The critic might say that I can make up stuff to tell them and yes they are correct. However as an evidential medium, my task is to provide solid evidence on the person to the client, information they can verify. This weans out the fakes and wannabes who pull on generic information that can be used for multiple people.

When I connect with a loved one on the other side, I present evidential material to my client and once it is validated then I can move on to a message from them. Its a form of checks and balances I use to ensure the quality of the connection and to ensure there is a smooth delivery of communication between the living and the dead.

 

2. Spiritual Assessments- this reading is for people who would like spiritual guidance from their Spirit team.

Why: Sometimes in life we can feel lost or stuck and would like spiritual guidance from a higher Source into our situation. This is the reading people book.

How: In this instance I am not travelling to the realms of the dead for connection, I am going UP to higher realms of consciousness to bring information from people’s spirit guides and guardian angels. I do this by changing my levels of perception and contacting the Spirit world. I have been doing this since as a child so this work comes quite naturally for me and it is my favorite type of reading to do because it helps people understand where they are and where they need to focus on to keep going. Very helpful.

 

3. Intuitive Readings – this option is for people who have specific questions they would like answers to.

Why: Sometimes people feel stuck or confused into which direction to move into. This reading can help by bringing answers from the spiritual realms to provide guidance in next steps.

How: Usually I use tarot cards along with divination tools to help me gain these answers for people. I can see the past, the present and the future in these types of readings and I usually communicate with the higher consciousness of the person or their spirit guides for the answers. Most times when I bring answers, the client already knows the answer so it brings great relief and validation for their next steps.

Doing readings bring me joy because it allows me to truly help people from a spiritual place when they are feeling less than positive or happy. I love to see people happy and thriving so when they leave a reading happy, it makes me happy.

Sometimes I get people who are unhappy with the reading because the messages are not what they want to hear. This usually happens in cases of love readings because due to my ethics, I do not read another person aside from the client without their permission. You would be surprised how many nosey mothers or possessive girlfriends need this! When I refuse to do it, they can get mad or vengeful but I keep my stance because ethically it is wrong to do.

When someone comes to me for a relationship reading, I let them know that I cannot read the person without their permission but I can ask Spirit what advice they would like to give you. Most times people understand and are happy with that and it tends to work out well.

Readings can be helpful if you work with someone who has experience and integrity in this field.

If you have never had a reading, here is my advice for you when booking one.

  1. Find a reader to give you the session you desire. If you want a mediumship reading, find a medium. If you want a spiritual assessment, find a spiritual advisor and if you want an intuitive reading, find a psychic.

2. Whichever reader you go with, experience is preferred. Don’t be shy to ask your reader about their experience and demand for facts not generalities. When people check me out, I can easily tell them I have been doing this for 11 years and have provided over 10,000 private sessions in healing and readings. I also teach tarot workshops and host three mentorship development programs annually.

3. Do your research and check them out on social media. You can pick up on the tone and energy of a reader by what they post and see if it is in alignment with your energy and beliefs.

4. And finally, find someone you are magnetically pulled to. There are just some people you feel good around and that helps. When you feel comfortable with someone, you will trust them more and the reading will flow easily. Remember it is all based on energy and intent so starting with someone you like is a sure fire way to find your way to a great experience.

I hope you liked this article and if so, please feel free to leave a comment! I look forward to meeting you or reading for you sometime in the future. Until then, many blessings for a peaceful life. xo Uma

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Uma Alexandra Beepat is the owner of the Lotus and the Light Metaphysical Center in Manassas, VA.

Uma is a Psychic Medium, Soul Alignment Coach and Spiritual Teacher and Mentor. Uma wrote the Awakened Life and is a retreat facilitator for the New Year New You Retreat in January and Living the Awakened Life Retreat in October.

To find out more about Uma visit http://www.thelotusandthelight.com

Mercury Retrograde in Pisces

We are in the middle of a mercury retrograde, the first one of three this year, and I have to say, it hasn’t been quite bad! I have been enjoying it more than I usually do and my upsets seem to be related to technology only. Whew!

Definitely a treat compared to when Mercury was retrograde in Aries last year. Much different energy!

Today we will talk about what mercury retrograde in Pisces means and how to safely navigate out of one. This current retrograde period ends on March 28th and we have a little room to breathe before we are hit with three more planetary retrogrades in April.

If you have never heard of Mercury retrograde or understand the issues that tend to arise during this period, read all about it here.

Mercury Retrograde in Pisces brings about a conundrum of sorts. Mercury is at home in the signs of Gemini and Virgo. Virgoan and Gemini interest is in the details and well, that wouldn’t work in the watery sign of Pisces.

In Pisces, there is a need to take a wider, more expansive, mystical view of life. Most people do not like change, so if you tend to be rigid in thinking or controlling in thought, this can be a very challenging time for you. Expect things to shift to create chaos to get you to uncling from these hard and fast beliefs. Going with the flow is so necessary now and being able to change at a moment’s notice will make it easier.

I myself have had to reroute regularly, sometimes even hourly! But this is the beauty of learning about life outside of our viewpoint. In learning about retrogrades and especially this one in Pisces, it has helped me keep an open mind and see change as fantastic and not something to be feared.

Indeed I am an Earth sign and have a couple of signs in my chart that are mutable (non fixed) so going with the flow is easy for me. There are some signs that are definitely impacted more than most this season and they are:

Signs Mostly Affected this Pisces Season:

  1. Water Signs-Pisces, Cancer and Scorpio

As a water sign, you already know how to swim effortlessly through change so keep at it! Allow yourself to expand, redirect, change directions and take risks. Others may not support you or even doubt you but don’t let them! You are in swimming season, so keep your positivity up and watch some amazing things happen this retrograde season!

  1. Fire Signs- Aries, Leo and Sagittarius

Cool down fire sign! You may be struggling this season because there is an innate tendency in fire signs to want to WIN no matter what the cost. In this retrograde season you can expect to see your important relationships challenged. It can be home, personal, business or in the community. Before you make sudden and drastic decisions (impulsive much?), take a breath, CALM DOWN and wait this season out. If you don’t take this time out, you can create much damage that may not be repaired.

Tips to Flow during this Season:

No matter what sign you are, for the remainder of the retrograde season, do these three things or place some importance on them:

  1. Allow yourself to daydream

You are having a hard time with a project at work. Instead of contemplating the solution with what you have available (may not be much), imagine a different outcome if you lived in a “perfect world” and you had every resource available to you.

This kind of daydreaming is what Pisces energy is built on! Allow your mindset to drift and imagine bigger and better things than you currently have. You may be surprised to see some of your outlandish dreams coming true or heading in that direction!

2. Self Care focus and take breaks

Many of us have noticed with the advent of this retrograde period, we just couldn’t seem to get out of bed. Ohhhhh the energy drain! As much as we are SUPPOSED to take care of ourselves all of the time, it is especially crucial during a retrograde season.

I am pretty good about taking my daily multivitamins and probiotics but come retrograde time, I am fanatical about taking them every day! I also tend to go to bed earlier, have more nap times during the day and be willing to be break commitments to honor my energy.

Work at the pace that you can comfortably. A retrograde doesn’t last forever! With the incoming new moon in April, you can expect to get that drive back and have interest in all the things prompt and fast moving!

3. Hold space for others and/or limit social time 

Many people do not follow astrology or pay attention to these deeply impactful planetary movements. Forgive them anyway. ūüôā

The beauty of knowledge is that it becomes wisdom when shared or experienced. This information you learn, is not meant to be storehoused in a corner of your brain until you die! No, no, no! You learn, you grow and you expand…..this in turn helps you to help other people.

Maybe no one wants to listen to you go on and on about planets. Cool. When THEY start getting irritated or frustrated, don’t judge them or make fun of them, take a higher approach and hold space for them.

Also, it is ok and perfectly normal to pull away from people in general when you are in a retrograde period. It is a time of deep introspection so if you feel to curl up in your home and spend some time by yourself, have at it! Build your energy for the times you do feel social.

Tips to leaving a Retrograde Period: 

As we come to the end of mercury retrograde in Pisces on March 28th, here are some realistic expectations you can do to make it comfortable:

  • Be aware. Whatever you started in a retrograde period CAN end as life returns to normal. This is why it is suggested not to start a relationship in a retrograde peiod. If you did start something, then allow yourself to be flexible and ready for adjustments. It may not end, it can change in some other aspect. Whatever happens, be open and accepting of what comes your way.

 

  • I don’t know why but it seems like the end of the retrograde period tends to be the toughest! I can sail through a season easily until its last two days and then all hell breaks loose! Because of this happening frequently, I have learned to slow down and create space in between my TO DO list of things. When a planet ends its retrograde, the energy can be supercharged, so we can all be a little frazzled and exhausted anyway, and need the extra time to rest so we‚Äôre not completely burned out. Once the retrograde is over, work on replenishing your energy. Rest.

 

  • Pay attention to what areas are ruled by the house the planet retrogrades in (in this case Pisces) as they tend to get the brunt of the problems during the retrograde. Start to make plans for how you can right whatever went wrong, and get everything back to normal (or better than normal) soon after the retrograde ends.

 

So as we journey through this water sign, take your time, relax and breathe. You got this, sometimes you may forget but I am here to remind you, all the power lies within you! Now that you are armed with this knowledge, go forth and blossom!

xo Uma

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Uma Alexandra Beepat is an intuitive consultant, spiritual teacher and owner of Lotus Wellness Center in Northern VA.

To learn more about Uma, visit http://www.umalotusflower.com

 

What does it mean to be Spiritual?

I had a friend who was a bit of a cynic (well he still is) and he said one time to me, “You gotta love the Spiritual people. It’s pretty much a bunch of lame-Os who are too lazy for religion and too scared to be atheist.”

After I had a good belly laugh about it for oh say two hours, I had to stop and think about it….I mean it had some truth to it, didn’t it?

I spent the next few days testing out his theory by asking innocent bystanders (ok my clients and students at Lotus), if they were religious or spiritual and what did that mean to them.

I received interesting feedback with the majority of answers corroborating his theory. Most people don’t know or have an explainable idea of what it means.

The most popular answer I got was, “Well I am definitely not religious, I would say I am more Spiritual because I believe in a God or the Universe.”

Me: “Ok do you have a set practice as a Spiritual person?”

Them: “No not really, it’s what I feel like really. Some days I meditate, some days I go to the yoga class at my gym and some days I eat cheetos on the couch. It’s all about balance!”

Me: “Uh huh got it. But is there something specific you do that can identify you with other Spiritual people?”

Them: “Well I do wear mala beads and most Spiritual people wear mala beads. It’s a sign of our Spirituality.”

Me: “Do you know how to use a mala bead?”

Them: “There’s a use for them?!”

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Trust me when I say she is a sweetheart. A bumbling sweetheart but sweet nevertheless.

I had a bit of shell shock and identity crisis as I realized I was probably seen this way as well! I mean I own a Wellness Center and Massage School and wear mala beads! OMG am I a Spiritually Unevolved person? Is that how the world sees me?

Cue *dramatic fall to the floor with hand covering my eyes*

Back then I took a whole lotta offense to what my friend said, to the answers I got back and to somehow me being lumped in this category. I decided then and there that I needed to have a firm answer on what being Spiritual meant for me and to me so if anyone asked, I would be better prepared to answer.

I came up with 3 reasons why I am Spiritual and I am sharing it here in case it resonates with you. Feel free to use them! I have no rights over these ideas, and hey maybe if we were all well-equipped with answers, the rest of the world will take us seriously, have a green tea and calm the f**k down. Here we go:

  1. I believe in All the Religions

In my younger years (ages 9-28) I studied most of the major religions. I read the Bible front to back (twice), Koran, Bhagavad Gita, Yoga Sutras and the Tao. What I found was similarities amongst them all. More similarities than differences. Later on in my 30s, I found Wiccan and Paganism and noticed similarity in dates to Christian important holidays (Christmas and Easter) and similar symbolism.

As I matured, I realized I didn’t feel comfortable owning a title. You could call me Christian because I liked to go to Church (still do occasionally). You could call me Hindu because I practice yoga and meditation daily. You could call me Muslim because I enjoy fasting during the Ramadan season. You could call me Pagan because I have a deep love of earth rituals and Mother Nature.¬†If I identified with one religion, I would neglect the other spiritual practices I employed.

2. I am more concerned with my Purpose than my Needs

Now this is in no way a jab to anyone, it is a revelation unto myself. I grew up in a typical family with two siblings and parents who were striving for better things. We all do. My family like everyone else wanted a better future. My family unlike some families came from humble beginnings in a third world country.

Somewhere along the way, i got sidetracked, bamboozled, led astray by the sirene call of the Spiritual realm to seek my path and purpose in life specific to me. I didn’t want to exist on the earthly realm anymore for pain and pleasure, I wanted significance in finding a way to make a living that contributed to the wellbeing of others. I opened a Wellness Center and then later a Massage School before personally venturing out to speak, teach and write on what I know. The call of the Divine to help, uplift and inspire others was a deeper call than the need for public fame, fortune and membership in the right clubs and societal groups.

When I refer to myself as Spiritual, I refer to this need, this desire to find out my purpose in life and live it accordingly. Again I will stress the importance of recognizing that it is a focus on what I do want and not what I am moving away from. Many of my loved ones still pursue a materialistic life and you know what? I love them immensely and have no judgment. Being Spiritual for me in this aspect is about learning to understand me and why I am here, not about judging someone else’s path or story.

3) The CIA is everywhere

Living the Spiritual life means coming from a place of CIA all the time everytime. What is the CIA?

C-Compassion

I-Intent

A-Awareness

It is so easy to get caught up in the drama and trauma of life, to take things personally, to get easily offended, to make judgments and to develop this us vs. them mentality. I didn’t want that anymore. I did it for a large part of my life, and it brought nothing but dissatisfaction, hurt and envy to my life. My anger raged and this fire consumed me all the time. I wanted out and I got it when I started living with a CIA perspective.

Compassion teaches me to see things from someone else’s perspective, to continue to love them where they are and to hold space instead of react when things aren’t going right.

Intent teaches me to have intention before I DO ANYTHING! Whether I am about to eat food, cross the sidewalk, take a drive or speak to a class, I remind myself of my reasons for doing so and maintain intent in the transactions.

Awareness teaches me to continuously watch, observe, monitor and eventually self-correct on my behaviors if they are out of alignment with my path and purpose, if they are hurtful to others or if they could be done better. This last one is a doozy. I have time and time again reached out to people I have wronged and apologized. Sometimes it is accepted and sometimes I am the receiver of a verbal lashing out. It is hard work to admit you are wrong and even harder to be penalized for it, but yet my awareness will not let me off the hook. Into the darkness I  must go to apologize, yes for them but mostly for me. I need to be better, do better and live better everyday within my conscience.

There is one more big reason why I call myself Spiritual instead of a follower of a particular religion or an atheist. In realizing it, I guess in the end, I have alot in common with the bumbling sweetheart from earlier who couldn’t put it in words what she knew in her heart to be true. In the end, I am like her Spiritual because I¬†Believe.¬†

I believe in a Higher Power, God Consciousness or The Universe.

I believe we are Souls having a Human Experience. 

I believe in the sanctity of Life, the harmony of man and the peace of a utopian society. 

Hmm, sounds like the decree of a new religion, possibly Umaism?

Nah. I think all of the religions currently existing got this Belief thing covered.

I rather say I am Spiritual, live a decent life, don’t worry what others are doing and focus on how I can be of contribution to society.

Wear your Spiritual badge proud and loud. Let’s all share our love of all things Spiritual with pride

uab-web-5Uma is the owner of Lotus Wellness Center and Lotus Signature Massage School in VA. To learn more about this crazy Spiritual chic, check out http://www.umalotusflower.com

The Dawn of the Dragon Era

 

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I first met my dragon in 2015. I remember it because I awoke one morning and “saw” a purple and green dragon lying on my roof. I knew it was female and she acknowledged me very sleepily by half opening one eye to look at me and then promptly going back to sleep.

I thought I was losing my shit.

I told my boyfriend about it, expecting him to laugh me all the way to the asylum but he just shrugged and said, “Oh that’s cool. I have one too.” and began to describe how his dragon protects his home, his children and keeps him safe.

What the what?

At first I thought the dragon on top of my house was possibly his and maybe she came to stay with me now that we were dating? Kind of like a bodyguard if you will?

As the months wore on and she wasn’t moving, I began to realize that she was mine. She wasn’t sent to me by my boyfriend,¬†she came to me because of my ascension.¬†

See at this time I was doing a-lot of inner spiritual work and self-healing. I was clearing MOUNDS OF CRAP from previous lifetimes, my early childhood and the mini disasters picked up along the road of life. I was in pretty deep.

The clearings got rid of my clutter yes, but it also invited in my Twin Flame and now my Dragon.

Fast forward to 2018.

I have seen my green and purple Dragoness from time to time but we never had illustrious, long winded conversations. In fact, she was pretty easy to get along with. I know from past life regression, I have BEEN a dragon in a previous lifetime (my friends might argue I still am) and so having a dragon roommate was not too unpredictable. We like our own company, we keep to ourselves and the only time we really rally together is when my anger is incited by injustices done to myself or others. Oh then she comes out in her full glory.

I haven’t really thought much about her or me or our connection until this year. It seems, this year 2018 is the year of the dragons re-emerging back into the Earth space and while that is all fine and good……for me, I need to know¬†what does it all mean?

My first inclination that the Dragon era was re-emerging came from social media as several of my friends started talking about dragons and falling in love with the dragon power. That didn’t alert me too much, I have seen cycles come and go as people find information and pour over its newness to them while the novelty wore off on me years prior.

It was my second inclination that did me in. It came from my 11 year old son Joshua and his dreams.

See Joshua and I play this game every morning where he comes in to my bedroom to hug me and I ask him, “Joshua what did you dream?” Oh boy he has the best dreams! Whether it is in actuality a dream or a fantasy, it doesn’t phase me because I like to hear where his mind has been or where it is going.

Recently, he came into my room and after our hugs, I asked him, “Joshua what did you dream?” And what came back, I was not prepared for.

“Oh mommy it was wonderful, I went to the dragon land!”

“The dragon land?”

“Yes the land where the dragons live and guess what? A yellow dragon came to me! He is young like me and he said it is time for him to come with me and work with me. So I asked him, where is your mommy? He said she is over there and mommy you wouldn’t believe it, she was beautiful and green and purple! The dragon kid said his mommy works with you mommy and she is with you all the time and now its time for him to be with me.”

If you could see my face, it was drained of all color. My son, who I never had a conversation with about dragons, correctly identified the colors of my dragoness and now has his very own dragon.

When we visited LilyDale a couple of weeks ago, BOTH my sons were in the gift shop admiring the dragon figurines. Nathan liked the red dragon and Joshua of course liked the yellow/gold dragon.

SO…..interesting right? And that is what I chalked it up to….interesting and didn’t think to write about it or address it until today.

Today I received the third inclination and within it, is a message for us all.

See every day I do a reading for myself before going on LIVE YouTube¬†to do the daily reading. Today I decided to do a reading using the dragon deck I have. I didn’t really have a question, more so a request for advice from the Dragon Realm about what is going on with me. I recently came out of a self-imposed hermit mode I placed on myself for the past three months and now that the clouds were clearing, I wanted to know,¬†what was that all about?

I expected to have one card jump out but instead, there were six. Immediately I received clarity and guidance about the past few months of my life, the present and where I am suppose to go in the future.

I am sharing my personal spread with you, because I feel the Dragons will start to call on everyone in a matter of moments, and if this is true, then be prepared. They come with requests a little bigger than your dreams and they are about to shake things up!

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STOP READING AND LOOK AT THE DRAGONS!!!!!!

WHICH ONE CALLS TO YOU?

This blog entry is about to become interactive!

So this third inclination is what blew my mind. See for the past few months I have been doing color therapy and healing on myself and a few of my clients. In color therapy, Spirit picks a color for me for the month and I wear it or visualize using it in healing. In August I had purple, September was Orange, October was Tangerine and November was Amber. The last three months I had different variations of orange….so the first card that flew out of the deck of course came from the orange dragon.

After you have picked a dragon or two that seems to “call” to you, read on below and see what their hidden message is for you as it was for me xo.

Orange Dragon’s message:¬†

Fifth dimensional orange dragons emit flames of joy, warmth and acceptance. They come to us when our orange Naval chakra is open as this indicates that we are ready to spread joy and oneness. As the world moves towards the new Golden age, soul families are drawing together. Orange dragon help like people up so that they recognize each other and enjoy a sense of belonging. They bring fifth dimensional communities together, communities where people cooperate, and and help each other and practice harmony and oneness.Many of us need to work with them to bring this about. The guidance here is to look for the divine light in everyoneAnd look for the bonds that link you.The orange dragons will help you to spread their light of warped, welcome and acceptance to all people. Let that light shine through you.You will feel a sense of belonging and oneness in your heart will open.This will help you develop your abilities of higher manifestation.

When you visualize the peoples and animals of the world coming together in harmony and acceptance, the orange dragons will flood your vision with their light. Archangel Metatron himself will then take it to energize the plan for Earth. So hold the highest vision for the Golden Age that is being prepared and do your part to bring your community and the world into spiritual accord.This is a message of higher peace.

  • ¬†This message was right on time. I started forming new friendships around September that seem more in alignment with my higher goal and purpose of love and unity. I felt free and I felt loved, more so than I ever have and I wanted to share that love with everyone around me. I unfortunately have had the sad experience of attracting people to me that took from me but had no interest in contributing to me as well. Since the arrival of the Orange dragon, I have attracted many people who contribute to my happiness on the daily, and in turn, I am too happy to give to them as well.¬†Well played Orange Dragon, well played!

Earth and Fire Dragon’s message:

The fourth dimensional Earth and fire dragons are calling on us now to help them clear and light up the new Ley lines of our beautiful planet. The original ley lines were called Dragon lines for they were maintained by the dragons of old. Now a new fifth dimensional Ley line system is being placed into the earth to carry golden Christ energy and prepare the planet for the new Golden age. The dragons of earth and fire move through these lines, creating a path of light through which the higher love frequencies can flow.

Humbly in both these dragons and have a sense of the power of the flaming orange fire combined with the grounding brown earth. Reach out a hand to touch the dragons. Then visualize earth being crisscrossed with lines of gold light. Picture these dragons anchoring this golden Christ energy where ever there are sacred places on the globe. Mentally place a golden flame at each of the sacred portals until you sense our planet lighting up. When ever you are out walking or driving, ask the earth and fire Dragons to travel along the ley lines below you. Bring the Christ light down through you so that they can distribute it where ever it is most needed. When you give, you receive. The earth and fire dragonsWill illuminate the challenges on your route aheadAnd as soon as you have acknowledge them, they will dissolve them. This will smooth your path.It will also allow you to step lightly into your role as a master as a new Golden age approaches.

  • So excited about these dragons as this literally happened from September-November! I had a series of mishaps that could have affected my health, my business and my car! But somehow as quickly as they came up, they dissolved and the only suffering I experienced was delays or changes to my schedule. Thank you Earth and Fire dragons for keeping me safe and sane!

 

Orange-Gold Dragon’s Message:

Arcturus is one of the most advanced star systems in this galaxy and a prototype of earth’s future. Seventh dimensional orange gold dragons come to us when we are ready to become a walking master and help to usher in the new Golden age. When a spiritual army of these dragons moves to a place, They stimulate great evolutionary change in all that they touch.They are flowing into Earth now to help us during the exciting years ahead.

It is not by chance you have incarnated during this extraordinary twenty-year period When our planet is undergoing double dimensional shift. Earth needs spiritual leaders and light bearers. These dragons are blazing their light towards you, for it holds the vision of our fifth dimensional future. They are inspiring you to do your part for the new Golden age on earth.

Receiving this card indicates that it is time to stand in your power and fulfill your destiny. Allow the dragons to enter your energy and breathe into you the vision of earth as it will be. They will give you the strength, wisdom and knowledge that you will need for the transformation ahead. You have much to do and many people to help, and a beautiful seventh dimension orange gold dragon will stay by your side as long as you need it. Be a guiding beacon of light for many.

  • Now this dragon brought interesting energy with it. As I was up leveling, I remember feeling a sense of isolation and loneliness. I felt the world was too consumed with social media popularity, expensive things and living lifestyles that did not reflect our true nature. I didn’t feel moved to speak out about it so instead, I cowered. On my couch by myself and lamented the state of affairs that have us pushing, shoving to get ahead and not caring for each other or looking out for each other’s best interest. Even when I was getting bookings to work with clients, I was just in this state of analysis that prevented me from responding. Instead I referred out to my team, to my partner or to other healers in the community. I didn’t want to entertain the societal desire to be a part of something that was false or untrue. I was losing hope in humanity as it is.

 

  • In time the energy cleared and I am happy to say I am now more lively (thank Goodness) and back to my usual cheery, optimistic self. What this dragon taught me is that yes there is that need for attention and popularity out there, but to look past the glitz and the glam of self worship and instead draw attention to the little girl or boy in that person who is only asking for love and support. I learned to go into the deep, dark places with this dragon but yet, how not to be consumed by it.

 

Dark Blue Dragon’s Message:

These dragons shimmer with golden sparkles of cosmic wisdom for they harness the light of the stars, planets and constellations. When we are ready, they touch us with this light enabling us to embody the illumined energy and wisdom they contain.

While many of us are now able to attune to the ninth dimension, it is still an awesome light filled with joy, love and wisdom beyond our current comprehension. Dark blue galactic dragons can send bursts of this cosmic searchlight through us to ignite the hidden codes of our master blueprint, the seventh dimensional light of our soul, so that we can listen to the voice of the universe. Remember our soul must be at least seventh dimensional for us to receive permission to incarnate on Earth.

This dragon invites you to communicate with the masters of the Universe, the Intergalactic Council where you can contribute your energy for the smooth ascension of the planet. It is time to listen and serve.

Ask the wondrous dragon who has come to you, to tune you in to the Intergalatic Council where you will be offered the honor of petitioning the council. Decide whether your petition is for the welfare of animals or humanity or to assist the ascension of the planet. Then ask the dragon to take you to the council to present your petition.

Dark blue Galatic dragons will also instruct you during meditation or sleep. This will enable you to serve in a galactic capacity and will hugely expand your energy fields.

  • One of the few things I have said these past few months was in secrecy to Rob, my partner. I said, “I don’t know what is going on, but I am having insights into most of the people we know and some that we barely know as well.” It was just flooding me! It didn’t matter what I did, a picture of the person would pop up and a narrative about what was happening in their lives. Later on, I would see validation on social media from their posts. It was wild and interesting at the time and now I have closure on it as I understand it was a time of the Dark Blue Galactic dragon working with me.

 

  • I have to say, that in working with this ninth dimension being, it hurt my head! I was having constant headaches and feeling nauseous most days. As I ascended so did my twin flame and he was experiencing a bout of pneumonia! Now I understand that we were clearing as we purged the past and became lighter to the ride of ninth dimension to communicate with these amazing beings. Rob was channeling too! He began to have visions of others and know on a deeper level what was troubling them before they reached out to him and validated it!

 

Silver Dragon’s Message:¬†

Fifth dimension shimmering silver dragons radiate divine feminine light and gentle qualities.They bring a harmlessness, love, peace, tranquility, balance, gentleness and calmness.If we are ready they surround our aura in a soft pure silver light that enables us to retain these divine feminine qualities. They also reflect our true self and highest potential back to us by coming to us and looking deep into our eyes. This enables us to see the essence of our soul and discover aspects of ourselves we did not know existed. We are reminded of our divine magnificence and may catch a glimpse of the mighty soul that belongs to us.

Your fifth dimensional soul blueprint contains the keys and codes of your gifts, talents, wisdom and power. Receiving the card suggests that it’s a time for some of this potential to be ignited and brought forward into your life. You’re ready to reveal yourself and be who you truly can be.

Sit quietly and see the shimmering silver Dragon who has come to you. Allow it to reflect back to you the hidden aspects of your soul and your higher possibilities.This may or may not be a conscious process but it will inspire you to express your essence and transform your life. Be ready to develop any gifts or qualities that the dragon draws to your attention. You may surprise yourself.

Omega White Dragon’s Message:

Ninth dimensional Omega dragons carry the Divine feminine vibrations of Shekinah, the universal energy that created our world. Shekinah is the feminine counterpart of Archangel Metatron’s Higher light and represent pure creative vision. These powerful beings are assisting the birth of higher consciousness on earth. Collectively they hold the vision for the new Golden age and this will enable us to achieve the intention set by Lady Gaia for the evolution of the planet.

These beautiful silver white dragons will also help us hold a personal vision for the highest good. Everywhere she starts with a thought that is translated into a picture.These dragons can see into our mind and will hold our vision with us.

When an Omega dragon comes to you, it is time to give birth to a special new project, pathway or aspect of yourself that has remained hidden. Call upon these dragons to fill you with the power of the Divine Feminine. This will enable you to hold your vision and bring it to fruition in a wise, balanced and harmonious way.

Most important of all, ask the Omega Dragon to look into the greatest desire of your soul and hold the vision of bringing it to Manifestation. These dragons can be any shape or size so just still your mind and give them permission to merge with your energy. Ask them to soften your path and the paths of all who hold the vision of the new Golden age.

  • Between the Silver and Omega dragons, I can see and feel their presences currently with me as I work to revamp my work and change direction in time for 2019. I have been toying with several ideas of massive expansions and now I see where the insight is coming from. Thanks Dragons! Yes it is time to ascend and be more vocal in the public. I have hung back awhile now, letting others direct and lead but as each of these six dragons have reminded me in the past three months,¬†there is no one quite like me and they can’t do it the way I can do it.¬†

The dragons have spoken and it is time to share the fruits of our time together with the world. Look out for it, it will be coming in soon!

As we come to the close of this blog, you either think I am a lunatic or you are quietly interested in what this is all about. Don’t second guess either way! Book me for a 15 minute reading and let’s see which dragon shows up for YOU. You never know what they might have to say or how they can make sense of what is happening to you in your life.

I know these six dragons who have been working with me for the past three months have explained A LOT of unanswered questions I had. Don’t hesitate, book your reading today and let’s see what shows up! I am as interested as you are!

Love and Light (and now Dragon power),

xo Uma

uab-web-31Uma Alexandra Beepat is the owner of Lotus Wellness Center and Lotus Signature Massage school in Manassas, VA. She is quite sane and intelligent! To learn more about Uma, visit http://www.umalotusflower.com

 

 

 

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Codependent or Healthy in Love?

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Relationships are a funny thing. We hear often that famous saying, “Can’t live with them, can’t live without them.” Isn’t that the truth?

Most times we say it in love and with laughter, but for some, this phrase is an actual statement into a deeper issue, one that supercedes fun, light and love. It’s about codependency.

What IS codependency? According to Wikipedia, codependency is the term used to describe¬†a dysfunctional relationship where one person supports or enables another person’s addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement.

Among the core characteristics of codependency, the most common theme is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity. Like whoa.

Aren’t we supposed to have our OWN identity in relationships?

While for most of us, we believe so, for some codependent people, the belief is that they are not complete until they are in a relationship and that person they are in love with, completes them.

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I mean who can forget that scene in the Jerry Maguire movie when he says those same words, “You complete me.”¬†

It sounds romantic and I am sure for some, it is a desire to hear these exact words but I urge you to STOP! It is another Hollywood scenario that sounds better on screen than in real life.

Remember 50 Shades of Grey? Very exciting movie and book, but think about it in real life. Think of it especially with a partner who may not be a milionaire and owns a hundred companies and looks like Christian Grey. Hey realistically most of us can’t or won’t attract that kind of guy into our lives in this lifetime (being real not pessimistic). Would it be as romantic if your guy lived on his friends’ couches and didn’t hold down a job? I thought so.

In life, we have to learn to discern what sounds more like a great fantasy or what can actually work in our life. Most times, romantic fantasies need to stay just there, in fantasy.

Here are three signs of a codependent relationship. If you notice some or all of these, hang tight. I got you. I will also talk about connections in love xo.

Signs of a Codependent Relationship:

1. Your Sense of Purpose is delayed as you tend to your partner’s needs¬†

When I was  younger, I was very  much caught up in a codependent relationship with a boyfriend. I was a rising star at my college and given many blessings to advance forward in my path, but truthfully, I cared more about how he felt than my future. I remember there was a leadership conference and each college in the NorthEast United States were allowed to send two representatives from their school. Of course I was selected to represent my school and guess what I did? I threw it away to spend the week with my boyfriend.

When you are in a codependent relationship, the other person seems more important than you. Their needs, their desires, their wants are catered to and yours barely are acknowledged.

To break out of this mold, (and yes you can) the power scales need to be balanced. Start by taking inventory of a month. Are you only doing activities your partner wants to do or are your needs met? If you notice a tipping of the scales in their direction, have a talk with them and let them know that this is an issue for you and you would like it to be more balanced in your relationship. Either they will agree with you or not, and then you get to decide how that goes. But for now, start with inventory. Take an honest look at your relationship and decide how it feels.

 In its broadest definition, a codependent is someone who cannot function from his or her innate self and whose thinking and behavior is instead organized around another person, or even a process, or substance.

2. You believe the other person is responsible for your happiness 

In the first sign mentioned above, it is expected that the scales are as balanced as they can be to make it an equal relationship. This balancing does NOT equal out to your partner catering to you to make you happy.

One time I was arguing with a boyfriend when I was 14. I remember this clearly because of what I said and his response.

Me: ” I am so unhappy! It is your responsibility to make me happy in this relationship!”

Him: “Well then we are screwed because it is not my job to make you happy, that is your job. My job is to focus on my happiness and together we create a happy relationship.”

Lord that boy was smart. Smart and right.

No one can make you happy. YOU know this! But yet, once we get in relationships, it seems like all logic goes out the window and for some of us, we turn into whiny little babies who need constant attention.

We start placing blame when things go wrong and never think to look at ourselves. Why is this?

Sometimes we place the heavy obligation of happiness on another’s shoulder because we don’t want to face the truth that the relationship is not meeting our needs. We may know that it is time to move on but fear of being alone or dying single, keeps us in place. Then when we stay, we become unhappy and place that blame on our partners’ shoulders.

Be the bigger person. If you are not happy in your relationship, leave. If you are not happy with yourself, get help. Whatever it is, do anything but blame your partner. Because you know what? If your partner truly is the source of your unhappiness, then go back to step 1 and leave. It really is that simple.

I believe some people feel if they complain about it, it will somehow magically change to what they want. This is not how the Law of Attraction works. In fact, the more you complain about a source of displeasure, the more of it you will attract. I have tried repeatedly to share this information with several people in my life and guess what happens? Absolutely nothing. They keep complaining, and they keep staying in the rut they are in. In life, you have to know when to help and when to walk away and for these individuals, I tend to walk away.

If you can’t create a happy life using the resources you were given or have attained in life, then no one else will do it for you. This is your burden to bear. Figure it out.¬†

3) You need to be around that person all the time 

When you are with them, you feel ALIVE and full of love and happiness. When you are away from them, you call/text/snapchat often. When you can’t reach them, you are dying on the inside. If you do have peace and quiet in your alone time, it is because you know they are at work or the dentist and can’t access their phone. You feel happy and content.

Sounds familiar?

Being alone is necessary. It is in our times of silence and solitude that we uncover the parts of ourselves that need the work or can do with some improvements. When you are around someone all the time, (and yes it can be the same person or different people), you are engaged in interactions. There is no time to reflect, meditate and do some self-analysis.

I think some people use people for constant companionship because they don’t want to have introspection! They know on a deeper level, there are some issues to sort out but don’t have the drive, interest or courage to do so.

I have met some highly functional and successful broken people and have been impressed! They have shrouded themselves in such a strong invisibility cloak, it would make Harry Potter jealous!

Try to factor in some alone time away from your partner. How does it feel?

If it brings up anxiety, stress or fears, then you are onto something. You may have hidden out in a codependent relationship for awhile but cleverly crafted it as, “We are a team” or “We do things together”.

No you are not. You were born into this world alone and you will go out alone. This precious partner of yours will not sacrifice their life to go with you at the end of your timeline. And more than likely, they will eventually move on and be with someone else until their end of time. This is natural because at the core of it, we each need to survive and thrive.

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Now that we have some signs of codependency, let’s look at some signs of a healthy relationship. For some of you, there is a possibility to change a codependent relationship to a healthy one so why not try now? Just because you have identified being in a codependent relationship, doesn’t mean you have to be stuck in it. Here are three signs of a healthy relationship:

1) You Respect each other’s Boundaries¬†

My partner loves riding his Harley and loves his dog. He will not tolerate anyone in his life that does not respect his need to ride and his time with his dog. I can tell you that I am not particularly interested in riding on the back of his motorcycle and I am not a pet owner or dog lover (I know shoot me). How do we make it work? We respect the boundaries.

I join him on his weekend bike rallies by either driving there with him or staying back so he can go with his friends who also love to ride. When we plan our schedules, we factor in time for him to go riding. I find something else to do. With his dog Silas, we include him in our plans and then we create events without him. We work together while respecting each other’s boundaries.¬†

When you truly listen to your partner, you are not listening to respond but rather to understand. What makes them tick? What sets them off? And what can you do in the process to respect their process while also respecting yours?

Boundaries are needed in relationships! It lets each person know the level of safety and comfort available based on needs. Once needs are respected, each partner can relax more into the relationship and develop deeper bonds.

Take a personal inventory of your own relationships now. Do you know your partner’s boundaries? Do you respect and uphold them? What can you do differently to show respect for what your partner requires?

When you respect your partner’s boundaries, you allow room for connection because they trust you. They trust that you will not hurt them, not by your words but by your actions. This means everything to a person. I know it does for me.

If you don’t know what your boundaries or your partner’s boundaries are, no problem! Start making a list! I like to make a page with three columns and write down all the things I want in a relationship, what I can compromise on and what I cannot or will¬† not tolerate. For example, I want a kind person in relationship, I can compromise on if they are a pet owner and I will not tolerate smokers. Once you make your list, ask your partner to do the same and it doesn’t matter if you have been together for 2 months or 20 years, start now in communicating! Boundaries can change over time as we age, so don’t be surprised if your partner says things that seem new to you. This is the process of connecting and if you stay with it, you will reach deeper levels of your relationship!

2) You have no problem saying NO to your partner

One time I was really into studying the ancient arts of tantric practice and I dragged my partner along with me. We were both in a room with our tantric teacher, me in a sarong and him in a sarong that barely covered his body. He looked delicious but uncomfortable! He went through the private session with me and loved it but he put his foot down and refused to go to a group class with nakedness where we talked about intimacy! He drew his line!

And you know what I did? I respected it. I didn’t push, beg, manipulate or anything of the sort. I agreed and found ways to continue my tantra study through books and online courses and then used the practices with him in the sanctity of our home.

In a relationship, you can say no. You don’t have to cosign to everything. Sometimes I see women doing the craziest things to please a man! Things they would never do but did it to keep his attention. Guess what happens? Invariably a breakup happens and those same women go bat s**t crazy! You know why right? Because they sacrificed their time, money and effort to be with him and they can’t for the life of themselves, figure out why he wouldn’t want to stay.

Say yes to the things that make you happy and interested to do. When my partner asks me to go visit his daughter in Myrtle Beach, hell yes please! When he asks me to go to a football game in the dead of winter, not so much.

You have to have a firm basis of stability in your relationship to be able to say no though. If you are insecure and unsure about yourself and the relationship, chances are you are going to keep saying yes to things even though you rather not. What happens is you will start to break down energetically and exhaustion sets in. You overextend yourself and you will feel it in the long run. Concerning your partner, you may shift blame to them for your tiredness or crankiness even though you were the one that said yes!

Save yourselves and your relationship this nightmare by just honoring where you are, what you need and what you can and cannot do. Trust me, they will love you for it and sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder.

3) You have a life outside of your relationship

When I do relationship coaching, I invariable start out with my clients drawing a pie chart and having them fill in each pie piece with what is needed for a well rounded life. Some write health, love, social, money, career, spirituality etc…. And then I have them color in the pie pieces on a scale from 1-10 with 1 meaning little to no effort and 10 as maxium effort.

For my codependent clients, most times the love piece is fully colored in and for the other parts there is a lot of blank paper!

Guess what happens to these same people who have break up? They absolutely crumble.

When you place all your worth, time and attention on any ONE of those pie pieces, your whole world can end if that piece is taken away. It is important to have a life outside of your relationship. Start by asking these questions:

  • Do I have a daily spiritual practice?
  • Do I spend enough time with my friends and social circle?
  • Do I work hard enough or too hard?
  • Do I take vacations?
  • Do I work out daily or weekly?
  • Do i spend enough time with my partner, too much or too little?

When you start asking these questions, you train yourself to see where your attention is. If you noticed in one week, you never meditated, worked out, made a home cooked meal and spent all your time at work….you can see how imbalanced a life is.

Create a life where you thrive in all areas of your life so if one unfortunately has to be removed, you can mourn in appropriation. It doesn’t consume you because there are so many other pieces that are working.

In the end, we all are pursuing happiness. If we attach this happiness to a relationship, we can create sadness by its departure.

Learn how to have healthy habits for the sake of your healthy body, positive mind and thriving soul. In return, your relationships in your life will blossom as you now have more to contribute to them than take from them. How wonderful that will be for everyone!

Until  next time, stay in the love and the light

xo Uma

Untitled design (9)Uma is an intuitive consultant, consciousness coach, published author, inspirational speaker and the owner of Lotus Wellness Center in Northern VA.

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I don’t do KnockOffs…

I am not a flashy person with nice, name brand things. It’s true! In fact, most of my name brand things come to me generously through my mom, dad and brothers who like the flashy things and every now and then on a birthday or Christmas occasion, like to get me one too.

When I do get the flashy things, I love it. I love it because it’s good quality stuff and the difference in the price DOES make a difference in the feel, durability, dependability and experience of the product.

When I was in college, I made do with Payless shoes and Walmart purses. I am not knocking them, hey they worked for me for a long time. But as I got older, I wanted more. I didn’t want my shoes to only last the summer or my purse to make it to a year and then shred on me. I wanted good, quality products that could last a bit longer so the turnaround on them would stretch. I am really not a shopper so I delay the process for as long as I can bear. If I am buying something, please Lord let it last my lifetime so I don’t have to go shopping.

At this point, some of you might have started to wonder if I am off my rocker. “Uma done did it now and lost her damn mind sitting her talking about shoes and purses.”

Or have I? (cue evil laugh and rubbing of hands together)

Maybe not. You know there is a purpose to this blog, so hang in there, I am getting there.

I am talking about quality versus quantity and real versus artificial because I feel the need to remind people that in life, if you take the quick route, you will eventually get what you paid for.

At my center I teach a variety of classes; some certification classes that follow the protocol of the parent company I am subscribed to and the rest Spirit Led. Spirit Led just means that Spirit woke me up (usually around 3am) and channeled a class to hold. I obediently follow through and it becomes one of the most amazing experiences myself and the students experience. It’s not made up, it is destined.¬†

As fun as my job is, there is the little quirks that pop up from time to time. In the beginning it was “nail on chalkboard” bearable but now, after so many years and so many times, its more like an annoying fly that buzzes too close to your pina colada on the beach. Shoo fly, don’t bother me!

One of these quirks is my observation of how many people that take a class or two in metaphysics and then become teachers in a turnaround faster than you can say, “Olly Olly Oxen Free!”

I remember working with a business coach awhile back and after assessing my center and what I do, she made the remark, “I have to give it to you-you create classes and teach and basically you are teaching your competition. Well isn’t that a doozy.” It is.

Now let’s be clear. I am not knocking anyone who has a life path and destiny to become a spiritual teacher or to own a wellness center similar to mine. In fact, there are many who created their businesses and have my stamp of approval with them because Spirit told me they would go far and do well as is their calling. I am only too happy to oblige.

But for the few, who do it for money, fame and recognition…. this is a post for you.¬†

Now some of you at this point might think I am being mean, shady or condescending. You have a right to your perspective but hear me out, and if you can stomach it, read through the rest of this blog before you make a firm decision that Uma is catty and immature. I am pretty sure you will have a different opinion by the end.

I am writing this blog in hopes it reaches the people who are doing these things and if it does, this is what I would like to say to them: “Stop it. You are doing more harm than good.”

Now why would I say that? Did I just pull it out from thin air? No.

Did Spirit tell me to say it to give people complexes? No.

Do I feel better or superior to others and feel the need to put people down? No.

I say it because if it is anything I can be known for in this lifetime, it is my integrity. I truly care about people. Most times people may think I don’t because I am not a warm, squishy kind of person but you know, my type of caring is not in that category. I am genuinely worried about people fulfilling their soul missions and making sure they are acting in authenticity and alignment with their purpose.

So with that being said, here are the reasons why a newbie student turned newbie teacher is not a good idea and why when you pay more or go with more, you get more:

  1. Newbie teachers break the cardinal rule.

Yes there is a cardinal rule of learning and this is how it goes: First you learn, then you DO and then you teach. Now depending on who you talk to, this can span months to years to decades. While I am a bit concerned about the timeline, I am more concerned with the concept.

My partner would laugh every time we took a class together. Immediately when we returned home, I would call up close friends or clients and offer them a session of what I just learned for free or at a discounted rate. My goal would be to get a set number of students in and practice the session. Usually by the end of the week, I have the protocol memorized and can do it easily without my manuals or handouts. This is the doing part of the protocol. Then after months or years of doing, I would feel confident to teach because I have seen all aspects (or alot) of the process and can handle situations as they arise.

I had one student learn a class from me in one month and then two months later she was offering the class AND at the cost I charged for the class. I was floored but I waited to see what Spirit would do. I knew this woman was not competent enough to teach this class, it was quite technical and had set procedures to follow. How could she possibly pull it off without even practicing it outside of the one session she did in class? I was worried and anxious thinking of her students who signed up and I prayed for them, that they would get alot out of the class and somehow it would all magically pull together to be a successful event. Well I didn’t even have to do that. Spirit ensured that class did not happen and as the days led up to it, one by one her students started dropping out. I was part relieved and also part sorry for her. I knew she needed that class for financial purposes but also my integrity said this was not right. Spirit agreed.

When you learn something, you need time to understand that thing. You need to sit with it, breathe it in, experiment with it and heck even fail at it. You have to mess up, try again and work it, work it, work it until you find your flow. Once you arrive at that point (however long it takes), you will know it’s time to teach it.

Usually I create classes because students ask me to create them. The way my process works is I get a message from Spirit to teach a class. I say, “That’s fine” but I need validation that this is meant to be and soon after that, the right people come my way to either collaborate or to be taught. That simple.

I became a past life regression therapist this way. I was working on a client, doing a regular reflexology session and as I was talking to my client, my voice naturally went into a hypnotic flow and my client went into a light trance. She started to recall a past life concerning an issue she was facing in her present day circumstances. There was alot of healing and tears that came from this process and I found it fascinating. I didn’t think about it anymore until months later when I was sailing on the river Seine in France and realized I was reading the book, “Many Lives many Masters” by the amazing Dr. Brian Weiss. I was being drawn to the path of past life regression and didn’t realize it. When I went home, I booked a class and got in to Dr. Weiss training program to become a past life therapist. It is still one of my favorite modalities to facilitate to this day.

I have never put up a class because someone else was offering it or to compete because the energy is wrong from the get go. And I have learned over the years of doing this, that if the energy and Spirit is not there, it is more work than necessary and shouldn’t be done. I have in fact CANCELED classes that had people in it! Why? Because the energy felt off and in acting in my integrity, I didn’t feel the students would get the same powerful delivery I could have delivered if I did it another time. As you can imagine this is frustrating to some but for those who know me and respect my process, they are relieved. Relieved to have a teacher who cares more about their experience than her bank account.

All this talk about money leads me to #2.

2. Newbie teachers are often in the grip of Ego not Spirit

I understand. There is no judgment here but a quiet request to really check in before you decide to offer this class you just learned. Are you sure you can pull it off? Will you do it justice? Will the student have a better experience with another teacher who has been doing it a lot longer than you? Do you have enough integrity to admit that?

When I teach Tuning Fork Therapy¬ģ, I RAVE about my teacher and the founder of the modality, Francine Milford. I WISH all my students could take it firsthand from her, the way I did. Francine is partly retired but comes out of retirement to teach from time to time (well at least for me!). I LOVE classes with her partly because its at her house in sunny FL and she makes me lunch too. ūüôā Mostly I love classes with Francine because she is so knowledgeable about everything and I always leave learning more than what I paid for.

I am proud to say that every teacher of Tuning Fork Therapy¬ģ in Northern Virginia came through me as I was the only person in this area taught personally by Francine Milford. I uphold this class to the highest respect because of that responsibility and also because students in my area cannot get a personal training from Francine unless they go to Florida to learn from her. So it is my responsibility I feel to give them as close an experience as I can to what she offers. It is nowhere near it of course! But still I try.

Francine sees my integrity in what I do and recently she gifted me 13 boxes sent by mail of over 225+ attunements and classes. Most of her life’s work, I now possess and my responsibility is to teach it to continue Francine’s legacy. As you can expect, I will take my time reviewing the classes and knowledge before offering it to students, because I want to make sure I teach it the way Francine would want me to teach it and to do the courses justice. It has to be right.

When I see Newbie teachers hustling to put up a class they just learned (and may not have been a good student at), I know they want the ROI quickly. I get it. When we spend money, we need to earn money but I believe there should be a pause button here somewhere and then a golden question to follow. A question like, “How does this work out for the student?”

DO you really feel you can deliver a wonderful experience and turn that student ON to the love of learning they are about to receive? Or will this be another failed class with let downs and disappointments?

Each class I offer, I prep for weeks and sometimes months before I actually step into a classroom. There is the outlining, storyboarding, mission planning, checks and balances, dry run through, emotional run through and spiritual run through before I even advertise the darned thing! And once it is advertised, there are more checks and balances, fielding Q&As and inventory before we get to class. Once in class, I hardly eat (or breathe) as I am so focused, tuned in, taped in and turned on to Spirit to deliver precisely what is needed for that group and by Spirit’s commands.

Newbie teacher are you prepared for all of that? Can you DO all of that? And lastly, are you interested in creating all of that?

One time I had a former client tell me they wanted to become a teacher. I knew this was a mistake. For one, my client was an extreme introvert so ummm….not sure how that would work.

I started to detail the work I did before, during and after class times and the amount of interpersonal communication required for EACH student and they backed down immediately!

“Oh heck no, I don’t want to talk to people that much! I don’t even like people!”

Bingo.

But you know how I saw that? Cause I am an experienced metaphysical teacher and highly intuitive person. I am trained to see what one cannot see at the present moment.

Usually when a Newbie teacher offers up a class, their drive is ROI, excitement, money, fame and/or significance. My advice is to take the time to learn what you know and trust that Spirit has your back. By rushing to put up an event you are not well trained in, you run the risk of messing up the class and not giving the student a pleasant experience.

There is no rush, no destination, only the journey. Trust the process. 

3. You get what you paid for

Sometimes I have potential clients call me for a session and when they realize my price, they would back out because “I am too expensive.” I once had a gentleman ask me, “Why would I pay you that rate for a session when I can go down the street and get it for ___(lesser amount)?”

I don’t even fight them on it. At that point, I agree with them and let them know that is a good deal and they should go there. Most times when I do that, I am met with silence on the phone. They didn’t expect me to say that and I guess they were hoping I would fight for their business. That’s not necessary.

Firstly, there are plenty of good, established healers in the area and I am sure if they go to someone else, they will get what they need. I have my clients, the people who want to see me and be seen by me. Other healers have theirs. We do not need to fight over this.

It is not my desire to work with everyone. I have no reason to. I made a call out to the Universe concerning the time of clients I want to see and so far, I have been getting my clientele. I am not hurting either. In the nearly ten years I have been working as an intuitive and healer, I have seen close to 10,000 clients. I know because I keep track of my sessions and I see roughly around 1,000 people/year.

My clientele come to me because they have been everywhere else and it is not working.

My clientele trust me to deliver the services they need and want with the highest integrity and passion I can bring.

My clientele do not fight me or question me on my services or prices because they implicitly trust that quality is more important to me than quantity as it is to them.

It is what makes me a genuine, real healer and teacher; not a knock off.

My reason for writing this blog is simple. I want you to know who I am and what I am about.

I love the work I do and it pains me to see charlatans degrade, abuse and villify my profession. Please people, let’s be more conscientious of what we are doing and how we are doing it.

The formula again: Learn. Do. Teach.

Some may say I made myself the whistle blower concerning this topic or the self appointed monitor. I am ok with those titles because we don’t have a regulating board of members or accreditation to our work. So someone has to say something and say it loud and clear. So I will.

You get what you pay for.

If you want quality, find the trusted, reliable, long standing healers/teachers in your community. It will cost you less in the long run.

My love and light with you until next time,

xo Uma

Untitled design (9)Uma Alexandra Beepat is an Intuitive Consultant, Metaphysical Teacher, Consciousness Coach and Published Author.

Uma owns Lotus Wellness Center and three other businesses in Northern Virginia.

For more information on Uma, visit http://www.umalotusflower.com

 

 

Why I walk the Spiritualist Path

I came to the path of Spiritualism in 2016 when I first stepped onto the holy grounds of the Arthur Findlay college in Stansted, UK. Ok it wasn’t holy, but it felt like that to me. Similiar to the Harry Potter movie where young witches and wizards got off the Hogwarts Express to Hogwarts, I too felt bedazzled by the huge castle, wintery grounds and sense of magic in the air. I was taken.

As I began my week long studies in mediumship, I learned too about the path of Spiritualism and quickly joined the SNU (Spiritual National Union) pledging my support whole heartedly.

Why?

Spiritualism is a religion separate from Christianity but, yet it tends to get grouped in with it. This happens because of the many similarities of the religions in act but differences in intent. It is these differences in intent that drew me in, and I hope after reading this article, it will draw you in too (at least intellectually :))

For an example in differences in intent, both Christianity and Spiritualism believe in a heaven and hell. Christianity believes people end up in either based on their deeds. Spiritualism believes that heaven and hell are not actual places but states of consciousness that souls go to based on the Law of Attraction.

As a Spiritualist grows, the learning of new knowledge is often at odds with their past learning. For this and other reasons, it is imperative to clearly express the beliefs and teachings of Modern Spiritualism.

The biggest difference (in my eyes) from Spiritualism and Christianity is that Christianity views man as flawed. We ‚Äúfell from grace‚ÄĚ and needed to atone for our sins. Spiritualism acknowledges the part of the Bible where God created man in his likeness and sees the soul as a divine spark of light. This religion acknowledges that man has free will, and each person has the right to be creative and responsible for themselves.

While both religions reference the Bible, there is a major difference here again. Christianity views the Bible as infallible and in Spiritualism, the bible is seen as fallible because even though it is inspired writing and came through the interpretation of men; which is prone to mistakes.

Christianity requires a belief in Jesus Christ as the only Savior and Son of God who can help us mortals gain salvation. In Spiritualism, Jesus is respected as a great Spiritual Teacher of the natural laws, to which Spiritualists subscribe. We are each responsible for our own salvation.

I like the path of Spiritualism because as a religion, its main focus is to raise the level of consciousness of humankind. This goal is in alignment with my goal and hence why I call myself a Spiritualist.

Spiritualism creates and encourages growth of one’s own individuality. Unlike other religions where we have to depend on someone else or something else for our salvation, Spiritualism makes us responsible for our own lives. I like that.  I spent many years as a Christian, and as much as I love the religion and rituals, I didn’t like the idea that a beautiful, compassionate, loving person like Jesus had to suffer and eventually die for my sins. That is the description of vicarious atonement and thankfully it has no place in Spiritualism.

One of the positive aspects of Spiritualism is to objectify life as a means for us spiritual beings to unfold physically, mentally and spiritually in a balanced state conducive to progression. It recognizes the divinity within each of us that we are not a body with a soul, but that we are souls with physical bodies.

From this viewpoint, we then get to see religion not as a static dogma or creed but flowing as a way of life. As we continue to understand the purpose and the continuity of this life beyond death, helps us to remove the fear of death.

I remember the days of old when I sat in church as a young child, and listened to the Priest go on and on about the hellfire, brimstone and horror that awaited my young, sinful flesh. No thank you! I am grateful that Spiritualism has taught me that death is not the cessation of life but a change of condition and continuation of our consciousness.

While most religions speak of the hereafter, only Spiritualism proves the existence of the hereafter through spirit communication and the phenomena of Spiritualism.  As a practicing evidential medium, it is as much awe for myself as it is for my clients when I bring through communication from their loved ones with details and specifics. I would be lying if I said each time I did it, I got less sensitized. I am always in amazement at what Spirit brings and just how much they prove the continuity of life after death.

Another great aspect of Spiritualism is the encouragement to seek further education to develop our spiritual talents. We are supported to learn and not dwell on lower energy such as anger and envy.

In ending, I will not judge another religion for people. For me, I came to the path of Spiritualism because I needed the positive messages, uplifting views on death and dying and encouragement in my spiritual development. Basically, I like how I feel on the Spiritualist path and because it has helped me so much, I have decided to share it with any and everyone who would like to hear about it. After all, as Ram Dass said quite eloquently: ‚ÄúWe are all walking each other home.‚ÄĚ Let‚Äôs get there peaceful, happy and content.

Love and Light until next time,

xo Uma

Uma Alexandra Beepat is an Intuitive Consultant, Psychic Medium and Spiritual Teacher in the Northern Virginia area where she owns Lotus Wellness Center and Lotus Signature Massage School. To find out more about Uma, visit http://www.umalotusflower.com

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The Sin of Loving Yourself

I love myself.

I really love myself.

I love myself so much that sometimes people get offended.

They get offended because in loving myself, I fail to love them as hard as I love myself.

That is a fact.

There is a large population of people who are looking and searching for the best answer to the age old question, “How do I love myself?”

I am sorry but I am not in that group of people.

I somehow seem to be lumped in with the narcissists and vain, the “uppity” and snooty crowd because I have never doubted my brilliance, my divinity or the Goddess who resides within me.

However, because I honor that divine Spark within me and think of myself in a glorious way, I have been called the above names before. It’s a catch isn’t it?

I don’t need classes or books to tell me how to overcome my shyness or connect with my Inner Goddess. I don’t need workshops to help lift me up. I am already there. But because I am already there, and don’t need help on how to get there, I am outcasted and ridiculed. I am either the anomaly or a fraud; however I am not the real deal in self love, because well, I don’t look like what self-love is meant to look like. I am TOO confident, TOO good with my boundaries and TOO self involved.¬†

In this blog, I am addressing a small, overlooked issue that remains (to this day) overlooked because it seems insensitive to talk about it when clearly there are other people (the majority) on the opposite end of the spectrum who do not face this issue.

What is the issue?

The issue is that we have created a world to be in constant need of something and to deny the existence of those who have no need of anything. Specifically in the issue of unconditional love. 

See, I love myself unconditionally. What does that mean to me?

It means that no matter what I do or say or think, I still love me. I love me in spite of my faults, my glories, my weaknesses and my strengths.

I understand me and I know me. I know that despite what is exhibited on the outside, or what people’s perceptions are of me, they don’t know me like i know me. That’s why someone else cannot tell me MY truth or what I meant by what I did. That is their perception and they are entitled to it.

I love myself so hard that even when people tell me their perceptions of me and say it like it is fact not opinion, I don’t correct them, get defensive, attack or withdraw. I have enough love within me, that I can listen to what they say and still hold space for them and their opinions of me without feeling the need to respond.

When someone loves themselves unconditionally, they are afforded a freedom to live in the moments they create without guilt or regret over past mistakes or anxiety and restlessness about the future. They are able to navigate through life easily because they are peace with it all. Loving yourself affords you a freedom to be happy; despite what other people feel or think about you. It’s worth the isolation if anything!

So in realizing my super power (loving myself and accepting myself regardless of what the world thinks of me), I decided to share some tips if I may with you. Whether you are already in self love with yourself or asking that question, “How do I love myself?”, from my humble opinion here are some ideas to start with:

  1. Recognize that you are complete and whole already

In my opinion, the first step to self-love is realizing that there is nothing to fix or wrong with you. You are already there. Think of buying a fixer-upper first home. What are the feelings there? Excitement to own a home? Check. Excitement to renovate and recreate the original model to what you want? Check. Excitement of all the possibilities that will come by this purchase? Check.

The idea is that you are that original canvas sent from the master architect himself. You get to create the mural you want on it! However if you start off by denying the existence of the original architect, or doubting his work, or picking at perceived flaws with the canvas….then you are off to a rough start!

A better idea is to accept what is your canvas, what the master Architect has sent to you and create your mural as you wish. No doubting, wishing for something different or being critical. Instead be in a place of acceptance and love for what IS there as opposed to what isn’t. Get my drift? Self-love is about acceptance that you are quite perfect and stunning as you are, with no need to change, mimic or be someone else.

2. Choose your cheerleading squad carefully

As I have said before, I don’t give much thought to what people think about me. I am living this life for myself and by my terms. That being said, I tend not to associate with too many people. My acquaintances circle is large and my inner circle is a few I can count on one hand. I like it that way.

I once heard that Oprah is particular about what she hears, to the point when a car service picks her up, they are instructed not to engage in chit chat and not to play music. She doesn’t want to listen to the wrong stuff.

What is the wrong stuff? Gossip, slander, cursing, derogatory remarks. All these sounds can mess with your vibe, your vision, your flow. The same thing with having friends who cannot support you or stay in low vibe behavior.

“Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events and small minds discuss people.”- Eleanor Roosevelt.¬†

I once had a friend tell me I changed friends as often as people changed underwear. Ok, she exaggerates but there is a kernel of truth in there. My truth is I can be the BEST of friends with people, but once it goes south for me, I am out!

Now some of you might think, “Oh Uma but that is such a lonely road!” Nope, nope, nope it is not. See I have friends since elementary school days that are healthy, positive, successful and thriving. They keep me entertained.

I have parents, siblings and a whole host of cousins and relatives that flood my life with positivity, happiness and joy. They keep me laughing.

I have an amazing partner who teaches me, learns from me and grows with me. He keeps me in love.

And finally, I have my kids who mentor me in the new ways of the new world from their perspective. They keep me inspired.

You can mourn the few you lost along the way or you can celebrate the hundreds who are still there, still positive and still rooting for you. Choose wisely!

3. Understand it is all just an opinion

One defining moment in my life is when I stood up to a bully a couple of years ago (yes I was an adult and bullied!). She was supposedly a friend in my life but her behavior and actions were anything but. She was always critical of me and my life and one day, I had enough and looked her square in the eye and said, “That sounds wonderful, but you know what? It is your opinion I should do it that way and I don’t want to do it that way because my opinion is to do it differently. Your Opinion is Valid BUT YOUR OPINION DOES NOT DEFINE MY REALITY.”

I think she was shook up by the yelling part but it was part frustration and part epiphany when I said it. It’s true! She had an opinion. It wasn’t God’s truth and she didn’t get divine wisdom from the heavens into my affairs. It was just her thought process based off of the way she does things and thinks about things. Its ok, but it’s not gold.

As you learn to see everyone as opinionated people, it helps you tremendously to ease off them and not take it too seriously what they say.

Even if their way saves you $2.34 or 4¬† minutes, who CARES? Is your aim to get to your grave on time and saving money? Of course not! Your aim is to live your life YOUR WAY and you get to choose whose opinion you take into consideration and whose you toss out with the trash. Either way, don’t feel guilty about it. Just do you.

I can keep writing on this topic because it is my cornerstone of my work. Living authentically, boldly and by my rules and my decisions is important. I hope that this blog touches at least someone in a positive way. What I really want to say to you, is that you are perfect just as you are, you are loved and you matter.

Love and Light until next time,

xo Uma

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Uma Alexandra Beepat is a Consciousness Speaker, Metaphysical Teacher, Intuitive Consultant and Psychic Mediumship Mentor. Uma owns four businesses, is a single mom to two pre-teen boys and lives life large!

To find out more about Uma, visit  http://www.umalotusflower.com

 

 

 

The True You overcomes the Lies of You

You know what’s beautiful about being in the spotlight? Being in the spotlight.

You know what’s horrible about being in the spotlight? Being in the spotlight.

One of the things I have had to deal with over the years, is people’s perceptions of me (usually wrong and false) and the “take backsies” of those false perceptions when they finally meet me.

“Don’t take this the wrong way, but I never liked you until I met you.”

“People say you are such an evil person but I get you! You are so raw and authentic!”

“I am glad I met you because from what I heard, I never thought I would like you.”

At first it use to really bother me. I mean really bother me that there was the idea of people being out there, meeting me and gasp, not liking me.

But as you get older, you get wiser and well honestly you care less so as these situations come up, they tend to rub me less and less. I am ok with it now.

I would like to say I am actually at the point where I can laugh at the silliness of it all. I can say that, because something recently happened concerning this and you know what I did? I laughed. Not an evil laugh as some might believe but a good ole hearty chuckle because I know what I know what I know and that knowing saves me a great deal of heartache and trauma drama.

Recently I had to do a reading for a client who came to me through a mutual acquaintance. This mutual acquaintance no longer approves of me and in fact is so disapproving of me, they tend to share their views about me publicly. So I know something was said about me to this prospective client.

I have to admit, I was kind of curious about this situation I was facing. Do I cancel the reading to stay in integrity to myself or do I go ahead and do this professional work and put my personal opinions to the side?  You betcha, I did the latter and took the client.

Frankly speaking, when it comes to the work I do, I maintain that I work for Spirit and I trust them enough to know that my personal views will not interfere with the reading I had to give. This person did not make me feel uncomfortable or have a threatening presence. I only knew that they were close friends with my former acquaintance and I was more concerned with them being able to receive this Spirit reading fully or having barriers up because of who was delivering the message.

I trusted Spirit though because with this person requesting a reading from me means only one thing to me. They needed my services and they were willing enough to put their personal opinions aside and trust me for this service. I was greatly appreciative and humbled. People can say what they want about me, but at the end of the day, I am a damn good Spirit communicator.¬†People can say what they want about you, but they can’t touch what you are damn good at.¬†

As I got ready to meet this person for the first time, I prayed and asked Spirit to be with us for this reading and for me to be the clear channel I know I can be. See the truth of the back story is that even though I have the foresight to see what happened and why it happened, I am a girl with feelings and my feelings got hurt with the past actions and how they played out. I can forgive but rarely do I forget. I can move on but I can remember.¬†You can be full of love and light and cautious. It’s definitely a thing.¬†

I was pleasantly surprised by my client. From the minute she sat down, she addressed the elephant in the room. “I want you to know that I don’t care what is being said about you, I can see your Spirit and it shines beautifully. You are real and you are wonderful and I love you already.” All barriers down, it was time to work.

And this brings me to the crux of this blog. People can SEE you. Not physically see you with their eyes (well of course they can) but see you with their Soul.

As we live these lives we have been given, we will choose to live it the way WE want to live it. This will understandably rub some people the wrong way as through their eyes, they feel they can advise you to do a better job of living your life. It all sounds silly here on screen but truthfully, this is the base of the matter. People want to tell you what to do based off of their perception. Forgive them anyway. 

As you rub people the wrong way, two things can happen.

  1. They move out of your life and move on to other things. They can either judge you for perceived failures or be a bigger person and realize that you are not in alignment with them, it’s not a right or a wrong, and move on peacefully.
  2. They can talk about you to whoever will listen because they really feel the need to justify their perceptions.

With the #1 kind of person, it is a relief. Relationships begin and they end. It is a natural part of life. When you meet someone who is mature enough to walk away and still think you are great….just not great for them….you have met a truly inspired being. I would like to think I am this kind of person because even though there have been many endings to relationships in my life (both romantically and platonically), I really still think each of those people are awesome in their right and wish them well.

With the #2 kind of person, it is a shame. I know it is natural to want to FEEL hurt by their actions but you cannot allow yourself to go down this rabbit hole. Their actions have less to do with you and more to do with their perception of you and how tightly they cling to it.

I don’t accept it when a client says, “I have no choice in the matter.” That is a straight and bold lie. We always have a choice and sometimes we make a choice out of laziness, necessity or lethargy. If a woman is in a bad relationship, she can leave. If she chooses to stay, she will tell you her reason from the get go. “I needed to stay for the kids” or “I don’t work, what will I do?” Still a choice.

When people leave your life, they have a choice to see what they want to see. They absolutely choose it when they see you as a negative person and then choose to share that with others.

Let’s be clear, I am not advocating to lie or hide truths from people; I am asking for a shift in perception.

Have people done me wrong? Absolutely.

Do I have a reason to drag someone’s name through the mud? Definitely.

Do I do it? No.

There is no point. Every relationship has ups and downs and when one is over for me, I tend to recall and reflect on the person’s high qualities and not their faults or mistakes. It is my choice.

I hope you make the same choice because I can personally tell you, it always work out in the end.¬† I have had several people come back into my life after a period of isolation and I can honestly say, I felt no guilt because I didn’t trash them while they were away. Some of these relationships came back for closure and some came back to be ignited. Life is a journey and we are constantly saying hello and goodbye while on it.

So if you are on the unfortunate end of the stick where people are talking badly about you, forgive them anyways. You know who you are, and you need to stand proud by that. People have a choice whether to believe what is being said about you or think for themselves. I think you will be pleasantly surprised by how many people do the second part.

I was so happy to read for this new person who will now become a regular client of mine, because she loved the session so much. She loved it so much that she went back to our mutual acquaintance and raved about it to her too! I love that Spirit has my back and you know what? Spirit has yours too.

Be you. Be flawless yet authentically you. Those that will love you will flock to you and those that don’t, don’t matter anyways. Find your tribe and live free.

xo Uma

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Uma Alexandra Beepat is the owner of Lotus Wellness Center in Manassas, VA where she teaches classes in spiritual development and provides intuitive consultation services. For more information visit http://www.umalotusflower.com

The Path of Least Resistance

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I listen to a lot of Abraham Hicks recordings on YouTube. I am a big fan of the Law of Attraction (LOA) and while there are many speakers on this topic, Esther Hicks just hits home with it for me.

It is not uncommon for me to include the requirement of listening to Hicks YouTube videos in my clients’ weekly homework. It is so helpful on so many levels. Many times my clients do not know who Abraham Hicks is, and well, if you are in this bracket, let me help a little.

Abraham is a group of beings not from this world who use Esther Hicks as a vessel to speak their messages. Esther acts like a channel by first relaxing and allowing the Beings who are collectively referred to as Abraham to speak through her. You can find hundreds of FREE YouTube videos on this phenomena like this one. The messages are always positive and filled with love and compassion for us earthly beings. I find myself soothed after listening to one of their fabulous channeled recordings.

 One of the teachings Abraham Hicks stresses about 80% of the time is taking the Path of Least Resistance. At first, I just liked hearing it and repeating it to myself because it sounded catchy. It made me sound smart and like I knew what I was talking about. However as I started delving deeper into the world of LOA, I kept bumping up against blocks while trying to manifest my goals in life. What the?!

I decided one day to really ponder on the concept. The Path of Least Resistance. What does that mean? Maybe some of you might get it right away but to this Capricorn, it sounded like Greek. I couldn’t understand. Until I did.

I had a situation come up with a friend that I could not avoid. I had a different point of view than this friend and unfortunately it was a strong difference in opinion. So strong that we could not continue on the same path because our points of views were so radically different.

It was at that point that I decided to try the Path of Least Resistance. I mean, I wasn’t about to change my mind, it felt right at the time for me to do what I was doing and for them, well they were just as stubborn about their view point as well. We were at an impass and only because of that, this stubborn Cappy decided to try a different route.

At first I just stopped resisting her. I would state my point clearly and then also clearly let her know I wasn’t going to change my mind so the ball is in her court as to what she wanted to do. Well, it would have been a good end to a movie if it just ended there, but of course it didn’t. It escalated and quickly.

This person who was so loving towards me turned harshly and took to social media to attack my personal life and my business. Ouch.

All of me wanted to fight back. To defend, to fight and mostly to win, but I kept remembering Abraham Hicks words, “You want to manifest your hearts desires? Take the Path of Least Resistance. What you resist, persists.”

So I didn’t do anything. I left it alone. I hurt silently in private and then put on a brave face when I went out in public and did the best to teach my classes and see my clients for services, but always with the burning, stinging words in my back. I felt less than, unappreciated and betrayed.

Eventually the former friend grew weary of attacking me and moved on to something or someone else, who knows because I was unfriended on FB which suited me well, because if it is one pet peeve of mine about Facebook is all the passive aggressive posts people put up. I mean just say what you mean and mean what you say already!

Well years passed and I all about forgot about this moment in history because like the LOA promised, things worked out in the end. My decision which I felt strongly about at the time panned out and my business grew by leaps and bounds, despite all the negative publicity (or maybe because of it) she brought to me. What was even more special was her reaching out to me after the fact and asking for us to have lunch and sit down and talk a bit. I was reluctant at first because I wasn’t sure who I was going to get but I trusted and went with best intentions.

It turned out to be a good lunch! She apologized for her behavior towards me and went into some personal details of what she was going through at the moment and how it just made me the punching bag. I was floored because of course, when you go through something like that, you tend to think its all your fault!

The thing that did change though was my reactions to these incidences. The Path of Least Resistance taught me several things which has helped me with my confidence, self-esteem and in maintaining my positivity:

1) You are a Shiny Mirror for others

Many times when people are REACTING to you, they are really reacting to some aspect within themselves they don’t like but are seeing quite clearly in you. I mean think about it. What could you possibly do that would be so devastating that they have to cut you out of their life? When you see people cut you out of their life or block you on Facebook, it is because they don’t want to SEE you…a.k.a they don’t want to SEE the parts of themselves reflected back.

SO if someone says you are bossy (true story), they are unhappy with the moments in their life when they are bossy and they feel bad about it. They want to change it but instead of analyzing their own behavior, they tend to look at what you are doing instead. It stings less. Didn’t Jesus say it best? Worry not about the speck in my eye but the log in your own?

What do you do then? You take the path of least resistance. You do nothing and let them act out. I have lived long enough to see people who made a great spectacle of themselves over MY actions or MY words, come back later in life and apologize. And you know what you do then? You stay humble and be in gratitude that they can accept responsibility for what they did because that speaks volumes to their character. The most enlightening beings will come back and apologize because they have no ego, they truly are concerned with their growth and making amends as they go along. Stand up people in my opinion.

2) Don’t Assume. It’s not Personal.

Even though the insults hurled at you may seem personal, it really isn’t. Hurt people hurt people and the harder the insults come at you, the more hurt they are in. I remember one time a looooooooong time ago when I was a young girl, full of emotion and passion, I had a screaming match with my boyfriend. I mean I was 16 and I was full of RAGE (God knows for what) and he was the one I was mad at so……..BLAST!

¬†It’s funny that I can’t remember all the details of this particular fight, it was so long ago but I will never forget how he reacted. He too was only 16, a boy really but so mature. He stood there for the longest time, silently and watched me; then when he found a break in my rampage, he just slowly walked towards me and hugged me. Well he timed that perfectly because I was so winded from all the yelling and screaming, I couldn’t do anything but collapse in his arms and cry. And he just held me. It was one of the most poignant and tender moments I have in this life that I like to reflect on. He would be a prime example of the Path of Least Resistance. He didn’t take it personally anything I said. He knew I was hurt and he knew I was lashing out and he was committed to hugging me and being there for me despite it all. Wow. Talk about a classy 16 year old!

If only we could all be that poised…..but actually, we can. I believe tolerance of other peoples’ actions or words is a muscle that needs to be built up. If you grew up in a home where kindness and virtue were extolled daily then you might have a weak tolerance muscle. If you grew up in a rougher neighborhood, you may have a strong tolerance muscle. But like anything else, you can build it.

NOW I am not saying just stick around and be a punching bag for other people. No way! You have to also have discernment about situations. If your partner is usually cool, calm and centered and one day they flip off and start dropping F bombs everywhere, you might want to take that opportunity to build your tolerance muscle. On the other hand, if the partner is constantly letting you down, hurting you emotionally or draining you, this is not the time ti build tolerance. It’s another muscle you need to work on and its called detachment.

 3) Focus your Energy Elsewhere

It takes a lot of energy to stay engaged with someone who dislikes you. It is exhausting running those mental processes of what you could,should and would have done in a different scenario. Stop. Haven’t you read #1 and #2? It’s never about you and it’s mostly their own issues they are addressing.

So that frees you up now…what will you do with your reclaimed energy? For me, whenever I am “under attack”, (remember this happens quite a few times a year, and I find the more popular¬†my center¬†grows, the more this happens on the regular), it is the perfect time to take a hiatus from social media. I would limit my social media time to just posting for my businesses and then be off as quickly as I got on. I would also increase my meditation time to tune out those pesky negative thoughts and stay in my vortex of happiness, peace and joy.

It becomes almost a game, where instead of playing to win, you are playing for peace. What can I do today to have the easiest and most peaceful day possible? You start to plan your route around people or things that can trigger you, and you know what? It works. You become so focused on your self happiness and ways to stay peaceful, that you almost forget there is someone out there who is unhappy with you. I heard a saying that I really loved that went something like this, “It doesn’t matter what other people think of me, it only matters what I think of myself.” Well I tend to think I am just the cat’s meow, so negativity be gone! There ain’t no place for you here!

 4) People will talk, let them.

I remember one time an ex-partner and I broke up romantically but remained friends. It’s not uncommon for me to do that, I mean, just because we didn’t work out romantically doesn’t mean I stopped liking or even loving the person, so why not stay friends? Well we were living in a small community at the time where everyone knew everyone. I remember he went to¬†an event and these two nosy older ladies straight up asked him about our love life in front of everyone. He was a classy guy and he handled it well. He was able to answer their questions to tell them what they needed to hear without betraying our connection.

I remember when he told me I was so enraged. I mean what business is it of theirs? What did our love life have to do with the event anyways? But I did as my partner suggested and let it go. At first I let it go more for him because he was such a stand up guy but then I saw the reason in it. It doesn’t matter what you do or don’t do…people will always have some opinion about it.

You have to learn to take the path of least resistance and walk away from the drama without engaging. What happens when you do engage? It gets worse. Because that’s what unhappy people want. A reason to feel alive, a reason to DO something, a reason to fight for something because they can’t or won’t fight for their own self improvement. Ouch. I know it sounds harsh but trust me, I have seen enough of these depressing people in my life, and they all have a common thread which is unhappiness within themselves.

Now when I see other people nosy about other peoples’ businesses, I instantly recognize the core issue. They feel unloved or unworthy within themselves and feel the need to put down someone else to feel a little better. There is no helping these people because unless they accept responsibility for what they do, it wouldn’t change; so why even bother? I have learned to let people have the last say…not because I can’t debate them, but I just don’t have the energy or interest to. That revelation brought me so much joy and peace, it made the path of least resistance more irresistible.

I am aware that for letting go or taking the path of least resistance is either an entirely new concept or something you have dabbled with. My advice? Take it slow, do what you can and be easy on yourself. In the beginning if the path of least resistance is just you focusing on your breathing to feel better, then do that. In time, it will build to bigger and bigger steps to the point, you are completely not engaging and it becomes second nature.

Now isn’t that a nice concept? To live your life independently of others and be free.¬†¬†What a beautiful world that would be if we all could. Until next time, stay in your Vortex and always be full of love and light,

xo Uma